I’m not making it into a sexual thing. I’m making it into a ‘‘I don’t want my parents to touch me’’ thing. This might be somewhat shocking to you, but not everyone feels safe and relaxed around their parents. I wasn’t judging anyone else’s preference, just stating my own.
Foxy minx, quit coming on to me. You’re just going to end up getting hurt.
I don’t see why you’d blame an individual American for thinking like this, when it’s just a product of the parents and society by whom they were raised. An average (repressed) American’s obsession with sex is a product of the overwhelming tendency to shove sex under the rug and pretend that nobody has it before marriage or age 18 (depending on religion, if applicable, and state laws).
It’s also possible that said person has a clinical paraphilia, like nymphomania.
Either way it’s not his fault, so don’t be a judgmental prick. We don’t take kindly to thoughtcrime 'round these parts.
My mother sent me an email this morning. It was weird, as most of her messages are, but … oh wait, MASSAGE. Nevermind.
Since both of my parents are deceased, the experience would be more than a little creepy.
It’d be weird from my dad, seeing as we rarely even hug. From my mom, it’d be fine.
On a tangent: my mom once bought this weird wooden spoon thing with magnets embedded in it and claimed it helped extract toxins from your blood. (Honestly, my mom is an educated and intelligent woman but sometimes she believes in the strangest things.)
Me: How do you know it’s extracting anything?
Mom: -grabs my arm and starts slapping it with the spoon- See these red welts? That means your body has toxins in it.
Me: No, I think it means you’ve just slapped my arm with a wooden spoon.
I don’t see massage as a sexual experience so I doubt I’d care.
Not weird. My mother gave massages to my father and brother, and would have done so for me except I’m sufficiently ticklish that I can’t take them from anyone.
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Something doesn’t have to be sexual for it to feel inappropriate.
And personally, no, I wouldn’t want a massage from a parent.
It all depends on the type of relationship with your parents, of course. Myself? NEVER. But my parents, as I have mentioned before, were of the caliber that insisted I sleep on my back, with my hands outside of the covers, in case I was OMG masturbating. :rolleyes: They had huge issues about sex, and so we really don’t touch that much.
I was really surprised to see my cousin once touching my aunt in a very intimate way, and I don’t mean sexually at all. I mean he was rubbing her bare shoulder, across her back, then back to her bare shoulder. Do you understand this doesn’t happen at all in our culture? It’s assumed to be sexual in nature usually.
But if you have a relationship with your parents where neither of you think like that, of course it will work.
In my case it’s a huge ick.
My mum trained as a massage therapist, and practised on me and my family; I didn’t have a problem with it, other than the slightly odd guinea-pig feeling of being practice. She was good, I like massages, what’s odd about it? I’ve seen several similar questions to this being asked here, and I begin to think there’s some cultural differences here around massage or something - it’s not an inherently sexual thing, even if you’re not wearing any clothes, it’s just touch. Are there maybe not many professional massage therapists in the US? Or some connotations to massage that don’t seem to exist here?
I think that it’s weird to think it weird. Assuming you have a non-abusive relationship with your parents, and haven’t been traumatized by someone who was massaging you, it’s just natural. I found it more weird at choir camp where you would have the complete stranger on one side of you to do it.
My personal weird thing is that I tend to find being touched my males to be odd, but not females. My dad and other close relatives are the exception, though.