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Old 05-11-2004, 03:20 PM
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Ladies; secretly catch a guy masturbating....do you watch?

Since I already know what the guys would do there is no need to make this a dual gender question. You know, if it was a female masturbating, yada, yada, what would you do..........

Ladies only (and/or gays too).

Let's say that you're picking up the kids toys in the back yard and you happen to look into your neighbors bathroom window. The wind is gently prying open the window blinds and you catch a glimpse of the neighbor showering. He is also masturbating. He is unaware of your presence and is not doing it to catch your attention, however, the situation and the timing are such that you are in the right place at the right time.


Do you continue watching?

Has this ever happened to you?
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Old 05-11-2004, 04:36 PM
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My first reaction, caught unaware to this scene, would be shock and slight fear. I would assume, at first thougt, he WAS doing it to catch my attention, that the guy woudl be, in short, the classical exhibitionist. I would avert my eyes and walk away so quickly, I would not get a second glance that might tell me otherwise. I have seen an exhibitionists three times in my life, and that has been my response each time. Even though I know that exhibitionists are, as a rule, harmless.

It would be a different thing if a saw an attractive guy in a film masturbating. Then I might enjoy watching out the scene. But caught unaware, with the possibility of the guy harming me...no.
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Old 05-11-2004, 04:53 PM
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I'd probably have to cover my mouth to stifle the surprised laughter, then walk in the opposite direction. Then I'd probably tell my best friend or husband about it and we'd have a laugh. it sounds mean, but it's like getting *whitewalled in public. it might not be funny to the person it's happened to, but on a very immature level, it's damn funny to everyone else.

*whitewall = to pull someone's pants down and reveal their underwear (provided they're wearing any).
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Old 05-11-2004, 05:11 PM
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This happened to an acquaintence of mine. Some guy was masturbating on his front porch, early, early in the morning. It seemed obvious that he assumed no one could see him (for whatever reason—probably because of the early hour).

My friend saw what he was doing front a second story building nearby. After a few moments, she yelled out, "Put on your pants!"

The guy stopped, looked shocked, obviously trying to see where the mysterious voice had come from. Then he scurried inside. Apparently he moved out a few days later.

As for answering the OP, what would I do? If I were in the position that my friend was (seeing some guy cluelessly whacking off on his front porch), I'd probably do something similar to what she did. Or not. (I think the fact that he was doing it in public makes it more likely that I'd say something.) Otherwise, I'd chuckle and avert my eyes. Don't care to see.
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Old 05-11-2004, 05:39 PM
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Ladies, if I might....

A guy with his member out can be threatening in certain situations.

In the spirit of the OP, assume that there is clearly no threat and that the masturbateur is not behaving in any sociopathic or exhitionist fashion. he's just a guy enjoying a private (he thinks) wank.

Carry on....
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Old 05-11-2004, 06:07 PM
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I agree with Inigo Montoya, as long as it is plain he is just tossing off for fun and thinks he is in private, I would basically sneak away and not disturb him. I have no problem with people tossing off.

Well...maybe if he were hung either exceedingly well, or put on an exceptional performance or was hung *ahem* differently [like the guy with a double helping of penises...] I might give him a round of applause and run away VERY fast
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Old 05-11-2004, 06:49 PM
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If the situation was as discribed in the OP.... I would probably watch. I mean, its perfectly natural... and funny... and intriguing. Especially if this said man, was a hottie.

But yep, to be perfectly honest, I would wacth. I might even call a friend over... Fun for all!!!
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Old 05-11-2004, 07:15 PM
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Nope.
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Old 05-11-2004, 07:22 PM
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I'd watch.
Never happened to see anyone masturbating, though....
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Old 05-11-2004, 07:27 PM
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Hmm, reading the title, I was thinking more of the situation depicted in Fast Times at Ridgemont High... where a female walks in and suprises the onanist, leaving no doubt in the mind of either as to the act being committed, the intent of either party, or the assumed privacy.

Heh... bonus points if the onanist is fantasizing about the female who interrupts him.
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Old 05-11-2004, 07:28 PM
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TMI Warning

I don't want to catch some "guy" doing it. I want to catch my husband!
I know, I know...you're thinking WTF?! It's a reciprocal situation. For some reason, he thinks it's sexy to watch me, but insists I shouldn't even want to watch him. I wanna see him do it, dammit! Lord knows he's watched me do it enough that I deserve one instance of turn about being fair play. Hell, he's even got photographs. I've got nothing but insatiable curiosity now.


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Old 05-11-2004, 08:06 PM
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Old 05-11-2004, 09:25 PM
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Me, too, FaerieBeth! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I beginning to fear Mr. Tech may never relent...

As to the OP, if the person in question was worth watching, I'm afraid I'd have to watch.
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Old 05-11-2004, 10:03 PM
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I caught my ex-husband in the act, once. I came home from work early, and apparently rather quietly, because he didn't seem to notice that I was home. I walked upstairs into our bedroom, which had no door, and found him enjoying himself along with a porn flick and bottle of my body lotion.

Here's how it went:

Him:

Me: "Oops, sorry."

I backed out of the room and went back downstairs. I didn't think it was weird, but it seemed to make him feel awkward. He came downstairs a few minutes later, clothed and very embarrassed, and refused to discuss it.

Note, that was my EX-husband. My SO is far more open about such things, and much more fun. Sure, I'd watch him, but he doesn't bother to do it secretly. And no other man in the world is as sexy as him, so I'd pass on anyone else.
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Old 05-11-2004, 10:49 PM
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I lived in a second floor apartment, right above a nice, attractive straight guy who happened to enjoy sitting naked in front of his window. Although he had mini-blinds, they were adjusted so that while walking up the stairs to get to my apartment, I got a very clear view of everything. Yes, I caught him masturbating on more than one occasion and yes, I watched a few times. And there was no chance of really getting caught at night, since I could see in, but he couldn't see out.

My neighbor on the second floor and her boyfriend told me that they made loud comments outside to let him know that they saw him naked....but he never acknowledged it by putting on clothes or adjusting the mini-blinds. I was probably the only one who saw the whole show

If I had to guess, I'd say he was more clueless than exhibitionist.
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Old 05-12-2004, 12:16 AM
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Never caught a neighbor or stranger doing this but I did catch a boyfriend going to town. I was only able to watch for a few seconds before he noticed me and he was extremely embarrassed. I tried to assure him it was fine by me, sexy even, but he wouldn't believe me. My first major boyfriend (of 7 years) sent me a video tape of his "technique" (after shaving his crotch area) but I wasn't so impressed. It kind of creeped me out since I had barely started having sex at that point (I was only 15).

These days, I let my honey know that it's a turn-on and he just loves to make me happy. Whatta man!
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Old 05-12-2004, 05:21 AM
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If the guy was ugly, it would probably be like watching a car wreck; I'd be horrified and repulsed, but I'd probably stare for a second until I "came to."

If the guy was hot....hell yeah I would. Maybe other girls don't agree, but I think watching a guy whack off is sexy. It took Mr. Levins awhile to overcome his Catholic upbringing, but eventually I convinced him, too.

The only reason I wouldn't look is if I had any hint that he knew I was watching, or that that was his goal in doing it.

Then it would become threatening and really revolting.
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Old 05-12-2004, 09:55 AM
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Slight hijack, but I don't keep it a secret from my wife. She even asks me to "perform" for her. I'm lucky that way.
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Old 05-12-2004, 11:26 AM
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Slight hijack, but I don't keep it a secret from my wife. She even asks me to "perform" for her. I'm lucky that way.
oooo I guess I am not the only one that does that - I ask mrAru to now and then as part of foreplay, though i usually end up *helping*

Although I admit I find the 'money shots' in porn to be downright silly ... at home that would never cut it, *someone* has to do the laundry
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Old 05-12-2004, 12:21 PM
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Bleh, SHAKES... get thee to the local bar, and soon. We don't need you invading this wonderful thread devoted to real humans. We already know how generous you are with your God-given gifts to womankind *cough* asswipe *cough*. In my eyes, you can't redeem yourself.
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Old 05-12-2004, 12:21 PM
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Depends on circumstance.

I do truly enjoy watching a man masturbate. Not necessarily the spew shot, but the act of a man stroking himself is a beautiful sight.

(Gets momentarily lost in memories...sigh)

On the OP- if it were a stranger, and I knew there wasn't any chance of him knowing I was watching, yeah I would. If it were a partner of mine, yeah I would watch also.

BUT, if it were Scuzzy McScuzzy in front of the Hustler mags, nope. Ditto if it were part of an exhibitionist kick.
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Old 05-12-2004, 12:27 PM
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Ignore my comment to SHAKES here... mistakes happen when you've got two windows open (nerd=me).
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Old 05-12-2004, 12:30 PM
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I'd probably stare for a second until I "came to."
On first reading, I thought this was a misspelling. However a quick review reveals that it is probably not, and I am very disappointed.
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Old 05-12-2004, 12:57 PM
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If she can't handle the sight of a man masturbating, she shouldn't have sat next to me on the bus.
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Old 05-12-2004, 01:47 PM
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If she can't handle the sight of a man masturbating, she shouldn't have sat next to me on the bus.
If I had been drinking something, it would have been spewed all over my screen after reading this.
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Old 05-12-2004, 02:43 PM
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If it was a partner I would watch. If it was a random person who wasn't doing it for my attention (didn't know I was watching) and I was certain I wouldn't get busted, I'd definitely watch.
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Old 05-12-2004, 03:15 PM
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I can't say I'd be the least bit interested in watching, really. Guys jerking off aren't arousing, or even particularly interesting. It's like watching someone eat or pee or brush their teeth--part of just about everybody's life, and a fairly boring part at that.

If we're talking random stranger whose house I happen to be passing, I'd keep walking. If it were our neighbors, I'd rush in to the house to scrub my eyes with bleach and steel wool. (Our neighbors are NOT the sort of people you want to ever see naked or think of as sexual beings, trust me.) If it were my husband, I'd wander off to see what was on television.
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Old 05-12-2004, 04:20 PM
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What about gay guys and gals? Is it a "men like to watch" thing or a "ick! penis" thing?
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Old 05-12-2004, 05:20 PM
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Originally Posted by Inigo Montoya
A guy with his member out can be threatening in certain situations.

Yes, this can be quite dangerous. Someone could put an eye out!


And I don't agree with your base assumption that all guys would watch gals "tickling the ivory". I would be somewhat embarassed to catch a strange woman out doing this. Now if it was intended for my viewing pleasure it's very erotic, but as an accident I'd feel a little sorry and embarassed and would just sneak quietly away. (There might be exceptional cases, but this is generally true for me)
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Old 05-12-2004, 05:43 PM
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And I don't agree with your base assumption that all guys would watch gals "tickling the ivory".
Yer refering to the OP, right? Cause...you know...I didn't go there.
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Old 05-12-2004, 07:43 PM
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Yer refering to the OP, right? Cause...you know...I didn't go there.
Yes, sorry for the lack of clarity. And there is a separate guy watching gal thread out there now, so I'll desist from any further hijacks or hijinks here.
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Old 05-13-2004, 02:53 AM
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The only time this has happened to me was when I was walking through the city park on a Sunday morning and happened by a dero making love to a nearby wall. I just kept walking muttering "gross". Definitely not an exciting moment in my day.
Now if it was the neighbour in the shower scenario, I would probably watch.
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