I could maybe be down with it if my wife were willing to cross-dress at all times and we had sex Madame Butterfly style.
Yeah, she’d still be my husband, so I can’t imagine abandoning her while she tried to figure out what to do or how to navigate her new life. We’d only part if she wanted to because she no longer physically wanted me and was against an open arrangement.
One of the few scenarios in which being bi makes life simpler. Yes. Unfortunately my BF would dump me straight away if it was me who had the ‘accident’.
I agree with WhyNot, I think. My husband is my best friend and my favourite person to be around. We like talking about and experimenting with sex, and I’m sure we could figure out a way to keep us both happy in the bedroom.
I don’t know, how much is my spouse getting from the hospital in the malpractice settlement? 
But nah, I’m out like a light.
Oh hell yeah!
Well, it would be sexually a plus for me, but I can’t see Mig being happy. He would probably be so miserable he’d be impossible to deal with. He is a very, very macho man. Traditional Mexican Catholic. I’d stick by him as long as he didn’t push me away.
I’d definitely stay, and welcome my honey’s new set of vegetables into the relationship. I’d miss the old ones though.
I guess it depends on the state of your marriage. Hard to imagine, I know, but there are millions of comfortable roommate-type married couples out there, mainly older but not always. Would the switched person’s personality change, too? I think it would be beyond creepy to have a husband-turned-female still watching The Game every Sunday, or the wife-turned-male still knitting or setting his hair. If the personalities changed, I bet there are hordes of lonely wives who would welcome a close girlfriend, and hordes of lonely husbands who would welcome a close male friend. No sex involved.
Might cause a bit of a problem in the non-gay marriage states.
No way.
I’d probably still love her…him…hir but it’s over folks.
as my marriage is hanging on by a slender thread already, this would probably be the final straw.
But if things were as they were just a few years ago, I honestly don’t know. I love(d?) my wife with all my heart and soul, and I couldn’t have imagined my life without her.
That has changed recently, so the thought of her suddenly becoming a him is much less of a “Sophie’s Choice” situation for me now.
I’d stay with my partner. My partner is my partner and I’m not with whoever I’m with because of his genitals alone. Sure, I usually prefer men, but if I’m dealing with a man in a woman’s body (which is basically what the OP describes) I am still with a man anyway. I’d assume my partner would probably want hormone replacement therapy and possibly some surgery to try to correct back to his actual identity. If he decided against that and was going to make the best with his body, he would still be the person I became involved with. Just because other people saw him as a woman wouldn’t suddenly change his brain or our relationship.
And I’d now have the added bonus of being able to buy my boyfriend whatever size or style of penis I’d like to play with. Score!
I never expected my life would turn into a wacky, anime-esque sex comedy, but I always kind of hoped it would.
To clarify . . . my wife, who doesn’t exist*, has just changed dramatically from . . . whatever she was like before. And as someone who’s never been married or been in a marriage-like relationship, you’d like to know how I would react to a situation that couldn’t happen? I’ll try, but I’d advise not making any important decisions based on my input.
For the sexy stuff, it’d depend on how much had changed. I mean, if she looks and acts like she did before, just with different bits, I could swing with that. On the other hand, a lot of the women I like are a bit, or more than a bit, androgynous. So, if the incident slides her femininity-bar by a fixed amount to the macho side, my dude-wife is going to be a** very** manly guy. That would be a problem. Not knowing how either the dudification process works, or what my imaginary-future-wife was like before, it’s hard to get into specifics.
The worst case scenario would involve her still being into me while I was no longer into him. That would be really hard to deal with . . . but that’s really hard for any couple to deal with, wang-compatible or not.
Too few details for a hard-science answer. So, we’ll go with the romantic one. I’m going to assume that anyone who I’m going to be married to is going to be both awesome and capable of dealing with a certain amount of weirdness, so I’m going to assume we’ll find some way to work things out in a fashion acceptable to both parties, if not ideal.
My dude-wife is, at the very least, my heterosexual life partner. Probably more.
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*Well, hopefully, she exists somewhere, I just don’t know her yet . . . but knowing my luck, she’s already married. To some other chick.
(without reading any responses) How is this question different from staying with a spouse after a car accident rendered them unable to have “normal” sex for other reasons? I am a het female, and I wouldn’t leave a spouse if they weren’t able to penetrate me with a penis.
You can have a good sexual relationship without the conventional genetialia overlap. But you can’t have a good sexual relationship with someone you aren’t attracted to.
So it’s closer to ‘would you leave your spouse if they were disfigured (and sterile)’ than ‘would you leave your spouse if they were impotent.’
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Ah, not that I’d know ANYTHING about that, of course! Because I’m so incredibly manly! What have you heard?!
The idea of still being in some sort of relationship with him isn’t impossible, but the relationship we previously had would be over, and thus I had to say I’d leave him.
How badly is the car damaged?
What does that even mean?
This is not something I can come close to picturing as plausible for my wife, but for the sake of argument, she would have become such a radically different person that I couldn’t be married to her anymore, especially if she had a dick. Not interested in that in any way, shape, form or fashion.
This, pretty much.
If this accident also changed their brain structure and/or personality to that of the opposite sex, though, then I’d take a more wait and see approach. Not because I couldn’t be attracted to them (I’m bi, I can adjust), but because that kind of change might affect our relationship in unexpected ways.