That and what botox does is paralyse your face a little. My friend’s supervisor at work had botox done and she could not frown at all. So her range of emotional expression was limited. Eventually she gave up on botox because her young daughter once started to cry because she had made a mistake, broken something, but was completely unable to tell if her mom was angry or not. For months the poor kid had been unable to tell when mom was in a good mood or bad mood.
Personally, I like it when people age naturally. Plastic surgery just makes people look like old people who have had plastic surgery. Besides that, I don’t think it’s quite right to have invasive surgery done unnecessarily. And I’ll admit, there are degrees to that in the same way there are degrees to any body modification.
Bottom line, if your look are that much of a priority for you, we probably have incompatible lifestyles anyway. So yes, I think I find it shallow and superficial. And that may make me a hypocrite. I nearly had one ear torn off in a skiing accident and it resulted in an otoplasty. With one ear less prominent than the other, I had the other ear done. I would not have changed my ears from what they were solely for cosmetic reasons, I didn’t care if I had prominent ears, but faced with one ear looking different, my head would have looked stupid.
Ultimately though, I must confess that getting the second ear done was a cosmetic choice. There was nothing wrong with my uninjured ear other than it looked silly paired with the newly streamlined one.
ETA: I still think it’s shallow and superficial, but will admit that I was/am superficial enough not to want to have one ear bigger than the other.
Absolutely not and I can’t imagine what kind of friends and/or family would think less of someone for doing this unless it would hurt them financially or physically.
If it makes you feel better and you can afford it, I say go for it. For some reason many people have a real attitude about it that I just don’t get. It’s almost like they look down their noses on anyone who would do such a thing. People improve their minds in many ways (books, classes, games) and people applaud that. In a country where looks do matter no matter, what’s wrong with improving yourself as you see fit. Whether it’s diet, exercise, makeup, tattoos, haircuts, lotions, Botox, or surgery… it’s no one’s business but your own. Anyone who’d think less of you probably isn’t worth your time.
Naturally there are those who get almost “addicted” to this type of thing and, like anything done to excess, that isn’t healthy.
I wouldn’t think any less of them. Why should I?
And, while I like Big Boobs, and am in favor of them, I have to say that I’d feel odd if anybody got a Boob Job on my account. As-is is fine by me.
I would try hard not to think bad thoughts about it, but it makes me sad that people dislike their own appearances sufficiently to want to undergo a quite invasive surgical procedure, especially when it is as pointless and unnecessary as are most boob jobs.
I know it’s not my place to judge whether or not they are truly unnecessary, so I don’t judge. I believe I am allowed to have an opinion on the matter, however, and that opinion is that, by and large, cosmetic surgery is a sad thing.
Well, yeah. Actually I kind of roll my eyes whenever anyone of a healthy weight talks about “losing weight.” I can understand trying improve your health. But the raw goal of “losing weight” seems pretty silly to me, especially since in my experience it’s not really the guys that care as long as you aren’t outright chubby. Mostly I think people do it because A) society says thats what girls do B) they want to be mildly neurotic and C) they are looking for attention. It all seems like a waste of time and energy.
And part of this is a personal thing. I’m a very low-maintenance and resourceful person, and that is something I do value in others. I also just react really poorly to attention-seeking behavior. Nothing turns me off more than a high maintenance attention whore. And while not all implantees are that, chances are if you need someone to cut you open and sew crap inside of you to maintain your ego, we just arn’t going to get along anyway.
I guess you are lucky enough to have a lovely, unlined forehead but I am developing some very unattractive frown lines between my eyebrows. I can look at pictures of my 63 year old mother and I can see exactly where I am headed. In fact - here’s a picture of us taken in November She’s a lovely woman, but I am not looking foreward to those lines!
If Botox wasn’t so expensive, I would do it in a heartbeat!
The thing that bothers me most about it is that you decrease sensitivity in your nipples (from what I understand). Seems like I use those as a big part of foreplay, and if it wasn’t doing anything I would be more at a loss than usual (maybe I need to level up my game?).
I find it creepy, it is afterall big bags of chemicals jammed under the skin. I guess I do think less of someone with a boob job, it just doesn’t seem like something a well adjusted person would do.
I wouldn’t necessarily think less of someone who had Botox, or a facelift. If it was done badly…well, I guess I would feel sorry for them, but I might also laugh behind their back.
I probably would think less of someone who had a boob job, unless it was a reduction. There are of course exceptional circumstances, and it’s none of my business in any case.
To me, breast implants is just another way to enhance one’s appearance. It can have both positive and negative consequences, same as many other enhancements. I have a friend who is spending a lot of money (not implant amounts but the point is the same), hiring a personal trainer at the athletic club. He is gaining several benefits from it, and there are some negative consequences-costs money. It is clearly worth it to him. I judge implants using exactly the same equation. If the benefits outweigh the costs, go for it. A woman with implants is clearly spending money on her appearance, just as my friend is. He gets better cardio function and better self-esteem, she gets (one presumes) more attention and better self-esteem. I appreciate that she cares about her appearance, and I am impressed with my friend and his devotion to exercise.
So, make a clear-eyed assessment of the costs and consequences and do what is right for yourself.
My ex-wife got a boob job. I don’t think any less of her but it was truly unnecessary in my opinion. I don’t know a lot about cup sizes but I would say she had between a large b-cup and a small c-cup which looked perfectly fine on her frame ( 5’6" 110lbs.). She now has close to a d-cup and to me anyway, look ridiculous.
Even though the surgeon did a good job, yeah, she let me see them, I still think they look stupid on her petite body frame. Of course I didn’t want to hurt her feelings so I lied and said they looked great.
I wouldn’t care one way or the other. One of my best friends has breast implants - they look good. She and I don’t have sex so I don’t much care how they feel.
Ditto for the botox - two of my good friends get their foreheads done about twice a year - it just softens the lines - both of them still have a full range of emotions.
Me, I’ve never had anything; however, if I have kids and my boobs start to head south I’ll totally get a breast lift or reduction/lift if necessary and I don’t really see why any of my friends or family would care.
Oh, I’ve got frown lines, when I frown. I’ve never thought of them as unattractive. If the lines weren’t there, how would my husband know I’m frowning? Sometimes I need that frown!
Your mom is lovely. Maybe it’s the photo, but I’m not seeing the frown lines.
I don’t understand a preference for smooth skin if it doesn’t look natural. An unlined face on a 40 or 50-year-old won’t look natural, and it won’t match the rest of the body. Skin loses elasticity and sags not just on the face but on the arms, butt, breasts, thighs, even the knees. Once you start, where do you stop? (The proverbial “you”, not the “you” you.)
Really? My mom is smiling in that picture (clearly NOT frowning) and she has 2 vertical creases right between her eye brows (right above her nose). She has them all the time, not just when she frowns. I do think my mom is a beautiful woman who is aging well!
I have the beginning of the same lines and I’m not very happy about looking like a frowning person all the time. Of course I don’t mind if frown lines show if I’m frowning, it’s the “frowning all the time” look that I am not a fan of.
I am definitely considering Botox down the line, wish it wasn’t hundreds of dollars and required multiple sessions every year.
Okay. I looked at the other photos in the album (hope you don’t mind) and the lines show up in the Mother’s Day photo. I don’t think they detract from her appearance. She smiles with her whole face, doesn’t she? That’ll make lines.
Your mom (and you) are both beautiful. I don’t think the frown lines are unattractive at all - young faces are starting to look unfinished to me. Your mom’s face is getting more finished - more complicated, more interesting.
I’ll admit that I too don’t think more of people who alter their appearance surgically (or with botox) because they don’t want to age. We’re all going to age. This is not a bad thing.
Of course, I don’t mind at all! I posted that gallery recently in honor of my step father, Tom, who died right before Thanksgiving this year. They would have been married for 24 years on December 1. I hope the pictures show what a wonderful relationship they had!
She certainly does smile with her whole face, she’s very much an “all in” kind of person!
She’s a lovely woman, but I am not looking foreward to those lines!