Let me clarify something, my opinions are my own and they do not reflect the norm. This, I have been aware of for years.
Ramble alert, and I apologize.
I haven’t always had this distain for women because being a woman myself, I like to think of us as all powerful and omnipotent. Then I quit my job and had a baby to become a full time domestic tyrant. I lost any connection with intelligent women who posessed an ounce of common sense and open mindedness. I have been to playgrounds, library programs and the whatnot ( not easy for me because Its a haul to go anywhere from where I live) to find other moms to talk to. What I have discovered after 15 months of research is that there are a barrell full of mega-ignornant women out there who believe every UL, every old wives tale and the like that comes down the pipe. For me to calmly dispell these myths would take up all their time and frankly, they look like they want to beleive in the waking up in a tub of ice missing a kidney crap. That and they bitch, bitch bitch about their husbands or talk endlessly about their labors and the baby is 4 years old. C’mon, ladies it’s time to move pass that episode in your life.
All these women do, that I can see, is shop at the mall or drag their kids to gymboree (which for our area is a 45 minute drive one -friggin’-way. Is it just me or driving that far to pay to play with your child for an hour and have them mingle and touch germ infested toys and kids just to haul their butts back home 45 minutes (after a stop at the mall, naturally.) doesn’t make any sense. Either they have lots of money to spend it so frivolously or they are so desperately lonely and insecure that they try to fill the void in their lives and self-esteem by constantly buying crap they really don’t need.
They defer to their husbands for every decision as if he is all superior in every subject Now, I beleive in discussing major decisions with your spouse, afterall constantly doing something without at least asking is just undermining the trust, but some are just better off him not getting involved in and finding out after the fact. This is always the case when you decide to cut your hair.
An example was I was out garage saling one day and I listened to these 40ish women complain about their husbands. One lady said, " I asked him if I could paint the family room and he said no."
I looked over and said, nicely, (something to the effect.) " You phrased that wrong. Never give someone ( male or female) an simple yes or no chance to answer when what your really want is their input. You have to show them their reasons of why this or that must be done this (your way) and be prepared to make a compromise to your plans. You have to phrase it like " This room has been this way since we moved in X years ago, the carpet is stained and the couch was from your Aunt Stella and she’s been dead 15 years. I think I’ll start with the walls. I can’t decide what color would look better: Buttercup or Day lillyl. What do you think, dear?" As this will open up a line of communication. And if he completely vetoes it, wait until hunting season (they had a ton of camping/hunting stuff in the rafters of the garage) and redo the room yourself the way you want it."
The woman looked at me like I was covered in slime and said, " I could never do that, he would get so mad."
“So you could live in a room that you haven’t liked for years because his word is final.” (It wasn’t phrased so direct, but you get the point.)
“Well, yes. he does bring in all the money and he works so hard to support us.” Her exact words.
“What you have just told me is because you are a homemaker and do not earn money for a living, is that you are not entitled to a valid opinion. This is despite the fact that you take care of every detail inside the house, raised kids who are respected and keep a beautiful garden. etc and because you worked so hard to keep the expenses down you were able to send a kid to Michigan. (There was a bumper sticker on their car.)… I’ll be honest with you, I thought your cramped and narrow minded mentality died when my 94 year old grandmother passed on.” (The first and last line are verbatim, the rest is pretty close.)
ARGGGGGHHHHHHHH.
It is so frustrating for me. Most of these women do not read (anything, not even the newspaper), they think the Internet is just a Porno place and have innudated themselves with Teletubbies to not realize there is out there (somewhere) intelligent programming on TV for adults during the day. They are grossly misinformed, tend to be somewhat religous, undereducated ( not with a degree, per se, for I never finished college, but they don’t fucking think for themselves.) They have retreated for far into there insular world that a nuclear blast could not extricate them from their little caves. Funny thing is is that what does get them back into the light is usually a divorce or death. (this happened with my Mom.) Having a conversation out there with these women is about as productive as banging my head against a rusty spike.
What I shall continue to look for is someone capable of intelligent repartee. Not necessarily deep or meaningful conversation ( I’m more of the bantering kind of person.), but full of spark and verve. I want to find someone with a light on behind their eyes. Right now, if it was not for this message board (and all those porno sights I can’t live with out 
) I know I would have cracked under the pressure and started liking the ladies on QVC and calling in to their show.
End Rant and please drive carefully.
