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Of course!
I’m a fat hairy bald straight man myself, who goes to a gym with a lot of obvious openly gay patrons, and I didn’t take any offense at Valteron’s post.
I’ve never not had to share a dressing room with a gay guy. It’s really annoying because he insists on coming home with me every night, eats all my food, sleeps in my bed and never gets out of the way when I’m trying to comb my hair in the bathroom mirror.
Gay guy here.
I am more than 30 lbs. overweight, I have more than a pot belly, a little hair on my back, not too far from having a bald spot on my head, and even a face that may slightly resemble an old tire. And in addition to that, I’m 67 years old.
Believe it or not, there are quite a few gay guys who may prefer me to you.
Oh, and by the way, how many of you guys had to take showers after gym class . . . and had nude swimming classes?
Female, 52 years old, bi oriented towards men more than women.
I did theatrics as an undergrad and shared dressing rooms with every gender combination available [though never found a true hermaphrodite, sigh] and we were all more interested in getting our makeup finished and dressed in time for our cues.
Shared a dorm room with a lesbian and a straight, no wild sex went on there either.
Shared hotel space at conventions with pretty much every gender combination there, no wild sex went on except with the person who I was already living with.
No particular body modesty, spent too much time with medical issues in hospitals and medical offices to be able to spend time getting twitchy about needing to strip down and expose naked body parts. After you have been helped use a bedpan for more than a day you pretty much can crap anywhere at any time in front of an audience.
I loathe attitudes like this, the implication being that gay people are sexually driven predators. The reality is that I, a gay woman, am probably MORE self conscious changing amongst straight women than they are, precisely because of the thoughts demonstrated by the OP - I am paranoid that they might think I’m ogling them. I go about my business and keep my eyes firmly averted. The reality is I’m just the same as everyone else, worrying about exposing my back fat to public ridicule.
I played Rugby and soccer at various times with gay guys and neither I nor any of the other heterosexual guys ever said anything about it. No-one cared at all.
I’ve actually been hit on by gay guys before in the past (such is life in Toronto which has a huge gay population).
And yup, it made me uncomfortable. In the same way a woman is uncomfortable with unwanted advances
Yup, I’m the same. I’m not really comfortable taking group showers at end of games in a locker room.
Its just that I’m extra uncomfortable having gay people around
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I’m not comfortable changing in front of senile grandmas who blurt out “my god lass you’re really fat!” at a third person either, but as a shy, awkward, early-developer teen I was perfectly comfortable doing “the towel dance” on a beach full of people of both sexes. Any person who drools while looking at another needs to have that checked, any senile old grandmas should be accompanied.
I’ve got no problem with the idea that some of the chicks who go to the same gym I go might be lesbians. I’ve also got no problem with a lesbian hitting on me, so long as she’s ok with getting a “no”; same as my reaction to “guy I don’t find attractive or whose timing just sucks hitting on me”.
It doesn’t bother me for the most part but I have had guys come on to me in locker rooms both at work and at the gym. In the few cases it has happened it has always been a friend I did not suspect as being gay or bi. Similar method also, they wanted to make sure I saw thier hard dicks. I never outed them just instructed them to put it away because I had no interest.
You have got to go somewhere where you can meet some classier guys.
No problem at all, and I find the argument to be silly.
You realize we’re not all the same, dont you?! Whats silly in your world may not be so silly in someone elses world
Right, and vice versa, which is why he’s sharing his opinion.
I’ve done it before (straight woman here) and don’t really give a shit. Lots of straight women quietly check each other anyway to compare yourself to others and see how you measure up.
Straight woman checking in to confirm I do this, as well.
Oh sure, you all do that but I put up ONE little webcam and suddenly I’m the pervert.
So can we have men and women sharing showers and dressing rooms then?! It seems many of you ladies seem to be OK with lesbians (and possibly checking out your bodies), why cant we have men and women sharing dressing rooms also??
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Paul Verhoeven portrayed that very scenario for the future in Starship Troopers.
My college roommate for my first two years was gay. He knew I wasn’t. It was no issue, ever. We were friends until his death.
Why not? That might help Americans get over their obsession with sex, or their unhealthy body images.
In my subculture, we do. Campground showers are often open to view, coed and clothing optional. Why can’t the rest of the world get on board? Probably because there are still lots of people like you in it.