I remember watching a program about people who are attractive or beautiful, and a former model was talking of her past experiences, she told viewers about the suicide rates, Cocaine addiction and other unwholsome activities, she remembered her father saying ‘it’s always the beatiful people who die first, and are unhappy, the uglyier people are happy etc’ Is this true? If so, why?
No, I am pretty damn sexy myself, and pretty happy as well…
Well here is the thing…
the more money you have, and the more you are in the celebrity culture, the easier it is to be self distructive…
i.e… you are always worried about looking perfect that you develope a disorder… you start to use harder drugs because everyone else is…
but don’t count out the ugly people… watch COPS… everyone on that show is a self distructive, ugly, hick using crack…
I know it’s a crude generalisation, but it was the best I could come up with…
It’s not so much being attractive and beautiful that makes them self-destructive as it is being an over achiever. You can’t get to that level of success without a lot of hard work, and a lot of people are willing to do whatever it takes to reach that level. A lot of times that creates unhappiness when the person feels he/she isn’t doing enough.
Or could it be that more of the “beautiful people” or fashion industry types get written about/on TV and the rest of us mortals just do ourselves in in relative obscurity?
That is something a parent of an ugly child will tell them to make them feel better about being ugly.
I KID I KID!
Ok I’m only half kidding. Oppressed people assume a moral superority over their opperssors. Yes, I feel beautiful people oppress the ugly. At least in a cultural / Madison Ave sort of way.
How many times have you heard this little chestnut
Oh yes, he is very rich but he is not happy
It’s the same sort of thing. Mostly models are very young and inexpeirenced with life and they get thrown in with drugs and booze and sex but unlike college where you may get kicked out of school if you indulge too much there is no controll.
I’d say that being judged on strickly superficial terms for your entire career/life would, after a while, lead people to have a less developed sense of self. Plus, lots of disposable income can lead to hard drug use, which can lead to more self-destructive behavior.
I think everyone has the “who am I, why am I here” crisis. People who have fought to believe they are worthy of love and life are more likely to get through that crisis positively.
Of course, if isn’t hard to have a strongly developed sense of self and be gorgeous. Lauren Hutton and Candace Bergen come to mind as models turned very cool chicks.
In some cases… not all…
ugly people also look at good looking people and do the same thing though…
the whole “don’t hate me because I am beautiful” thing is actually true… some people actually hate good looking people
I remember a model killed herself a few years ago after complaining that men only liked her because she was beautiful. It may be that humans crave a connection to others that goes beyond superficial attraction. It would be pretty frustrating to have everything you wanted and be one of the most good looking people in the world and still not be happy, I mean what would you do to help yourself? I guess you could do what Carre Otis did and finally start eating and living in the real world.