Our childfree lifestyle isn’t all cheesecake and beer bongs, believe me, but it’s a lot more fun than it would be if we had kids. Given our work schedules, if we had kids we’d never have any time for us and our relationship.
I work from 5p-3a four nights a week at the emergency clinic. I come home to a quiet house, the enthusiastic greetings of my pets, and the mumbled questions of my sleeping husband. I have plenty of quiet time to decompress, play with my girls, and reflect on my day, my life, and the world around me. Depending on the rotation DrJ’s on, sometimes I’m still up for a bit when he gets up.
We’re both pretty intense (albeit in different ways) people, and we have really intense jobs that absorb a lot of our time, energy, and passion. We both need the peace and quiet that you just don’t have with kids in the house, and I need huge amounts of alone time to function well. Show me a mother who has huge amounts of alone time, and I’ll show you someone who sold her kids to a slave trader.
Neither of us feel the need to have a “mini me” roaming the planet, and to be honest the whole concept seems to smack of colossal arrogance and self-aggrandizement. Frankly, neither of us are so fabulous that there needs to be more of us.
I look at having kids the same way I look at having dogs. I love dogs. I want to (and in fact, do) have a house full of dogs. The barking, the hair, and the poop-scooping seem like minor issues compared to the loyalty and love and entertainment they have to give. I feel fulfilled taking care of them, and actively work to improve the lives of other pets and their families.
At the same time, I understand that other people don’t feel the same way about dogs. The jumping and the licking and the shedding and the walks and the baths just puts some people off. Those folks don’t go all gooey over warm sticky puppy kisses on the chin. They’re just not dog people, and I accept that. I would never dream of nagging them about why they don’t have dogs.
Some people just aren’t kid people, and I’m one of those. I just wish the everyone-should-have-babies folks would treat me with the same courtesy and respect I give those who just aren’t cut out to have pets.