Not Miss Manners - instead, Everybody’s Big Sister.
Lucy van Pelt?
I must say, her posts do have the ability to make me roll my eyes back in my head so far that my ocipital nerves practically snap in half. Any topic, any post, she can turn it into a “Look how in touch with FEELINGS I am! If you don’t agree with me you’re not in touch with FEELINGS!”
Blech. And I’m a counselling psych major.
However, I try to cut her a bit of slack, 'cus I don’t think she’s, um… well. If you know what I mean.
I usually try to stay away from pile-on’s because they’re usually unnecessarily mean-spirited, even for the Pit.
But I had to open this one because for jlzania to Pit someone, I figured it had to be for something good, and the fact that Zabaldi has been working my last nerve the past couple weeks on the boards.
I think this thread may be a bit ill-advised. We all know that Zabaldi is a perma-victim. She drags that cross behind her like some kind of security blanket, hoping upon hope that she’ll find an excuse to bust out the nails and get to hammering.
This thread should feed that sick need for quite a long time.
It’ll also teach her that whenever she’s really hard-up for an excuse to bust out her I am a victim badge, all she needs to do is act up enough for someone to Pit her.
Asbestos Mango, I think you really nailed it in your first post.
Apologies for the name misspelling.
I don’t - care to explain?
Sigh.
Y’all are probably right.
And upon reflection, I sincerely doubt that Zabali will appear to explain herself although I would sincerely welcome the attempt.
Of course, she could always apologize to Astro for being snide too but I’m not holding my breath until I turn blue in the face on that one either.
As I said in my OP, I’m pretty good at ignoring annoying people but the continued snarkiness directed at anyone that has the temerity to disagree with her coupled with the repeated lectures on being “nice” have well, firmly put me in touch with my inner bitch.
And she got off her leash.
Sure - IMHO people who are mental stable and well adjusted don’t spew the amount of crap and have the number of meltdown on a message board that Zabali does.
I think she’s mental fragile and is using this board as free therapy. I think this is ill-advised on her part. However, if other posters spewed the garbage that she does I would probably call them on it - she I just leave alone becasue I don’t think calling her on it would be productive for either of us. Me because I would be wasting my breath, and her because her persecution complex would be fed by the attention.
If she hasn’t made an appearance by now I’m guessing she’s not gonna.
She’ll probably act like she didn’t see the thread. “Oh that last pit thread just traumatized me so much my doctor told me to stay out of the pit. It’s too negative.”
Actually, Zabali is clinically mentally ill. IIRC, she suffers from bipolar disorder, and I believe she has at least one other disorder stacked on top of it. I believe this entitles her to be cut a certain amount of slack, since there are some things that she really is not in control of, thought process-wise,
There is a point, however, when all but the most severely psychotic person has to be able to take a deep breath and pull back and look at their circumstances and say, “You know, this situation does not warrant the total freak-out I’m having over it. Maybe I should just take a warm bubble bath and go on with my life.”
Zabali never seems to come to that point, and I really don’t get the impression that she’s a raving psychotic. I think that she uses the disorders she has as an excuse for not facing the realities of life.
I haven’t said anything here yet, but I have to respond to this.
I personally refuse to cut anyone slack who has a mental illness, is aware about it, and refuses to do anything about it. She seems to be aware of it. She needs to do something about it.
I’ve had a person in my life do this to me. “Aw, c’mon. Give me a break! You know how I get when I get one of my moods.”
No way. If you have a problem and won’t do anything about it, it’s your business. Don’t try to make it any of mine.
You wouldn’t have to buy it, it comes free with a case of the clap. I dunno about a six-pack of the clap, though.
Since I don’t know Zabali very well, I don’t want to address her possible mental health problems directly. But I do know that you don’t have to be psychotic to have distorted perceptions of reality.
And sometimes people don’t know that their perceptions aren’t right on the money.
Keep in mind, too, that it can be difficult to find the help that is needed and to afford necessary medications.
When a person is bi-polar, there is often a great resistance to taking medication. It almost comes with the territory. (And maybe in some cases it is a sound choice.)
When someone has a problem that affects the brain, don’t blame her or him for not always thinking straight about what to do about the problem.
The trouble with many mental illnesses is that they can tell you that you’re really just fine, and everyone else is badly fucked up and in need of a good talking-to.
In all honesty, if Zabali has previously posted that she suffers from a form of mental illness, I missed it.
However, this does raise another question for me and I wonder what the rest of y’all think.
Of course, we all make allowances for the behavior of our friends IRL.
For example, if I know that some one is going through a particularily difficult time and as a result is on edge or inclined to be overly sensivitive, I cut them more slack than I normally would.
And I am not equating dealing with bi-polar disorder on a daily basis with the stress encountered by, for lack of a better term, some one who is functionally mentally stable.
However, if I was close to some one who consistently flew off the handle, was extremely accusatory if you disagreed with her, and consistently lectured me about my behavior, I would eventually confront her to determine what was wrong.
If she refused to seek help and continued a pattern of unacceptable behavior, I would ultimately cut her out of my life, regardless of why she was behaving that way.
I’m not saying that I would do it quickly or that I wouldn’t try very hard to help that person but if time and patience failed, I would finally come to the conclusion that it just wasn’t worth my effort.
If I had a friend that became addicted to drugs or alcohol, I would eventually let them know that I couldn’t be around them while they were using but once they made an honest effort to seek help, I would be there for them 110%.
Now obviously, as this is a message board, it’s far easier to ignore a poster that grates at you but I’m curious as to where y’all draw the line.
Once you decide some one is playing with less than a full deck,so to speak, do you make it a point to skip over their post?
Are their contributions generally deemed not worthy of response?
Do you only re-enforce the posts that make sense?
How do you deal with it?
In the past on different boards, when faced with someone that just wasn’t playing with a full deck and it frustrated me to the bitter end just reading what they had to say, I put them on ignore. This way I would not subject myself to their mindless chatter and it would keep my blood pressure from going through the roof.
People like that have their own pity party to attend and it is so easy to get sucked down right with them.
For some reason this whole pitting of a person pisses me off to no end. :mad: Aren’t you done yet?
Why the hell would you read the BBQ Pit then, ya idjit? A forum dedicated to almost 700,000 posts of people talking shit to each other.
Originally posted by Cisco
Because, ya nerveless nincompoop, the rules say: “This message board is intended as a medium for public discussion.”
Not a medium for a pile-on.