I share my personal dressing room with no one! I am a STAR!!!
Hetero. I used to be in local theater. Never been a problem.
I’d be fine with that. My local pools do actually have mixed-gender shower rooms - you don’t actually get naked in them anyway, so you’re showing the same amount of flesh as in the pool.
This goes particularly for dressing rooms at clothes shops - everyone gets changed in cubicles there, so I’ve never understood why men usually get a different section, usually with a non-existant queue.
The first person to hit on my when I got divorced, years ago, was my ex-wife’s previous boyfriend. It didn’t bug me at all (for the record, everyone knew he was gay, it just took him a while to figure it out).
If a guy hits on you, just accept it as a compliment and move on. It’s not like they’re going to rape you, ferchrissakes.
I guarantee you if you did a poll across the nation the vast majority of women would not be comfortable with having men in their change room.
Add points if the women polled are very attractive
In some ways I am really modest and in some ways not at all. In the locker room I won’t get completely naked in front of people, but that’s more because of body issues. But when I was a teenager I used to dance professionally and between scenes we had quick costume changes. And omg the clothes had to come off fast. You had no time to go to the dressing room. You whipped off your clothes backstage and usually someone was helping you put the next set on. Usually a woman, sometimes a man. And there’d be all kinds of people back there - other performers, the stagehands, dress managers, uncles, and you just did what you had to.
I am sure I have changed in front of lesbians before. I have changed in front of men. And I have changed in front of gay men! Not only is it slightly homophobic to care, it’s also kind of presumptuous to think the gay guy is remotely interested in you.
I would be a little uncomfortable sharing locker rooms with men all the time, though, unless a lot of men (not all) were trained to behave a little better. I highly doubt anyone will be looking at me, but I’m sure the attractive women wouldn’t like it one bit. You might as well just call it the Boner Room in that case!
Ther you go again, objectifying women. “Very attractive?” Seriously? People are more than their looks, and the sooner you start treating other people as *persons *the happier your relationships will be.
As long as you maintain that immature outlook you wil be fearful and unhappy.
Exactly!
Agreed on all points
What does this sentence mean?
I’ve changed in mixed-gender situations as a teen, when I was involved in theater productions. Sometimes you didn’t have time to get back to the dressing room for a quick costume change, and had to run behind some prop storage or something for a tiny bit of privacy. Occasionally you’d have to grab the nearest person of whatever gender to get a zipper or something.
Anyway, same-gender dressing rooms ensure that at least 90% of the time, on average, you’re probably fine. Go to a facility with more privacy or change under a towel/shielded by your locker door like us slow-developing teen girls did in school, if it really is that distressing.
Oh, and naturally vulgar come-ons (regardless of the gender of the person) are never cool, but you asked about merely sharing a locker room in the OP.
I’m saying very attractive women are more likely to feel uncomfortable sharing change rooms with men then unattractive women are.
Thats just a guess on my part though, I could be wrong
I found the argument silly - that sharing space with someone who is gay and could potentially be checking me out is reason for some sort of segregation. Lots of things in this world make people uncomfortable, but they don’t lead to segregation.
Does seeing a woman breastfeed an infant make you feel uncomfortable? It does for some people, should breastfeeding women be required to stay out of the public eye? I’m not dismissing your feelings; I’m saying the problem with your argument is that it places blame on the wrong side. If you’re uncomfortable with something of this nature it is up to you to remove yourself from the situation, not the other way around.
Straight, averagely attractive guy here.
I’ve done choir tours and local theatre over the years and have shared both dressing rooms and hotel rooms with gay men. It never even occurred to me to be bothered by this, and it has never been an issue.
That’s a fair question. Frankly, I’d be OK with it.
Look- people are going to find you attractive, or they’re not. A gay guy might see you on the street when you’re fully clothed and like what he sees, and I doubt you’re against going out in public in fear of that. Just because you’re in an environment that involves taking off your clothes isn’t going to change the other person’s perception of your attractiveness that much. If you are legitimately concerned that he’ll suddenly drop to his knees in front of your Adonis-like manhood, you have some serious issues.
I’ve shared a house with gay men. I used to work in theatre, and had several gay and lesbian friends in my social and work circles. Perhaps what you need is more exposure to gay men, not less. You’ll see that you’re making much ado about nothing.
I’m a straight woman and I’d be comfortable sharing a locker room or shower with all women and gay men.
I wouldn’t want to be naked with random straight men only because I would think they were judging me. But that’s not their problem, that’s mine.
I think thats a fair statement.
Thats why I think in amateur and pro sports its time we start segregating dressing rooms based on sexual preferences. Men and women should have separate change rooms, and gay and straight athletes should as well
Hetero & an unattractive lumpy sack of potatoes on top of it.
If he’s cool & not an a-hole (its not limited to a gender or a preference) I am too. I mean its really just jeans, shirt, socks, shoes close the locker & out, right? Conversations about weather, traffic & current events optional, but they do happen.
So what? Whats the worst thing that could happen… I could find out a better, cheaper place to buy clothes than Kohls?
How do you propose assigning gay men/lesbian women to changing rooms? Should they have individual rooms so that they don’t look at other gay men/lesbian women? After all, isn’t your thesis that no one wants to be leered at while changing - or is it that the “wrong” people are leering?
Where do bisexual athletes change? Do they get individual rooms? Can asexual people get common changing rooms to share regardless of gender?
What about black and white athletes? We really should consider separate dressing rooms for them as well. Amarite?!
Wouldn’t it be a better long-term plan to teach our sons to NOT LEER at other people, or to NOT BE CREEPS when approaching a person to whom they are attracted?
Since I’m not attracted to men at all, they would all be “wrong” people
Asexuals arent very interested in sex. I fail to see what point you’re trying to make 
No, I dont. And thats a stupid, false equivalence