Perhaps it’s because I’ve had bosses who have lectured people about displays of emotion on the job and “leaving it at the door” while being huge collosal screaming dickheads over trivial matters.
Well, I mean, they’re idiots too then and grossly violating the emotion at work place code.
Every Nic Cage movie is a comedy.
I used to work at a place like this. The CEO thought it was okay to yell obscenities at people if they “deserved” it, and the other executives followed his lead. I think they thought it made them look powerful, when in reality it just made them look like psychopaths.
Is physical pain allowed? Because I once tripped, fell, and smacked my head. I didn’t start sobbing, but I did have tears of pain.
One of the employees that I managed had a miscarriage. She took a week or so off and then worked from home for about a week or two afterwards. I thought it was important that she had time to deal with her situation before returning to work (and I made sure that the work was not an impediment, that’s the job of management - of course, the work kept going and the rest of the group could only handle so much, which is why the work from home option seemed like an OK balance).
Was this before, during, or after recess?
He’s not guessing, based in previous posts of his it’s his experience. Not everybody who hates displays of emotion from others does it, but yes, many people will see someone crying, or evidently nervous, or simply sniffling because of allergies (no, blowing their nose wouldn’t work) and start yelling, insulting the “weak” person, etc.
Response you hope you get: “Well, damn, you’re right.”
Answer you probably get: “Shut up!”
Answer you really hope you don’t get: “Well yeah; those are all perfectly reasonable things to do.”
This has not at all been my experience. (I work in academia.) I have seen some EPIC temper tantrums from men (I’m talking screaming and chair-hurling, not raised voices), yet the only thing anyone seems to complain about is the one time so-and-so’s grad student cried… after getting yelled at. Personally, I have much less problem with crying because at least it’s usually pretty quiet and doesn’t seem designed to be threatening.
We’ve had this conversation before, though.
Fascinating :dubious:
Is this really a huge problem? I’ve been in the workforce for 30 years, and have seen people cry maybe twice, and one of those times it was truly warrented.
A far bigger problem is people throwing their weight around just because they can.
What does their being fat have to do with it?
After my mother died very unexpectedly, I went back to work right away. I needed something to do. In the beginning, random events would trigger an onslaught of tears once a day. I’d quickly excuse myself, rush to the bathroom and sob away for 10 minutes, wash my face and go back to work. That’s when I discovered that advertising lies-there really is no such thing as truly waterproof mascara.
My co-workers were all very understanding and it got better.
Yes, thank you.
I manage two employees on our farm. I have to walk a very fine line. I want to be a caring decent employer that recognizes everyone has a life outside of work.
I don’t want to get sucked into their personal emotional Sturm and Drang.
I understand if you’re late because you hit a herd of feral pigs on your way into work on Tuesday.
I don’t understand or care that you’re late for work because you drank yourself into oblivion Monday night.
I haven’t actually full-on cried at work, but my automatic and unconscious reaction to unexpected criticism (or really, any unexpected negative situation) is for my eyes to well up with tears.
My theory is that it’s a reaction to how conflict was resolved in my childhood home. My family’s conflict style was to relentlessly lecture in order to achieve enough ego breakdown (signaled by the shift from defiance to tears) that I would abandon whatever hill I had stubbornly chosen to die on. I quickly learned that no conflict would ever be resolved until there were tears, and so I ended up conditioned to produce them as soon as possible in order to move the whole process along. It’s a Pavlov’s dog kind of thing.
It takes all kinds of people to make the world go 'round. Some people walk slow, some people are bad with names, some people cry easily. If it was happening all the time and accompanied by commentary, I understand getting annoyed. But a couple silent tears from an otherwise good employee followed by an “I’m sorry, I understand what you are saying and I just need a moment to process it. Please excuse me.” on a few rare occasions shouldn’t be a dealbreaker.
I’m gonna have to cut you off right here. Nobody cares about your childhood. Get it together.
There’s a good little Robco Industries employee.
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Huh. Mine was the same way, though I hadn’t put it in those terms. Lecturing quite literally into submission, and Gods help me if I was percieved as unrepentant or “stonewalling” - it could go on for literally hours until they felt they’d “gotten through to me.” And yeah, the emotions at work that make the tears come no matter what are the same things that I would feel during those lectures - anger, frustration, a sense of letting people down or that I can’t do anything right no matter how hard I try.
For some reason I never put it together before, though.
MOL, I rather like having you around here, though I’m pretty sure I’d be scared stiff of you in real life.