Women, do you get more turned on seducing a man or being seduced. I know at any given time it can work either way but just generally speaking. I have never been what I consider a great seducer but I have been somewhat successful at playing out the cat and mouse ritual of being seduced. It makes life so much easier on the man and most women I have experienced seem to enjoy it equally as much.
I think that regardless of which role a person plays, it is hard to do it well without a rather vivid sense of what the other person is thinking and feeling. That means that whoever is being the seducer is experiencing the emotions and sensations and thoughts of the person being seduced, and reciprocally for the person being seduced, unless they are just totally floating on physical sensation they are in part being aroused by imagining the thoughts and feelings of the seducer. You can’t “cat and mouse” effectively being totally passive, it’s best done by being reactive, like being a good dance partner.
In other words, we’re a lot more “braided”, more interwoven with aspects of both sides of the experience, than a simple binary oppositional description would tend to suggest.
There is of course a gendered expectation, in fact the designation of who seduces and who is the seducer is a component of gender’s social definitions in the first place. (Even there, there are countervaling trends, Woman the Temptress etc etc; but the general assumption is that making sex happen is Boy Role Behavior, that sex is something guys do to girls, that women consent or don’t consent, and so forth)
That was a great response!
I Want To Be Seduced (lyrics)
I want her to make me laugh, make a point of touch-ing me when she talks
Leav-ing all the jeal-ous guys in the joint to mum-ble in their beer and gawk.
Most women want to be pursued.
Most men are insecure and would rather be pursued.
Leaves a lot more women for guys that don’t mind doing the hunting. 
I’ve never seduced anyone, I’m not very interested in forming new relationships or sex, so I let other people chase me if they care enough to, and do all the work. If I like them a lot I’ll eventually tell them I like them back and let them touch me.
It’s interesting. I read an article once that stated (after doing a survey) lots of self made women in high powered jobs. Jobs in which they are the boss and telling everyone what to do, prefer to be the submissive one behind close doors. And the favorite sexual position among the ladies surveyed was the doggy position.
(Okay, not sure if you wanted this thread to go there, apologoes if you didn’t. :o)
That’s gonna be one dissatisfied, unhappy partner asking for a divorce in 10 years.
Very much both. I enjoy being seduced equally as much as being the seducer.
Are you sure “I read an article once” isn’t really “I saw this movie on Cinemax”?
As long as you’re not a Sadducee.
Yes actually, I’m quite sure
I have had a few romps with wealthy powerful women and they do seem to like being dominated.
A buddy of mine is a biker and he was dating a woman of considerable means in a high powered position. She told him when they first started to hook up that there would be some ground rules. #1 she would not tolerate any form of physical abuse #2. She would not tolerate any form of disrespect. I asked him what his response was to that. H said he slapped her across the face grabbed her hair and forced her to her knees and pissed all over her. He couldn’t get rid of her after that.
Yes, all powerful women secretly want to be beaten up and pissed on. If this story is true, and I have my doubts, your buddy is an asshole.
Well, almost *everyone *prefers being pursued than to pursue.
Would you rather apply for employment, by analogy, or have employers offering you employment?
Knowing my buddy I would say the story is probably true, but no I don’t condone that or believe most wealthy women prefer that. And yes my buddy is an asshole who only dates women who like to be abused. Thats his thing. We were room mates for a couple of years, I was always surprised at his ability to recruit what seemed like normal women into his lifestyle.
Do you know how those women ended up feeling about it, especially after the relationship ended?
Whats funny is that this guy asside from his s/m lifestyle is probably one of the sweetest kindest people I have ever met. He tends to isolate the abusive behavior into times alloted for that and the rest of the time I think he is pretty much an angel. His recruiting methods are where the good stories always pop up. I have known a lot of his exes and there are many, they all love him to death.
I hope so. But unless he’s very upfront and honest about his predilections, he’s walking a dangerous line. The story you told us makes it sound like he just springs this stuff on women, betting that they’ll end up liking it, even if they didn’t think they would. What if he misjudges once?
He seems to have good radar for things like this. I always figured he would end up in jail one day but so far it has never happened.