Also, I don’t think I’d do it myself, but I can see the real need to be close to her. She isn’t dead, but isn’t really here. How can someone who’s truly in love get over something like that?
I don’t really see it as rape if she would have said yes. If the wife would have no problem with this where is the harm?
That said, there is no way of knowing what the wife would have wanted of course. But this doesn’t strike me as rape. It strikes me as a pathetic situation where a man is alone and in need of closeness and is afraid to let go and break his vows.
Because if the woman’s name was Wisconsin, the state song would still be On Wisconsin?
Isn’t Wisconsin Dahmer’s home state. Wasn’t Gacy born there too? I’m from California, and for body counts we still have Juan Corona and a few others with numbers so high it makes me sick. Oh, and Manson, Ng and Lake, Rameriz, etc. Did I leave out O.J., Blake and Spector? Silly me.
…and this is why I’ve made it clear to The Boy that he is to ensure all life support measures are withdrawn if I should ever end up in an extended coma or vegetative state.
EWW.
IMHO if your spouse ceases to be able to function as a spouse (i.e. parenting, communicating with you, supporting you, acting as an independent agent with free will) the marriage is over.
You get to walk away, or you can stay as a carer, but the relationship dynamic has changed. Sex with your spouse is off the table.
Personally, I’d be less squicked with a prostitute, a large internet porn bill or a girlfriend on the side.
My living will is written.
No CPR longer than 10 minutes. No more than 5 shocks during CPR.
No artificial hydration, nutrition or ventilation longer than 28 days.
Just out of curiosity, how is this any different, legally, than having sex with someone you’re sleeping with. I’ve woken up a time or two to a hummer, and I don’t feel that constitutes rape, as there was an implied sexual understanding. Sure this man and his wife had that before she fell into the coma…
Fine, you’re right. It’s squicky.
Yeah, aside from the consent issue, this guy had to move her foley tube and probably her butt tube (whatever the fuck that thing’s called) to do the do.
Depends. If he gives her a peck on the cheek or the lips that’s one thing.
If I come in the room and he’s open mouth frenching her the guys got a problem.
I seem to recall an episode of ER where the husband in a persistent vegetative state due to an accident. Before unhooking the respirator, the wife, with the full support and connivance of the hospital staff, used a vibrator to stimulate the husband to an erection, and had sex with the intention of getting pregnant. According to the wife, she and her husband had planned to have children, were about to start trying to get pregnant, etc.
I’m having difficulty thinking why this is any less skeevy than the other case.
wouldn’t it be worse if a random stranger walked in and banged her? Do you think her husband should face the same penalties as would a stranger?
What about the “waking up to a hummer” analogy upthread? Couldn’t I press charges against my wife (yeah, right!!! LOL, okay, tears) an ex-girlfriend for rape?
Marital rape became illegal in all 50 states a whopping 15 years ago.
Ostensibly, this means that just because two people are married does not mean situations that would otherwise constitute rape can be disregarded (though I don’t doubt that they often are, especially since marital rape takes place in about half of abusive relationships). I don’t see why it would be different from acquaintance rape, date rape, or getting raped by a boyfriend.