When you called this girl to tell her to listen to the sang, did you actually talk to her, or just leave her a message? Because it’s possible she never got the message, or deleted it by accident before she listened to it…I’ve done that several times when I’m in a hurry and skipping through my voicemail and I hit 7 instead of 4…Don’t assume the worst. Assume that she never got the message at all. If you care about what she thinks about the song, call her again, and this time talk to her instead of leaving a message.
Oh, and though I couldn’t catch all the lyrics (bein’ middle-aged and all) I liked the song.
Psychotically pedantic nitpick:
The word you’re looking for there is “wont.” Sorry for bringing it up. Can’t help myself. It’s a sickness.
Good luck with your band.
Lezlers, oh lezlers/you’re name is really cool/ lezlers, oh lezlers/ do you like to play pool?
(imagine a really cool guitar riff here)
I cunt hear you.
I do that all the time. want/wont, mute/moot. I know the difference but those midnight posts get me all the time.
Yah, what she said. Well, I’ve never had a song written about me (AFAIK) but if I did I really wouldn’t want to hear it.
I can’t quite put my finger on why. I’d wonder like crazy about it - is it a ‘I Will Always Love You’ kind of song? Maybe ‘Every Step You Take’? Or more like ‘You Oughtta Know’? Each option would be good in some ways, and bad in others. When in fantasyland, when you don’t know what the song is about, it must be kind of pleasing to think about, in a weird sort of way.
But once you hear the song the fantasy is gone. Once said, things cannot be unsaid. I would not want to hear the song because I know that I would find the single thing in it which would break my heart* and focus on that, and I would ignore all the other lovely parts about it.
So I would prefer not to listen at all.
- I’m not suggesting there’s something like that in your song, I haven’t heard it
Bruce, don’t beat yourself up about this. I honestly think this could be resolved really easily, especially if you let her know it’s no big deal. A casual phone call – maybe even a self-deprecating one – would probably alleviate both your and her concerns, if she even has any. As someone else pointed out, she may just be busy, and hasn’t gotten back to you yet.
Anyway, worse case scenario – you’ve got a great song and a funny story about it.
You definitely should NOT feel bad about having posted this. I liked it, I’d BUY it. (is it okay if I copy it to a CD so I can listen to it, working out and in the car and stuff?).
Unlike some of the other posters who commented on it’s sound, I kinda LIKED the “cleaner” less “full” and rounded out sound of it.
Kindof put me in mind of some of the “good” rock of the 70s (NO, not disco :D) perhaps Head Eastish?? Tom Pettyish? Can’t quite put my finger on it (the memory is the first to go you know).
Sorry I’m probably not describing what I mean very well. Anyway, I’m an old fuddy duddy and even I thought it was great, I can imagine the young crowd would love it.
Do you guys play gigs around town, Bruce_Daddy?
Mebbe I can come see?
You know, it’s funny, but the first thing it reminded me of was “Jesse’s Girl”. And I mean that in a really good way.
As the for the “less rounded” sound of it, I guess I’ll just have to wait for the CD… 
Not yet. Register on the website so I can start spamming you when we do 
I might not have responded to you either, if it had been me.
Something that makes me uncomfortable is feeling like I’m obligated to give someone a reaction to something. I’m not saying that’s what you did, and I know it wasn’t really your intention (well, maybe I guess it sort of was?), but if I got a phone call from an ex-boyfriend telling me to go listen to a song he had written about me, it would really depend on how it was said.
If it was a nice, casual message saying, “Hi Elret, just wanted to say hello and see what you were up to. I’m doing great, things are good at work, and the band is really coming along. We’ve got some new songs up on the site - hey actually, there’s even one that was inspired by you, you should check it out if you get a chance. Anyway, give me a call sometime, maybe we could hook up for a coffee or something”, then I would probably high-tail it to the site and check out the moi-inspired song, and then call him.
If it was more serious or intense and said something like, “Elret… I wanted you to know that I wrote a song about you… it’s on the website… I just wanted you to know…” , and especially if he specifically asked me to call him and tell him what I thought of it, then I would probably listen to it but feel reeeeally icky about having to call him.
I know this seems sort of mean-spirited, but I really don’t mean it that way, it’s just that the second example (and pretty much anything except the first example) would give me that same cringey feeling I get when someone says something somewhat clever or witty (or they think it was) and then says right away, “hey! didja hear there, where I just said [insert the witty line he just said here]?” It’s obvious they want you to say “Yeah Bob, ha! That was so funny!” and I often can’t bring myself to do it. I know it’s not quite the same, but it just gives me the same feeling.
I don’t know if it’s my inner rebel or what, but when I feel manipulated (and please, I don’t mean to imply I think that’s what you were doing, but I think there’s a chance that I personally might have interpreted the situation that way, and I’m just trying to give you a possible alternate viewpoint) into giving someone attention (be it laughing at a joke, praise, thanks for something I didn’t ask for or want, or even negative drama-starting reactions) I tend to do the complete opposite.
I really like the song, by the way.
Catchy song. Nice voice. 
In order to understand why she has reacted the way she did, you need to try and figure out where her heart is. You have to consider the possibility that she’s still in love with you, but she’s afraid of putting her feelings out there. Again.
Honestly, after listening to the song, I’m not really sure where your heart is either. And I’m an objective listener. One hand you say that “it’s too good to be true” and talk about her sexy voice, etc. Then you lament that you’re “tempted to settle for a memory instead of a dream.” What does that mean?
It can definitely be interpreted to mean that you want to get back together. But then you aren’t exactly making herculean efforts to get ahold of her. [Mrs. Costanza voice] You don’t call, you don’t write. [/Mrs. Costanza voice]. You write a love song about her (very romantic, very flattering) then send it to her via an e-mail with a link, which is the most impersonal way you could have sent it. That’s what I would call a mixed signal. You care enough to write a song about her, yet you can’t be bothered to drive the two hours it takes to see her. Since she hasn’t seen you since New Year’s Eve, and has not had an actual conversation with you in months, she’s probably thinking it’s the latter. And if that’s the case, she’s undoubtedly wondering what your intentions were when you told her about “Tempted To.”
Of course, the preceding criticique was made with very little knowledge of your relationship, or either of you, so take it with the proverbial grain of sodium chloride.
I got a one line email:
:exhale: That’s all a boy needs, some acknowledgment!
I’ll sleep better tonight. And a big to all you naysayers.
Thank you very much. I play bass but I’ll tell Ben he has a nice voice.
I get you but she’s not still in love with me. You’d have to know the details.
If I explained the song, how fun would that be?
All of the bold parts are false. Try again.
10-4
Glad to hear it. And sorry if I contributed to the stress. I am pleased to be completely wrong.
So, when’s more music coming our way? And where do you guys play?
No problem. I appreciated your very long post and wanted to reply. No where yet, like I said we’re “ramping up”, demo first - play out later. For some reason those pesky bar owners want to hear something before you show up and stink up their club
Hey, I wasn’t a naysayer! I’m just a armchair pop psychologist/music critic trying to get into a girl’s head whom I’ve never met based on scant information. Geesh. Next time I’m going to ask for my 5 cent fee up front.
Glad to hear she acknowledged your hard work and talent. Be sure to acknowledge your muse on the liner notes.
Best of luck with the band. Looking forward to some more tunes.
L-
I feel that way too. Back in the '90s, I knew quite a few people who were In a Band, or just writing songs on their own, and I used to feel very much on the spot when they’d play something of theirs and ask me what I thought. They’d sit there looking at me like I was the music critic for the Village Voice, and all I could think of to say was, “I like it…it kind of reminds me of [established band].”
Then they’d get all offended and say, “I’m/we’re not trying to be anything like [established band]! Are you saying it’s derivative?” Hell, I’m not a musician or a music critic! All I know is what I like to listen to. Show me the lyrics, and I can critique them, separate from the music, but as far as the music itself, and how it compliments the lyrics, or vice versa, I haven’t a clue. All I can say is if it sounds good or not. :::grumble:::
Glad to know you heard back from her, though!