As for me, I’m always polite to police. However, I won’t necessarily do anything they say.
But I have never “gotten in an argument” with a police officer. I’ve either been polite and compliant, or polite and declined to do what they ask, but I don’t argue, don’t raise my voice, don’t resist or struggle.
Case in point, it’s 1980, Louisiana. Was driving from New Orleans to a friend’s farmhouse well outside the city. We had been partying in a bar, I was three sheets to the wind. My friend (whose car I was driving) was far drunker. It being 1980, me being young and stupid, it seems logical that the guy who was “least drunk” should be the one to drive.
I get in a wreck, relatively minor, single car accident that disables the car. As we’re trying to figure a way to get back on the road, a cop shows up. Probably at first just being helpful, but since we smelled like a distillery he quickly realized one of us was driving drunk.
Back home where I was from, in that era, drunks were typically allowed to “park their car” and either walk home or sometimes the cop would drive them home. This was the pre-MADD and afternoon special days. But, being from out of State and such I was expecting I was in a bit of trouble in Louisiana. The cop asks us where we’re going, how we ended up wrecked etc. I have no problem answering those questions. Finally he asks who was driving, I admit to that too. The reality is I didn’t have to answer that, and I actually knew that, but I didn’t want to throw my friend under the bus just to protect myself and I figured since it was his car by default there could be an argument made that he was driving if neither of us spoke up. After that, the cop asks me to do a field sobriety test–I declined. He starts to get frustrated, and tells me I can’t decline. I just tell him that unfortunately despite that, I still decline. He then tells me to take a breathalyzer, I decline that. He insists a few times, I continue to be polite, but tell him that I won’t be taking any tests here on the side of the road. He places me under arrest.
At the police station, he’s mostly polite/professional, I’m polite the entire time. He continues to try to get me to submit to breath tests or a blood draw and I refuse, he tells me that things will go much better for me if I submit to these tests, as I’m going to get convicted of drunk driving either way. I spend the weekend in jail, get an attorney from the city on Monday after posting bail. Long story short, all charges dropped. They had no really easy-to-act on evidence that I was driving while intoxicated. Other than a cop who would be willing to testify that I “looked and sounded” drunk. Faced with a hired attorney the prosecutor decided to pass. Of course these days many States have criminalized what I did–not the driving drunk, but the refusing to incriminate myself. So someone doing what I did in 2015 may still avoid a DWI conviction, but will get convicted of refusing the test, which carries the same (or sometimes stiffer) penalties, and often results in a longer license suspension period, too.
Point being from this long story–it’s not always smart to do whatever a cop asks. But in terms of arguing with cops, questioning their actions, physically resisting–I can’t see any scenario where those make sense. Let’s assume you’re a black man, pulled over for “driving while black.” The cop is a racist and intent on arresting you. I can see an argument for politely declining to answer questions and etc, but what exactly is the argument for resisting arrest? Giving him an excuse to shoot you? What is the argument with engaging in a debate with him, when the more you talk to police unnecessarily the greater chance you say something that can be used against you? Institutional racism or not, black or white, the police hold the cards in these situations. I’m not sure what acting like they don’t hold said cards gets you, other than a lot more trouble than being compliant.
I think even a racist prick cop is more likely to be a lot worse when confronted with a black guy that’s fighting him versus one that is being polite. Not being black, I think in that situation my primary goal would be to “get off the street and away from this encounter.” That may mean a ticket, or it may mean you’re arrested. But prolonging a situation where you’re “on the street” with a cop, where essentially anything can happen and there’s a chance it’ll just be his word against yours or maybe even just his word (if you’re killed), is not ideal. If the arrest was improper, and you’ve not said or done anything incriminating (which you shouldn’t as part of your not unnecessarily talking to police plan), you have a lot greater chance of getting it fixed after you’ve been bonded out or called an attorney from jail than you ever do on the side of the road.