Nothing so drastic need occur so as long your wife understands that wow>life. Or, in the alternative, that you’re able to work out some kind of schedule. I know, it sucks having to schedule one’s leisure time, but it happens.
In any event, it’s entirely possible to just do a couple of hours here and there and still get a good portion of raiding done. We have, in our 10 man groups, a rotating cast of characters, which somehow manages to work itself through. Just figure out which bosses have the loot tables you’re interested in, discuss it with the guild and work something out such that you can be at all, or at least some of those boss kills without harming anyone else’s raid schedule.
It takes work, but it can be done.
At the end of the day, you have to find in a guild people who are compatible with how you want to raid: schedule, loot distribution, raiding philosophy, non-annoying voices in vent and so on.
Telperien:
As for waiting to put your points into affliction until after you get a new one is concerned: you can respec; the first time costs I think 1 gold. What that does is refund to you all of your talent points in exchange for paying the trainer the required sum of money. The price goes up each time, finally capping off at 50 gold. If you don’t respec for a while, the cost penalty eventually depreciates.
Wombat:
I’m not sure if your question is serious, or a gimmick. On the off chance it’s a serious question, I’ll attempt an answer.
Simple, respec: frost is about control, not zomgdps. Of course, there are better frost builds than others, so I’d have to see your talent distribution to make any informed decision. Also, one’s gear weighs heavily on the maximum potential DPS one can do taken in conjunction with a judicious monitoring and use of available cooldowns.
My guild doesn’t necessarily min/max by design, but I raid as FFB/Ice Shards because everyone else raids Arcane. My dps is slightly under theirs, but if there’s a casterdps heavy distribution, it’s beneficial to have one fire mage if for no other reason than improved scorch.
As far as your trial with a target dummy (boss level, right?), you’re not ever going to hit numbers as high as you will in a raid unless all of the raid people follow you to the dummy and buff you. However, the single most important stat to stack until you’re capped is your hit rating. No other stat will increase your dps as much point for point as improving your hit rating will.
Buffs. In raids they’re the key. Also, cooldowns, which frost mages don’t have in large supply. Well, not for upping one’s DPS anyway.