After 5 years of being divorced and alone, I finaly meet a good, decent man. He meets my family for the first time yesterday. Goes well.
So why, this morning do I get a phone call from my ex, saying I should of introduced him (boyfriend) to him( ex-husband) before he met the kids? Is this some kind of screwy ettiquette I don’t know about?
Excuse me, buster, but I didn’t meet the piece YOU were doing while we were married. At least I had the decency to wait until I was divorced before seeing someone else, you smarmy bald-headed prick!!!
What do you want to do, compare notes?
He, unlike you, is a decent man, who doesn’t think of himself first, last and always.
Do you expect me to sit around pining for you for the rest of my life? Trust me, you weren’t that good.
Or are you mad that the kids like him?
I have told you that, while I personally don’t care for your new women, she is good to my kids, that’s all I care about. I thank God every day that they like each other- it would be too hard on the liitle ones if they didn’t. Personaly, I think you two deseve each other. You both know the kind of person you got-
I’ll thank you to butt out of my life, buddy-boy. I ain’t boofing him in front of the kids, so it is NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUISINESS.
Since it isn’t some weird divorse etiquette thing, I’m guessing he’s just trying to continue to control you however he can.
Hell, my ex’s consider themselves damn lucky if I ever introduced them to someone I’m dating. The ex is way down on the list. As they should be. I’ll tell them so they know what the hell the kid is talking about.
You don’t need his approaal and now he’s managed to upset you. Don’t let him. It’s a little thing he can still do, push your buttons, to exert control in your life.
I wouldn’t even waste my time thinking about it. You’ll introduce him if you WANT to introduce him. What would introducing your current boyfriend to your ex accomplish at all? It’s none of his business unless your boyfriend is somehow influencing your children in a negative manner, and he’s obviously not. Ignore him and continue on, because you seem to be doing quite fine without him.
hi JYA!
My name is Kellibelli, nice to meet you, hadnt seen your stuff before, but I look forward to more of you!
I really like your post, esp. the part about being glad the kids like his new woman, good for you! If the kids felt guilty liking her, it would really mess them up!
Hey guys: she is nice…can we keep her?
Kelli,
Only if she mixes a mean pina colada and likes the Sims. Oh, and football, she’s gotta like football.
Yeah, we can keep her. Promise you’ll feed her?? Promise???
Zette
Thank you for letting me get that off my chest. The only reason I would introduce them is if they met somehow.
Someone here alwys seems to be able to get right to the heart of the matter. I am sure he (ex) is trying to control me. But he won’t.
Thanks for the “ear” to unload in-
Kellibelli- thank you for the kind words. I’m blushing.
Zette- I can’t mix a pina colada, but i do open a fine bottle of beer, which is better for football, anyway.
Yes, yes and yes.
It’s a guy thing.
First of all, I’m bald-headed- but I’m not a prick.
I can kinda understand where the ex is coming from- I’m divorced, and my ex and I have both since remarried. I’ve tried to ensure that, as far as my son is concerned, we’re all still one big family, with him at the center. I try to get along with the ex, and I try to keep my current wife (the wonderful Microbug) and the ex on speaking terms. Heck, they get along fairly well.
My ex’s husband, though, hates me. He won’t even answer the door when he knows it’s me. This bothers my son. I’ve tried to get the both of them to come out to dinner with Microbug and I- whatever problems he has with me, my (our) son doesn’t need to deal with 'em. He won’t do it, though.
And that’s why I can sort of understand where your ex is coming from. My ex’s husband gets to spend more time with my son than I do- hell yeah, I’d want to meet the guy! For all I know, he’s a pederast just LOOKING for someone’s kid to molest!
YMMV, of course.
Oh, and since this is the pit:
He’s being a complete control-freaking, goat-felching, bastard.
Just wait… it gets better. Wait until your kids call your future husband “Daddy” for the first time in front of your ex! I got the look of death from my ex the first time our daughter said it. She was 2 1/2 at the time and heard her little brother (my son with my SO) calling him Daddy so she did too. She’s 4 now and understands that her bio-dad is her real dad and my SO isn’t. She still calls him Daddy though.
I think it is a control issue on his part. He has no control over you and it’s driving him crazy! IMO, you don’t have do introduce your ex to your new boyfriend. Tell him to piss off. As long as your kids are well taken care of and happy, that’s all that matters. The only time my ex and I talk is if something is going on with our daughter and the other parent needs to know about it. A pretty typical divorce relationship.
It’s been said before by better people than me, but …
Any idiot with a sperm can be a father. It takes someone special to be a daddy. The two aren’t necessarily the same ting.
In the interest of fairness, and idiot can be a mother. It wakes a WOMAN to be a Mom.