If he kept a budget/personal forecast as religiously as I did, he’d come to the same conclusion: Women cost money.
Even for guys like him, you know, the type who can pick up a girl at a club and get laid the same night, you still are shelling out money. There’s the club entrance fee, the drinks, the gas to go to her place, the little things like cigarettes and such, and the gas to return home from her place. It all adds up.
And then when you start dating a woman, and going places, well again, it adds up. You find yourself treating her to this or to that. If she has kids, you buy them this or that. Even if you’re cheap, you’re still going to do it, one way or another, not necessarily because she obligates you but because you want to out of the goodness of your heart.
Which has brought me to the following conclusion: Choose your potenital mates carefully and escalate with caution. Don’t sleep with someone just for her body or the opportunity. Because she’s going to cost you money, one way or another, and the question is: is she worth the investment?
Now, one day, when I’m rich and have money to burn, this whole mindset can go to hell…
From your point of view it will cost money (especially if you have those expensive kids :rolleyes: ).
From our point of view, your attitude will not be passed on.
The Quality Over Quantity Charm School, paid in full, of course, because I budgeted for it.
Why yes, yes it does, until I meet the next woman to whom I’m attracted in both body AND mind.
Although your question implies that if I’m not having sex, I’m not spending money. Therefore, If I AM having sex (with a woman), then I AM spending money. Which, brought to the next level, implies that, in order to have sex with any woman, I must spend money. Which implies that all women are…well, you know what that implies. And that is NOT at all the point I was trying to make, but one that YOU seem to be making.
Yup, and so are men. Even if you are paying for the entire evening for Hypothetical Hot Chick, she probably dropped a serious bundle on clothes, jewelry and make-up to attract the elusive Big-Spending Male.
I seriously doubt my husband spent more taking me on dates than I spent taking him on dates. But since we never sat down and figured out who owed who what, I couldn’t swear to it. And if we had, I seriously doubt we would have married and continued to spend large amounts of cash on each other.
And anyway, most hobbies cost money. What’s the big deal?
Eh hem. I believe that the propper thing to say would be “damn *broke *college boys.” Money is hard to find when one is paying thousands of dolars a year for tuition.
It’s all an investment. My food budget has gone up horribly in the past few months buying healthier food, because I have to lose weight in order to attract a reasonable partner. Then, I need to spend some money on a halfway decent vehicle in order to go places to be exposed to potential partners. In the meantime, I have to budget for a new wardrobe upon losing weight, and a gym membership, and fees for whatever groups or such I wish to join in order to expose oneself to more potential partners.
Trying to attract a man is a budget expense too! I wonder if it’s going to be worth the thousands it’s going to cost me! :eek:
All of life’s an investment, it would seem. If you start budgeting not only the actual cost of acquiring and maintaining a significant other–not just dinner and movie tickets but also, say, birth control–but also any auxiliary activities like lel’s healthy eating and gym membership, and factoring in the cost of a possible wedding (should the relationship be going efficiently), any future kids, etc…then eventually…well, it’s probably better not to head down that path at all, and just stick to ordinary things like rent, hydro and gas.
I’m always amazed to hear people say that they’re spending more money on healthier food and I can’t for the life of me figure out what they were doing before (unless you’ve started buying organic).
That said, I hope you are doing all of these good things because they’re good and not because you’re looking to catch a baller.
I also missed the part of the OP where he said exactly what I intended to mock him with. Dammit.
