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Old 05-29-2003, 11:07 PM
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I hate my sister. She's such a bitch.

About a year ago, her husband lost his job. They were worried they would lose their house. My mom and two brothers agreed to move in and help with the house payment.

Sounds cool. I'm figuring they pay about half the monthly note. Wrong. They pay damn near the entire monthly payment.

What do they get for......the same amount they were paying before????

My brother can't watch movies. He lives for movies. He's a video store mgr because he loves movies. See, the brat nephew gets the TV 'til 7pm or so, the sis and BIL get it until 10ish. After that, they want quiet in the house. The brat has a TV and VCR upstairs, but he gets to hog the living room TV. WTF???

My other brother wants to hot rod his car but has no space to work on it. Half the garage is filled with sister's junk. The other half is for her car. BTW- She has a 2year old Honda Accord and her husband has a 2year old Chevy pickup.

Mom has the den with a curtain for a door.

Sis agreed to cook them 2 meals a day but that stopped about a week after they moved in. Now, she leaves long bitchy notes on the dry erase board if they touch her food.

Mom put some of her stuff in storage because there's just not enough room in sis' house. Sis put some stuff in there too and said she would pay half. She doesn't.

She treats them all like second class citizens and they're paying her to do it.

I visited a couple of weeks ago and saw how bad it was. I told my mom and brothers they need to get a new place to live. Sounded good to them but brothers don't have credit /mom has no money right now. I agreed to help with deposits just to get them out of there. We looked for a house and found a rental 3,000sq ft 4BDR for decent price. I applied for it and got it. (worst case scanario: I can pay the rent on it if they all lose their jobs. I don't think that will ever happen but I accept that it could. Hey, I love my family) Mom says she can't do it right now. See, BIL has a job and is also in a job traing program until Sept. Sis has a part-time job a quilt store. Mom can't leave right now because BIL might have to quit that training program.

Well, here's an idea; how 'bout if sis gets two full time jobs or sells the Honda?? This is something that really chaps my ass; mom drives a '92 Honda and sis' 2001 is not new enough. She wants a newer one next year and of course this all hinges on leeching money out of my mom and brothers. When I was an early teen, my mom was divorced, raising 4 kids and driving us around in a 10 year old chevy van. We lived in a rent house. My dad almost never paid child support. When they finally garnished his wages it was only 500 bucks a month. (He was making like 45k/year).

What the fuck? My mom made mistakes for sure but she always did her best for us. She dedicated her life to providing for us. Now my sister is fucking her up the ass just because mom will take it.
She even wants mom to make up the money that my brothers will not be paying. I'm both furious and heartbroken that my sister is treating mom like shit just because she can.

On top of all that, she's mean to her DOG He's a Labrador Retriever (Chocolate variety). He lives for the tennis ball. OH MY GOD Louie loves the tennis ball. But they never play with him. (I always play with him when I visit) They always make him just lay in his bed. I let him outside to go pee and when he wanted in he barked....kinda quietly. She went to the door to.....let him in??? Nope. She opened the door and yelled "shut up!". I mean god damn. A dog can't just say "fuck this, I'm outta here". A dog loves people unconditionally. He just wants to play. He also has a big lump on his chest and another on his stomach right by a back leg. They won't take him to the vet. She had said I could have him but I'm sure she won't give him to me now just for spite, since I'm taking away my brothers and 2/3 of her house payment. Bitch.

Well, they finally mentioned that they are moving out and I helped them. BIL sez next time I visit I should consider a hotel since they won't have room for me. GUESS WHAT YOU HENPECKED ASS WIPE- I have a room in a 3,000sq ft house! Why the fuck would I want to sleep on your god damned couch????***I*** don't believe in taking a dump on people just because I can.

Mom wishes we could all get along. I figure we don't live in a perfect world and if anyone wants family to kiss her ass then she can kiss mine. Fuck her.
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Old 05-29-2003, 11:12 PM
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So Mom IS moving out into the other house?
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Old 05-29-2003, 11:19 PM
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Probably not until September. I hate the fact that she lets them take advantage of her.
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Old 05-30-2003, 12:17 AM
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I hate your sister too. She needs a good ass kicking.
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Old 05-30-2003, 12:22 AM
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I love your sister.
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Old 05-30-2003, 01:28 AM
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Your sister sounds like she's really a leech on your mom, and that sucks. But nothing can make up for treating a dog badly. People who are mean to dogs should die horrible, painful deaths.

Because dogs are better than people.

Your a good person for helping your mom and brothers like this and being so concerned for their well being. They're lucky to have you on their side.
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Old 05-30-2003, 01:37 AM
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I really, truly feel for you. My mom is the same way. It infuriates me the way she lets some of my siblings walk all over her. It's so easy for her to forgive them, while I'm left steaming. She tells me, "These are my children. This is what mothers do."

It's hard, it sucks, but you have to let it go. It's her choice. It's their choice.

About the dog, though. You can call the ASPCA and report it as animal abuse. Negligence is abuse. If they won't do anything, they may recommend someone who can.

I hope the best for you and your family. Believe me, I really understand and sympathize.
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Old 05-30-2003, 01:38 AM
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When I first saw this thread title I automatically thought "oh boy, another teenager bitching about a whole lotta nothin'"

But damn. Your sister is a bitch (and obviously you're not a teenager )

Good on you for helping out. You gotta take care of your own (something your sister obviously has no concept on)

I agree with spectrum about the dog thing. People that treat animals badly are scum. Pure scum. And a lab? They are the sweetest dogs EVAH! If I lived near you, and had a house, I'd take the doggy in.
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Old 05-30-2003, 02:04 AM
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Not to be a prick utterly devoid of love and all that piddly shit, but why can't you say "enough is enough" and have them move out inside of a week? Sis has made it most clear that nobody but her and her not-new-enough car (and her husband) is welcome in that house. She'll probably detest you so much she ... doesn't talk to you. So you'll have someone who isn't a very good person in the first place not talking to you. I can think of worse scenarios.

Of course, this might be my own experiences with my father's family talking...since I don't plan to see some of my relatives ever again. No desire to. They're turds. YMMV
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Old 05-30-2003, 06:00 AM
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I'm glad you are helping your Mom and brothers get out of what is obviously an unpleasant situation. I would work on getting the dog out, too. Since your sister already said you could have him, I would simply take him, preferably some time when you sister and BIL aren't around, and then when she inquires, just say something along the lines of "you said I could have him, and I finally got around to bringing him home."
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Old 05-30-2003, 08:16 AM
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My Sincere Sympathies (serious). Leech Sisters are the Worst.

I have one who keeps harrassing my fixed income mother for tuition money for her kids. But sell the late model Beemer(s) or one of the SUVs? Cancel the Golf Club Membership? Move from the 3 story Mansion Estate with 3 car garage into a normal sized house that suits her needs?

Hell will freeze over first.
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Old 05-30-2003, 08:50 AM
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I just have to say - what the hell is the matter with people? And I mean not only the users, but the people that let themselves get used.
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:08 AM
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Featherlou, not everyone ages gracefully. I wish this weren't the case...but it is.
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:14 AM
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With my mom, it's the other way around; she keeps letting them move in with her. Along with their boyfriends, baby daddies, children, dog, cats, etc, etc, etc. Then, whenever I call (which is not much, anymore), she will bitch and moan about what pains they are, how they leech off her, how mean they are to her and each other.

I can't fix her co-dependancy, and neither can you, 1kBR Kid. Don't get me wrong; I think it's great that you can help your mom out. Just don't get sucked into the drama. If she won't leave, or goes back, there may not be anything more you can do. Help them as much as possible, but don't put yourself at risk. Sometimes you just have to detach with love.
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:18 AM
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[obligatory mid-90's mediocre college-music hijack]

"I hate my sister, she's such a bitch
She acts as if she doesn't even know that I exist"

--The Juliana Hatfield Three, "My Sister"

I feel putzish for even remembering that song.

[/obligatory mid-90's mediocre college-music hijack]
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:27 AM
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I think you should take the poor dog.
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:31 AM
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Yep, your sister is a bitch... sorry to hear about that, it sucks. My first boyfriend's sister took advantage of her fatherr in the same way, she had no job, she did nothing around the house and didn't want to go to school or anything. On the top of that, the father had freakin' cancer that required a transplant & prevented him from working for a couple of years. Yep, that's right, she was mooching off his SS checks.

Dunno why parents let their kids do that stuff to them.
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:58 AM
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Duke, I , too, thought of that song.....but in what way could it be considered "College Music"?
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Old 05-30-2003, 10:12 AM
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I can relate. My brother makes twice my mothers income (she makes 25K/yr, he makes 50k/yr), yet he lives with her and does not pay a cent toward rent, utilities or food. He doesn't even help clean the house. When I confront him, his excuse is that HE MOWS THE DAMN LAWN!

My brother is a loser.
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Old 05-30-2003, 10:35 AM
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I can relate, too. My older sister has leeched off of my mom for twenty years rather than make an effort to get and keep a full-time job. All her life she has quit every viable job she starts within a few weeks or months, as soon as she finds out she has to work hard and do what the boss says. She's fifty-four now, and my mom is eighty-two and has developed Alzheimer's. Thank goodness my unmarried brother is taking care of my mom so that my sister can't figure out a way to leech more money away from her. As soon as it became evident that no more money would be forthcoming from mom, my sister miraculously managed to find and keep a full-time job, low-paying though it is.

Parents who enable their mooching adult children in this way are doing them no favors. My sister is aging and doesn't have a pot to piss in. If she had been forced into employment and self-reliance twenty years ago, she would not be where she is today.
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Old 05-30-2003, 10:36 AM
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Duke, I , too, thought of that song.....but in what way could it be considered "College Music"?
You know...it's music aimed for the "college kid" crowd. Otherwise saddled with the shopworn adjective "alternative music."
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Old 05-30-2003, 11:01 AM
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Man, the only thing that keeps me from screaming when I hear these stories is that these leeche's karma is so gonna kick them in their asses...
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Old 05-30-2003, 02:51 PM
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Stay involved if you damn well please - it's your family!!

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With my mom, it's the other way around; she keeps letting them move in with her. Along with their boyfriends, baby daddies, children, dog, cats, etc, etc, etc. Then, whenever I call (which is not much, anymore), she will bitch and moan about what pains they are, how they leech off her, how mean they are to her and each other.

I can't fix her co-dependancy, and neither can you, 1kBR Kid. Don't get me wrong; I think it's great that you can help your mom out. Just don't get sucked into the drama. If she won't leave, or goes back, there may not be anything more you can do. Help them as much as possible, but don't put yourself at risk. Sometimes you just have to detach with love.
Oh fuck that.

'Put yourself at risk'? How is she at risk? Oh, is her sister not going appreciate her efforts to help her mom? Oh no!

'Detach'? What, detach from mom because she over-helps the bad sister? Why on God's green earth should 1kBR let her sister's bad attitude get in the way of keeping her mom in her life?

C'mon, you can't be serious!!
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Old 05-30-2003, 03:32 PM
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I think you misunderstood Wintermute's post Profane Creation.

I believe WM meant detach herself from the situation, not from her mother. As in, if her mother isn't going to accept her help, to not kill herself trying to give that help.
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Old 05-30-2003, 06:27 PM
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ummmm. I'm a dude.

I know that she may not move out and I have accepted the fact that I can't change her codependency. But hey, at least I got my brothers out.

I'll work on getting the dog.

Oh, did I mention that BIL's dad is a multimillionaire?
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Old 05-30-2003, 09:01 PM
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Sorry dude, your username isn't exactly gender specific.

A multimillonaire huh? That doesn't suprise me. I actually know (well, a twice removed kind of "know") some very rich people who have relatives on the verge of poverty.

Sad really.
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Old 05-30-2003, 10:04 PM
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I think you misunderstood Wintermute's post Profane Creation.

I believe WM meant detach herself from the situation, not from her mother. As in, if her mother isn't going to accept her help, to not kill herself trying to give that help.
Hmm, well, I hope so. Perhaps a clarification may happen to straighten me out if need be. But not a big deal anyway.
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I know this is an old thread, but I need to rant about this or I might explode.

A little background on me first. I live in Australia, and I have been living there since I was 9. But the thing is, when I arrived, I was really dreading coming here, and the house was so shite that I really freaked out about living here. Then I went to my new school, and I got NO friends at all for 2 years, during which time I was consistently bullied in various ways and excluded so much that I developed Borderline Personality Disorder (which means I am emotionally unstable and I am borderline psychotic apparently. I am doubtful of the last one though.)

Anyway, about two weeks ago a tree fell on my house. This was really tough for me, because it landed on bedroom, and as I said I am emotionally unstable, so I was freaking out. I had to move in with my sister who is two years my junior, and who has a huge room to her self (I am 16, she's 14). She was cool to start, but then she started moving all my stuff around. I came in one day, and everything I took into her room, clothes, schoolbooks, computer etc was tipped onto my bed. I flipped out cos of the whole BPD thing, and then my sister decided to bitch on me to my dad, saying about how I was "taking over her room" and was "insulting her with my presence". He got super-pissed at me, then told me not to annoy my sister or I would be sleeping outside.
A few hours later, I was sitting on my bed, when my sis starts full-on screaming at the top of her voice, I ask her whats wrong, and she says I didn't make HER bed that morning. Then my dad comes in and shouts at me for making my sister upset (she was behind my dad's back then, making obscene gestures and smirking), and now I am in deep shit and that is just the tip of the whole FUCKING island that she built...
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Old 06-25-2011, 01:49 PM
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About a year ago, her husband lost his job. They were worried they would lose their house. My mom and two brothers agreed to move in and help with the house payment.

Sounds cool. I'm figuring they pay about half the monthly note. Wrong. They pay damn near the entire monthly payment.

What do they get for......the same amount they were paying before????

My brother can't watch movies. He lives for movies. He's a video store mgr because he loves movies. See, the brat nephew gets the TV 'til 7pm or so, the sis and BIL get it until 10ish. After that, they want quiet in the house. The brat has a TV and VCR upstairs, but he gets to hog the living room TV. WTF???

My other brother wants to hot rod his car but has no space to work on it. Half the garage is filled with sister's junk. The other half is for her car. BTW- She has a 2year old Honda Accord and her husband has a 2year old Chevy pickup.

Mom has the den with a curtain for a door.

Sis agreed to cook them 2 meals a day but that stopped about a week after they moved in. Now, she leaves long bitchy notes on the dry erase board if they touch her food.

Mom put some of her stuff in storage because there's just not enough room in sis' house. Sis put some stuff in there too and said she would pay half. She doesn't.

She treats them all like second class citizens and they're paying her to do it.

I visited a couple of weeks ago and saw how bad it was. I told my mom and brothers they need to get a new place to live. Sounded good to them but brothers don't have credit /mom has no money right now. I agreed to help with deposits just to get them out of there. We looked for a house and found a rental 3,000sq ft 4BDR for decent price. I applied for it and got it. (worst case scanario: I can pay the rent on it if they all lose their jobs. I don't think that will ever happen but I accept that it could. Hey, I love my family) Mom says she can't do it right now. See, BIL has a job and is also in a job traing program until Sept. Sis has a part-time job a quilt store. Mom can't leave right now because BIL might have to quit that training program.

Well, here's an idea; how 'bout if sis gets two full time jobs or sells the Honda?? This is something that really chaps my ass; mom drives a '92 Honda and sis' 2001 is not new enough. She wants a newer one next year and of course this all hinges on leeching money out of my mom and brothers. When I was an early teen, my mom was divorced, raising 4 kids and driving us around in a 10 year old chevy van. We lived in a rent house. My dad almost never paid child support. When they finally garnished his wages it was only 500 bucks a month. (He was making like 45k/year).

What the fuck? My mom made mistakes for sure but she always did her best for us. She dedicated her life to providing for us. Now my sister is fucking her up the ass just because mom will take it.
She even wants mom to make up the money that my brothers will not be paying. I'm both furious and heartbroken that my sister is treating mom like shit just because she can.

On top of all that, she's mean to her DOG He's a Labrador Retriever (Chocolate variety). He lives for the tennis ball. OH MY GOD Louie loves the tennis ball. But they never play with him. (I always play with him when I visit) They always make him just lay in his bed. I let him outside to go pee and when he wanted in he barked....kinda quietly. She went to the door to.....let him in??? Nope. She opened the door and yelled "shut up!". I mean god damn. A dog can't just say "fuck this, I'm outta here". A dog loves people unconditionally. He just wants to play. He also has a big lump on his chest and another on his stomach right by a back leg. They won't take him to the vet. She had said I could have him but I'm sure she won't give him to me now just for spite, since I'm taking away my brothers and 2/3 of her house payment. Bitch.

Well, they finally mentioned that they are moving out and I helped them. BIL sez next time I visit I should consider a hotel since they won't have room for me. GUESS WHAT YOU HENPECKED ASS WIPE- I have a room in a 3,000sq ft house! Why the fuck would I want to sleep on your god damned couch????***I*** don't believe in taking a dump on people just because I can.

Mom wishes we could all get along. I figure we don't live in a perfect world and if anyone wants family to kiss her ass then she can kiss mine. Fuck her.
Bummer. Sounds like white trash to me. I chose to distance myself from my own white trash family members. Not worth the drama.
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Old 06-25-2011, 01:53 PM
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Well, here's an idea; how 'bout if sis gets two full time jobs or sells the Honda??
How do you work two full time jobs?

Also, if your mom has no money how are she and your brothers paying almost all the monthly house payments?
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Old 06-25-2011, 02:08 PM
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Good questions! The answers will not be forthcoming, unfortunately as the OP was posted in 2003 and the poster's last activity was in 2004.
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Old 06-25-2011, 02:38 PM
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Eep! How'd I miss that? I'm usually so good about spotting the zombies.
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Old 06-25-2011, 03:00 PM
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This is a very old thread on a personal issue, from someone who doesn't post here any more, so I'm closing it. mumblegrunt, if you want to rant about something, go ahead and start a new thread for that purpose, instead of bringing back threads that have been dormant for years.
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