There’s nothing I could say that would matter. She isn’t going to have some kind of epiphany because stranger at a bus stop tells her smoking is bad for her baby. Everybody knows the dangers of smoking these days. She’s made her decision.
Killing reasonably law abiding and ethical humans over national, religious, ethnic, or racial differences. Killing in self-defense, defense of others or defense of property is acceptable. Killng because somebody doesn’t worship your favorite magical pixie isn’t or worship the same flag isn’t.
Can I kill someone because they are constantly whistling the theme song to the “Andy Griffith Show” and it’s pissing me off?
Need answer fast.
And if they don’t worship my fave magical pixie but they’re locked in a cell with me and they’re crying so loud I think I might go crazy and need to smother them? Need answer fast.
I’m with the ‘say nothing but quietly judge her and consider her a bogan’ crowd.
Well said. 
Last time I checked we live in a country that respects our right to be stupid.
Smoking at all is a dumb idea. But, it’s their choice.
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Hell, smoking is probably the least of her problems.
I figure that my life is none of her business, and since she would obviously be respecting that, I’d probably just smile and secretly wish her well.
I have a friend who smoked her entire pregnancy. She’d asked her doctors about quitting while she was pregnant. They put her on the patch, which made her blood pressure go high and it messed up her thyroid medication. So her regular doctor and OB/GYN said it was OK, but try to cut down. She did cut down to a pack a week and switched to natural tobacco instead of name brand cigarettes. I voiced my mild displeasure that she smoked while pregnant, but only once and dropped the subject after that.
Her baby was just born, she was 8 lbs. So much for ‘lowered birth weight’ 
Not that I would ever say anything to a stranger, but it’s worth noting that smoking while pregnant is pretty firmly linked to a higher rate of stillbirths and miscarriages, not just low birth rate. So “My mom smoked and I turned out fine” is not really a compelling argument: the babies that don’t turn out at all aren’t here to comment.
I would say something, just in case she doesn’t know the risks. But if she replies “yeah, I know”, or whatever, I’d leave it at that.
There may be more here than meets the eye.
Without going into detail, many times in my life strangers have tried to offer advice / warnings. 99% of the time they are telling me something I know, or indeed something I know to be incorrect.
But it only becomes annoying if they’re insistent. If they think, from a casual glance, they understand your situation better than you do.
…and what exactly would you say, Mijin?
The well-meaning are often not prepared for the answer they may get.
A few months ago, I parked the car and walked directly across the road to the shop - simply to buy a newspaper. It was a hot day. My dog was in the back seat, the windows were down and she had her nose resting on the window frame watching me.
As I waited to cross the road and return to the car, two women approached me. *Very *condescendingly, they proceeded to tell me about the dangers of leaving dogs in cars on hot days. “Ten minutes, and that dog will be DEAD!!” one of them spat at me.
“Thank you so much for telling me,” I said, “I thought I was going to have to give it fifteen.”
So, Mijin, if her response to is, “*Fuckoffyanosybitchandmindyourownfuckenbusiness!” *will you be offended?
Ireland.
She already knows so what good would a total stranger telling her again do. She’d most likely just tell me to fuck off and mind my own business.
I would be uber-polite, as I always am.
In fact, I’d begin with “Excuse me…” and if it looks like she’s already annoyed I’d just say “never mind”.
Yes, because this would be a disproportionate response.
As I alluded before: people used to offer me “helpful” advice all the time (I used to have a noticeable medical condition). I was never rude to any of them, except if they thought they knew better than I did, and weren’t listening.
I’m picturing a heavily pregnant woman standing at a bus stop–on a steaming hot Houston summer day. Or during a miserable Northern winter. While the yuppies drive by & go tsk, tsk because she’s got a ciggy in her hand.
I am skeptical that there is any polite way to nose into a stranger’s business in such a situation.
I would guess 99% of the time it wouldn’t matter, you’d get shit no matter what. Almost everyone in the western world would know the issues with smoking and if they are still smoking while pregnant they know they are doing wrong. Generally people in that situation attack when questioned I have found.
They are almost waiting on someone to stick their beak in so they can tell them to fuck off.
My favorite mom story - when she was pregnant with her five 6-foot or taller sons (and one daughter, but she’s not 6-foot so doesn’t count), the MD told her she had to give up either smoking, drinking, or coffee.
She chose coffee.
This sounds a little cruel, but…and?
I have the right to terminate my pregnancy. That right extends to making decisions during my pregnancy that may or may not terminate that pregnancy. If I decide the cigarette is worth the risk of miscarriage, what business is it of yours? (Obviously, if you are pro-life, this line of reason doesn’t hold. But as a pro-choice person, I’m really not caring if you make decisions that do not end in live birth.)