This kind of stuff happens to me a lot, but I decided to share with you a classic example. People call me ugly all the time, and here’s the typical conversation. I’m ‘Judo Kaase’:
Sorry for the formatting…
Ignore 'em. They’ll drawn in the shallow end of the gene pool like they should.
Arden’s hideous typing ability rears it’s nasty head.
They might even drown in the shallow end.
That’s awful. I would feel really down on myself if I dealt with that. It makes me want to cry. 
I go with Arden’s suggestion of ignoring them though. It is pretty hard when I have to ignore myself, though.
Speaker, sorry you had to put up with that. Anyone who judges you by such superficial criteria is ugly on the inside - and beauty may be only skin deep, but her kind of ugly goes clear to the bone.
Don’t take it to heart. In the meantime, I am going to wish that Amma develops a nasty boil on her @ss. Anyone who cares to is welcome to join me.
Actually, I get it a lot, so I ignore it. This was a bit harsher than usual, and I had several other interesting conversations with her.
She surrounds her name with tildes and asterisks. 'Nuff said.
What you have to a realize, Speaker, (which I think you already do, but I’m going to say it anyway:)) is that most people your age (and even many adults) are not as smart, talented, and enlightened as you. It may sound a little elitist, but it is true. So, they are bound to say asshole-ish things simply because they don’t know any better. Even knowing this, it still amazes me that the ignorant often do more damage than the malicious.
I have many choice words reserved for people like this girl.
I understand, Speaker. I really do…and I’m sorry.
Dude, all through school people called me ugly. I started to believe them. Only now do I think that I’m even moderately handsome (pictures on request, by the way).
Don’t let anyone do something like that to you. You are what you are. Don’t let the assholes grind you down.
You need to talk, man, I’m around. Drop a line.
-Dave
Allow me to suggest a conversation for next time you meet another cretin:
Dude, don’t put up with that crap! People like that feel ugly themselves and need to kick someone else to make themselves feel better.
Up until last year, I’d always been part of the “ugly” group. Then the braces came off, I got contacts, and I matured a little. All of a sudden, I was “hot.”
Yeah, it was great. For about a week. I started hanging out with who everyone thought were the cool kids. They were all idiots. None of those people deserved to be considered cool. Not even remotely. I figured out who the ugly people really were.
If I hadn’t gone through that, I’d probably be where I was two years ago: feeling worthless and only wanting to be accepted by the “cool” people.
You should be laughing in the faces of all those shallow people that are calling you ugly.
So is she willing to put herself to the test? Post a link to a pic of you, a link to a pic of her, and the text of the conversation from the OP. Then let the teeming millions decide who is ugly and who is not. Come to think of it, we don’t even really need to look at the photos – it’s pretty clear from the text who is ugly, and it certainly is not you.
You’re holding your own in an open discussion board with adults who appreciate what you have to say and how you say it. Nuff said.
Speaker from the short amount of time I have spent on this board, you have already come across to me as extremely mature and well spoken. Its difficult while you are young, but many people, as they mature, begin to realize that true beauty shines from whthin. Cultivate that, take care of yourself as you can, and don’t sweat the idiots that can’t see you in this light. Good luck, I am certain that you are not ugly.
SFTD, that was me back in grade and high school.
Then sometime between/during junior and senior year I grew into my body. You can see the results in various places.
Surround yourself, if you can, with good people. I.E., keep people like ~Amma:wally~ away from you.
Doors, I think we need to give SFTD a pep talk:-)
Babe.
Listen now. You have the right of it. Good people judge from actions/thoughts etc.
And yes. That’s pretty classic. (A million and one reasons why I want to follow my sisters around with a large stick and beat people. Unfortunately most of them have internet access as well.)
If I may ask, where’s Judo Kaase from? (Let me reveal my ignorance. Smite it please.)
That is absolutely horrible - how old is this girl? Sorry if you two are good friends, Speaker, but she sounds like a bitch.
She has some pretty twisted ideas about God, too. God doesn’t like ugly people. Or fat people. Or really skinny people. Or people with eyebrows that join in the middle. :rolleyes:
To paraphrase a quote that used to be in my sig, if you are beautiful when you are young, that’s just luck. But if you are still beautiful when you are old, that’s your own soul’s doing. I know that in practice, it’s mostly to do with your genes and how you take care of yourself, but I truly believe that as the years pass, your character etches itself into your face. (And your little friend will be stuck permanantly in “barf” mode)
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I know a girl - 5 feet nothing, overweight, thick glasses, coarse and unattractive hair, buck teeth, no dress sense and just to round it off, a terrible body odour problem. Yet her fiance tells her every day how beautiful she is - and means it. She is such a lovely person that when you’re with her, you don’t think about the way she looks. It takes a stranger’s comment, or a photograph to bring the fact to attention. This girl has more friends than anyone I know.
I know another girl - 5"6’, skinny like a model, the most beautiful face, perfect hair, gorgeous clothes, no visible flaws. Yet everyone hates her, because she can be so nasty and cruel. Sure, she may be beautiful, but you can be sure that it’s not her looks people are discussing when they speak of her. Her ugly personality shines through and marrs her physical beauty. She’s never had a relationship last more than a few months, because men are suckered in by the way she looks, but when they get to know her, they fall out of love with her.
In 40 years, the ugly girl will still be beautiful, but the beautiful girl will be nothing but ugly.
Well, I already assumed I am going to hell. Now I know it. Thanks a million Kayeby.
::cries a little cry::
Seriously though, SFTD, don’t sweat it. I was picked on quite frequently as a teenager. I recommened a combination of the elitism that Dr. Lao speaks of, and spruce it up with a healthy dose of “That person can only hurt my feelings as much as I let them”. AKA “Consider the source”. If that was your mother saying that, or a loved one, or someone else close to you, then of course it would sting. If it’s just some random immature bitch – pfft. Shake it off. She’s not worth you being upset.
Um, yeah. That “gooti” post is mine. If she’d post more than once a month, I might be used to looking to see who is logged in…