I live in New York. I am the lease-holder on an apartment in which I live. I also rent out one room of the apartment to another woman. The arrangement is informal, with no contract or written documents. (If I had it to do over I would definitely write up a contract.) I find living with her more and more stressful. She can’t always afford to pay me on time, and she is critical of me, occasionally insulting me and threatening to do little things to make my life unpleasant. I find myself hiding out in my room, or spending time in coffee shops because I don’t want to go home.
So I figured, it’s officially my apartment. I gave her written notice to be out in a month. I felt bad about it, but I pay a lot for this apartment (twice what I ask of the woman) and why should I be miserable? To my astonishment, she has refused to move out. I can’t imagine how she could think this is okay, and I don’t know what to do. Does she actually have some legal basis for saying she doesn’t have to leave if she doesn’t want to? I’m really stressed out by this situation. I used to think she was basically a normal, decent person, who I just didn’t click with. Now I worry that she is a crazy person who could do something awful to me or my stuff.