I still have that cut - or a variation of it. I have to find old hairdressers to really get what I want. And they look at me strange, sit me down, cut my hair and then universally exclaim “wow, that is a really cute cut on you.”
Yeah, that’s why I’ve gone back to it over and over and over again since 1976. We update it a little - its more blended in back than it was back then (and in the 80s it had very hard lines), more cut over the ears and less of a bowl - softer right now around the face with no bang and parted to the side.
Personally I think the length is based on other factors with the woman- her personality, her apperance, etc.
I have a friend-of-a-friend who is extrordinarily plain. Dresses very blandly, never wears makeup, never styles her hair. Her hair is quite long, and I think it sort of gives off the impression that she isn’t the type of person who really cares what she looks like on the outside.
I also had an ex who cut her hair short, but because of her body type/facial features, the short hair made her look chubbier and androgynous, and I was very turned off by it.
So it really depends. Though on a purely platonic level I do kind of associate women with short hair as more ‘mature’ (not OLD, just ‘grown up’) professional and ambitious.
I would not consider a “pixie” cut to be anything other than charming on any lady who’s face suited it. I would not think for a moment not to hire you, or that you were gay.
If you had a short “buzz” cut, I would most probably conclude that you were Gay, but that would not stop me hiring you, but thats me.
Two years ago I had my thick, wavy, past the shoulders hair hacked off. The next day at work a few people didn’t even recognize me, they thought I was someone new. Six weeks later a woman from another department told me her department was still buzzing about how great it looked. I’ve missed the long hair only on really cold days when my neck gets cold.
Yes, two years later and I still get comments on how good I look with short hair. I had it long since I was about 13.
You’re old enough to make your own decisions about your hair length, so don’t put too much weight on what your dad has to say. Enjoy it!
My mother wasn’t allowed to cut her hair… but she’s 60. She apparently had loooong straight hair throughout her childhood and teen years, and as soon as she left the country and her father, she cut it all off - and discovered it was curly. My grandfather didn’t like it, but he learned to deal.
She recently went back to where she grew up, Barbados, and when she went to church, sans hat, a man came up to her at the end of the service and told her she was an abomination to the angels. He might not have felt it quite so strongly if she had had long hair (after all, the jury’s still out about whether Paul considered long hair covering enough), so you could say it negatively affected her life then. But that would require caring about the opinions of people like that.
I love short cuts. I would totally get one myself, but I have a round face and curly hair.
Anyways, I’ve always liked short hair on women, particularly the pixie cut, but it does occasionally make such a difference that I can at first be taken aback.
When Morena Baccarin was in Firefly she had long hair, but I just saw her in an episode of Numb3rs and then in the trailer for the new remake of V, where she has extra super short hair, and I’m not sure I like it.
While I have no set preference on short vs. long hair, I will point out that I generally find people who have never cut their hair to be unattractive. Hair of varied lengths that is full of split ends just looks horrible. The only way I can stand it is if the person wears it in a bun. And you have to be really good to make those types of buns look attractive.
I never understood the Pentecostal “Your hair is your glory, so don’t cut it.” If your hair is your glory, then you should have to keep it healthy.
You know, this thread has inspired me. Shorter hair is so much more practical, so while going for my usual wash and trim yesterday, I decided to have the man take several inches off. I’ve been at work for 20 minutes, and have received 2 compliments.
I’m 28. Right now, my hair’s a little longer than a pixie, but not much.
I love my hair short, it suits me & looks boring when it’s long. Plus, I can dye it without worrying about having six inches of damaged hair at the bottom. Which is good because I like experimenting with hair color.
My husband also prefers it short - shorter than I do, actually. I get compliments on it all the time, from both men & women. I also get hit on a lot more when my hair is shorter.
I agree. Long hair can certainly be beautiful, but I’ve never understood the idea that long hair is beautiful simply because it’s long. If it’s overgrown, too long for the person’s features, and full of split ends, it’s not going to look good.
Okay, so in addition to the vast number of crushes I’ve had throughout my life on gilrs with short hair (like Mary Stuart Masterson in Some Kind of Wonderful, and Courtney Cox in the Misfits of Science era), I am currently engaged to a lovely young lass who has had quite short hair for the better part of 15 years.
She has been working in a professional office full of powerhouse attorneys, she deals with architects daily, and is very popular in the office. The only place hair might be a major consideration for helping you with your career is if you plan on working at Hooters. Otherwise, most professionals want to hire qualified employees.
Besides, most guys don’t even notice your hair because our eyes don’t look up that high. Boobies!
Look. I’m one of those people who really doesn’t like short hair on women. And the corollary to that is I don’t see why anyone else’s opinion, mine or your dad’s, should impact you even a little bit. I think long lustrous hair is beautiful - provided it’s well taken care of. And I have seen many girls look really cute in pixie cuts and such. I never begrudge anyone for cutting it, only when they think I should cut mine and proceed to tell me so without any reason.
As evidenced from this thread, lots of guys like short hair - but you shouldn’t cut your hair just to get guys!
Jobs don’t care - IME most jobs care about the professionalness of your looks. If you have long feminine hair but it’s not maintained it amounts to the same thing!
Cut it the way you like. I had and have exactly the opposite problem - my mom is forever after me to cut my hair. I hate the way it looks short. When I was a teen, keeping my hair long against her wishes was a sign of total disrespect to her and a sign that I didn’t love her. I danced. I had to put the fake plaits in my hair. I NEEDED long hair for that. :smack:
Sigh.
In the end, it comes down to personal preference. You like it? Have at it, girl! I like mine long, so I keep it long, but I trim it regularly and it’s healthy and light and very damn curly.
I’ve posted on this before: I’m impartial to short hair or long hair on women, but there’s a certain subset of women that seem to get short haircuts that just say to me “I’ve lost my identity as an individual, and now my identity is defined solely by my role as a suburban mommy.” They’re not fun cuts; instead, all the pair is piled on top of the head, above the ears, in the shape of an upside-down pear. Not flattering, but quite popular among a certain segment of the 35+ population.
Can we introduce the OP’s Dad to my Mom? She’s always badgering me to get my hair cut; the first time I refused to get a haircut was at age 10, because I wanted to have it long for my First Communion. The longest I’ve managed to have it is below the shoulderblades, it doesn’t seem to grow further.
I had ridiculously long hair up 'til my freshman year of high school, at which point I got it cut to a few inches below my shoulders. It creeped up from there, until it was pixie-ish length from the summer before senior year of high school until I got a mohawk sometime late in college. A bit before graduation, I buzzed it all down to 1" (except for little bangs in the front) to give it time to grow out into something professional-workplace-appropriate (read: boring). From the end of high school to the end of the mohawk, it was also blue. Since the demise of the 'hawk, it’s been more or less growing out, to the point where now the longest bits are hitting a couple inches below my collarbones.
During all this time, I’ve had no problems getting either guys or jobs.
I’ve heard this before but don’t get how short hair is harder to maintain than long hair. I spend about a minute a day washing and styling my hair. I may need to get haircuts more often, but wouldn’t the time and expense even out in the long run? As TruCelt said, short hair saved her an hour a day.
Not that I think every woman should have short hair. It really depends on the person and what works for them. I just don’t get the “long hair is easier to maintain” school of thought.
Short hair doesn’t save me time, at all. I HAVE to style my hair when it’s short. If I don’t, it looks like crap. When it’s long, even if I blow-dry it it’s less work to make it look right than when it’s short. And if I don’t feel like doing it, I can put it in a ponytail.
I guess it depends on your hair & what kind of style you have, though.
Huh. My mother, who is over 65, has never had long hair (at least in photographs of her from high school and later). She grew up in backwater North Dakota, too. So wherever your Dad is getting his ideas from, they’re incredibly provincial and outdated.
As for “allowed” length, well, my wife won’t let me shave my head, and I won’t let her cut hers above her shoulderblades. And by allow, I mean that if she cuts her hair I’ll shave mine, and versa visa.
As for professional environments, I’ve worked for and with women whose hair runs the gamut from butt length iron gray braid, to purple mohawk. My wife has a bright red streak that she combs in if she’s meeting with clients who might be distracted by it. The more extreme looks probably wouldn’t last at the executive level, but below that it depends more on industry and company culture than anything else. A pixie cut that’s of a natural color won’t impact you in any industry I’m familiar with.
He might not have felt it quite so strongly if she had had long hair (after all, the jury’s still out about whether Paul considered long hair covering enough), so you could say it negatively affected her life then. But that would require caring about the opinions of people like that.
I spend about a minute a day washing and styling my hair. I may need to get haircuts more often, but wouldn’t the time and expense even out in the long run? As TruCelt said, short hair saved her an hour a day.
