For this instance, I will use the example of a male/husband’s point of view thinking about his girlfriend/fiance/wife having lots of guy friends. Feel free to use the other angle as well.
How many of you that are married out there have this issue or is it not an issue for you at all?
Would you be alright knowing that your gf/fiance/wife has and wants to keep having lots of guy friends while she’s with you? She will regularly hang out with them and be out late with them and say it’s just a friendship and that you can’t tell her she is not allowed to have friends.
For me, if you want to call it old fashioned or whatnot, I personally believe once you are committed to another (bf/gf, engaged, or married, especially married), you shouldn’t really be keeping guy friends around. I don’t mean you can’t have any guy friends period, but hanging out with them once a week or texting them, talking with them a couple times a month is still inappropriate and seems to be only asking for trouble down the line. Some people may use the excuse that he’s your co-worker or team member or something like that so she needs to keep friendship with them and hang out with them every now and then.
What do you think about wives who believe it’s not just ok but necessary for her to keep guy friends and hang out with them from time to time? I think it’s inappropriate unless it’s an actual company/business meeting OR if we are all hanging out together as a group of friends.