For the same reason I didn’t break the options down by gender, though as TruCelt points out I should have.
I answered yes, but I don’t think one-nighters are inherently objectifying. They often can be, but definitely don’t have to be.
Either way, I wouldn’t mind being somebody else’s “kink” in that situation. A racial curiosity / fetish wouldn’t be a great sign as a start to a longer relationship, but for one night stand it could work just fine.
I’d suggest the opposite. I’ve been propositioned more than once.
I have been with women of all races but the only ones that made it clear it was a racial thing were Asian women. I have had this happen several times over many years. It pretty much goes like this. " I want to fuck a white guy tonight" about that simple.
What I meant there is that if you’re intending to fuck another person and then deliberately never see him or her again, you are probably not evaluating or valuing them on anything but a physical level.
I feel like going to a bar tonight now.
If I was a one-night-stand kind of person, I can’t imagine something like this putting me off.
I’d point out that there are lots of white guys who are hotter than I am. Why me?
I wouldn’t have a one-night stand now, but perhaps in the past when I was much younger. It wouldn’t have bothered me then, so I voted based on that.
ETA: I’m assuming I feel otherwise safe, and that the racial preference is the only thing I’m voting on.
Back when I did such things I barely required more than a pulse and I assumed all names were fake since mine usually was so ------- why the heck not? I did a couple just based on different religion; that being a big thing back then.
So wait, the idea is that someone, somewhere, has a sexual objectification fantasy about middle-aged average white women?
I wouldn’t take them up on it. I’m terrible at one-night stands. Also, I’d be giggling madly.
It’s not for me to understand her reasons, if she’s up for it and I find her hot then that’s as far as the discussion needs to go.
Like others have commented, my reflexive reaction would be “Why me, when there are lots more attractive men of my race around here who would probably be glad to hump you?” I am not a judmental person, but I am suspicious of motives with regard to people I dont’ know who want something from me. What I would probably do is touch my wallet to make sure it’s still there and slowly back away. But show no fear. They can smell fear.
We never outright said it to each other but I’m pretty sure curiosity was a big motivator the first time I was with a black girl. It was my first time with a black girl and her first time with a white guy.
It was fucking hot too and I’m not ashamed to admit the “taboo” of it all played a big factor in that.
This sort of thing happens to me all the time. Not the one night stands, but the attempts at one or other race-based flirting. It’s gotten so predictable that whenever a white guy starts hitting on me, I start a timer in my head because it is a certainty that it’s only a matter of time that he brings up some variation of “So I’ve never slept with/dated/whatever a black woman.” Oh heavens me! I’ll settle up the tab! You get us an Uber.
It’s actually turned me off to white guys almost entirely. Whenever they talk to me, I just want them to go away. (I think it might be a Midwest thing too, because it’s gotten worse since the move. People here are stupid.)
Edit: Shakes, I thought you were black. Where did I get that from?
Because you think I’m adorable, therefore I must be black by default? ![]()
I don’t understand your confusion. You may feel that any all reasons are acceptable, but other people may not. We already have at least one person who has explained why they absolutely would not be okay with someone only wanting to have sex with her because of her race.
(I’m not answering because I’m not okay with one night stands in general. I’ve never had the desire to have sex with someone only once, and not want to try for a relationship of some kind.)
Mostly because, as of this writing, there is only one person who has brought it up.
Other than the outlier, the responses have been"yes because one night stands are awesome/great/acceptable" or “no because I don’t like/believe in/want to do one night stands.” The race card has had nothing to do with it.
If the point of the poll was to be about race, then having the person be hot in the eyes of the beholder negates that. By making them only marginally attractive then I have to think about whether or not I wanna throw this girl a bone (pun heavily intended) and let her do the dance with the super-rare skinny white guy, as opposed to saying “lucky me I get to pork a hot chick!”
Sure, why not? A one night stand isn’t deep by definition, so whoever has the fetish (if all parties are consenting) should bring it on. I scratch your racial need, you scratch mine.
Female.
D’aw… If you were black I would hug you right now. ![]()