Tell the HR guy about it (maybe with backup from the others in the interview) …
… on your way out the door.
It’ll have to be a short chat with HR. Because you CANNOT stay there a minute more than you have to.
Yes, this. Cognoscant, I’m speaking as someone who walked away from a mental breakdown-inducing job myself about a year ago. You deserve better.
Another new work week, another new set of procedures to try to remember. That’s grandboss’s solution to why my department is so overworked, give us new rules to follow every week. And don’t you dare mess up and accidently use last week’s rules, or there will be “consequences”. These new rules are supposed to make us more efficient, but it takes so long to remember which set of rules we’re supposed to be following this week that we get even further behind.
Thanks for all the good suggestions! This is at the top of the list–
Or maybe a selection of the nastiest-looking candy I can find from the dollar store. I also thought about a big bag of sugar. My friend suggested hitting her in the face with a pie, which would be awesome, but would also be a waste of good pie.
I would have absolutely loved those rock candy trees when I was a teen! I had the worst sweet tooth. I would eat lumps of brown sugar right out of the canister. I’ve toned it down a little bit, but I do like a piece of cake once in a while.
Necco wafers. Your shopping is now done.
Yes, but did you get the new TPS report cover sheets? I’ll send you that email again - don’t worry about it!
You said that you would report to this position, isn’t that right? There is no way this guy did not catch on to your hostility during this interview. And you think that the fix is in, so he’ll get the job.
I’m sorry, but you really don’t have a choice left to make. You already made it by trying to torpedo him in the interview. He WILL let his buddy know about it, and even in the (apparently unlikely) event he doesn’t get hired, you’ll still have the fallout to deal with.
Seriously, this has been going on for pages and pages and pages of this thread: Listen to what everyone is saying; it’s time for you to find a new job.
This is a dumb complaint and a total first-world problem type of situation, but I wish that SOMEONE would make a decision on whether they’re going to let me take a leave of absence to do my student teaching starting next month, or if they’re going to lay me off, or make me resign, or whatever. HR claims the (vague) leave of absence policy was “never intended for educational or sabbatical purposes,” only disability/FMLA-type stuff, so they punted it back to my Manager, who is so clueless that she couldn’t find her own ass with both hands, a flashlight, and a map.
Again, it’s a stupid complaint, but I’ve been going to grad school for TWO FULL YEARS, so they’ve known this was coming, and I can’t believe that NOBODY knows what to do. Can I come back to work until I find a teaching job, or what? I understand everybody’s concerns; I just want to know what they want me to do. Because if they’re going to make me quit, then I’m taking an extra week off, since it’s unpaid anyway.
(I’ve offered to go part-time while I’m student teaching, but I can only commit to 10 hours a week. Manager seemed very put out by that number – she seemed surprised when I said that I wouldn’t be able to manage all my other personal responsibilities [kid, husband, sleeping, eating, hygiene] if I came into work for 4-5 hours a night after I had been in a classroom all day, with a minimum commute of 1 hour each way to my assigned schools. It’s like they expect me to be Hermione Granger with a time turner or something.)
Oh, it’s over. I’ve already started doing what I can: I’ve cleaned up my LinkedIn (apparently you can be a “Top Star” now or whatever on it), updated my resume, called the first of my contacts, and tracked down 20 possible jobs. And people have given up trying to convince me to stay, even my employee who told me she’d retire rather than get another boss has told me she’ll defend my departure.
Don’t know how long it’s going to take to find another job. It’s coming up to the holidays, and HR departments get slow then. I’m hoping there’ll be a good crop of job openings right after the new year, but I’m not going to wait that long to start applying.
I suppose the one thing that is going to hurt is that all of the jobs I’ve found are too far away from my family to stay here with them. At best I’ve found a couple of jobs that will let me see them on the weekends; if those fall through, I’m looking at maybe once a month; at worst, I’m looking at every three months or so. The jobs I’m finding around here are in a different field which require qualifications I just don’t have or skillsets, mostly programming languages, I don’t know yet or have enough experience in. I could learn them yeah, but we’re talking several months of training or finding some way to make my company let me get experience in a language we don’t use or need. My contact, who I trust very much and has been a mentor for years, felt that if time was of the essence it was better to look for a job I already had experience in, and I’d have to agree.
Even though I’m not paid particularly well here I’m hoping I can at least make something within shouting distance of my current salary. But I’m doubting, looking at the job market, I’ll make enough to cover the extra living costs even though I’ll live grad-student cheap again. So I guess it came to this: nearing 40, bipolar, separated from my family, losing money, no social life. But it’s the least-worst option, and I’m going to have to pursue it. I suppose I’ll miss my mental health safety net too, and that I’ll have to rebuild.
So, I think that will end my rant in this thread. I’m sorry I spoke so long. But I feel my life has been pretty much wrecked, and there’s really not anything more to say.
Yes and no, evidently that changes by sector and location, but right now my own corner of the market is boiling with openings to start in January. Companies which are awake already have those new jobs out. May you get a job that gives you no reasons to post in this thread!
I like Necco wafers. They taste MUCH better than they look.
I did something similar almost 2 years ago, although in this case, the breakdown would not have been mental (no way; I worked for a great company with fantastic people) but physical. No job is worth destroying your health!
I’m convinced that people who hate Necco wafers have never had fresh Necco wafers. They’re supposed to snap, and the flavors should be strong (but not overwhelming).
Someone has decided that we should wear ugly Christmas sweaters to the annual Ladies’ Christmas Lunch. :rolleyes: Absolutely no way will I do something like that in public with this crowd. (Besides, I don’t own any ugly sweaters – Christmas or otherwise.) Wish they had told me about the sweater thing before I picked out a name for the gift exchange…it makes it that much harder to bow out of this thing gracefully.
Best of luck with your search, Cognoscant. You’re getting out of a terrible situation – that’s a good thing for you and your family.
I was lectured for an hour and twenty of the longest fucking minutes of my life by some old coot about identity theft and how he’d been shopping at Sears since Eisenhower was president, and then he bored my poor supervisor, who had to listen to the blathering for twenty minutes herself. Blah blah, yadda, blither how come I don’t have his charge card informations saved and his amazing credit record because Ike and Jesus gave this man plastic.
If I start giving some poorr defenceless salesclerk shit like this in thirty years, i hope someone slaps some SENSE into my delirious ass.
You were letting a lonely old man have a couple of hours of interaction with the outside world.
Bless you and your supervisor!
Did it back in 2001, after it nearly did destroy my health.
Think about how long he’d been saving up and stewing over that internal conversation and he finally got to let it out!
In my case, I wound up in the ER with a panic attack, and lost between 10 and 15 pounds in the next 3 weeks (do you know how hard it is for a middle-aged woman to do that?) I realized that if I worked there one more day, I would be a patient IN the hospital where I worked - it was that bad. 
It was not a decision made lightly, because I had only worked there 6 months and had relocated for this job to an area where I knew absolutely nobody, and was starting to make friends there. But I now live in the city I consider my real hometown, and am quite happy.
This thread was what brought me to Straight Dope.
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=656351&highlight=quitting+notice
I’ve told this story before here, but it’s still awesome. I was waiting in a long line at Sears one Christmas, and an old man with a pack of underwear in his hand marched right up to the cashier, expecting to jump the line. The cashier told him the back of the line was <over there.> The old guy said he didn’t want to wait in line, and the cashier said too bad! All of us in line just about started clapping and cheering for her. 
As you can see, I’m post #13 in that thread, saying it is a good idea in a bad environment.
We get little pop-up notices to review certain issues on cases. TO REVIEW. Not just to kick out paperwork for the poor mail person (read: me, today) to fold, envelope, and mail for you. After reviewing the pop-up notices, I sent 4 on my caseload. Coworker had 35. It was pretty clear that no review was done. I, stupidly, asked her if she looked them over. “Oh, we’re supposed to do that?”