I am completely astounded by this article. From “And men are astounded by how long women can go without thinking about sex, and women are astounded by how long men can go without thinking about housecleaning” to “Almost every level of happiness, and positiveness in relationships is related to housework”, I can’t quite believe that they’re really breaking things down to “Men want sex” and “women want a clean house.” What is this, 1950?
It even goes so far to say that what a guy should give a woman for Valentine’s day is a complete housecleaning. WTF?!?
If Mr. Athena came home on Valentine’s Day and announced he was cleaning the house, I’d kick his butt out the door and tell him to not come back until he has a bottle of champagne and a dozen roses. Trust me, I want that WAY more than I want a clean house.
So am I way off base here, or are you all gonna agree with that article and tell me that sex in a sparkling clean bedroom is the ultimate fantasy for the bulk of the American public?
I wouldn’t call it a fantasy, exactly, but yeah, having things looking nice and running smoothly is far more likely to put me in the mood than flowers or chocolate or booze. I wouldn’t require that he do it all himself. But I do get frustrated when I feel that I’m being taken for granted in the childcare/errand/housework department. And I definitely don’t feel romantic when I’m tired and anxious.
Please pardon the drool, I got a little excited about the thought of a clean house as a surprise gift.
I don’t value chocolates, flowers or jewelry much, other’s do and that’s all well and happy, so there you go. I’d totally go bonkers for the thoughtfulness and effort of cleaning the house.
Hypothetically, it doesn’t make a lot of sense, I’ll give you that. I think of champagne and roses and other typical V-day gifts as Things I Could Buy if I were interested, which I’m not. I’m just as capable of cleaning the house as I am of shopping, of course, but the difference for me lies in the fact that I desire a clean house but often have neither time or energy to accomplish it. So him cleaning the house would speak volumes about how well he knows me, not to mention that’s it takes way more time and effort than just stopping by a store on his way home.
It’s not “I can’t freak if there’s a sinkful of dishes” as much as “what a thoughtful gift of relaxation” since it would cancel a good chunk of my permanent to-do list.
Yeah. I’m not really interested in flowers. I would love to have a totally clean house. A man doing dishes is damn sexy. If the house is messy, then it bothers me on a subconcious level, and I find it difficult to relax.
When I came home from a trip recently and found that my boyfriend had cleaned the house from top to bottom, I literally jumped his bones right then and there.
The effort and thought of it was a huge turn-on. And, there was more time to have sex because the house wasn’t in disarray, and my mind wasn’t burdened by it.
:smack: (… and at once he heads for Border’s to get books on housecleaning hints, and for the local -Mart to get mops, brooms, buckets, sponges, various cleansers, vacuum cleaner bags…)
I second (third and fourth on preview) the fact that if my house is clean and tidy, my mind is free to fill with other things … at the top of the list is how sexy Mr. Adoptamom’s butt is which always leads to what HE’S most interested in. It’s a win-win situation.
GorillaMan, the article measured " how long women can go without thinking about sex" by how long it took them to take the inititiative, if the husband waited for the woman to initiate sex.
I’m pretty confident that there’s no way I could survive a relationship with someone that needed more than a favor like a clean house for Valentine’s day.
The wife and I fall pretty neatly within the stereotype, sad to say. While we’re both fairly tidy, she has a much lower tolerance for disorder than I do, so she knows that if I’m cleaning beyond the usual routine stuff, it’s because I know it’ll make her happy. And it does, oddly enough. When she was out of town a few weeks ago, I gave the house a thorough cleaning before she got home. She was quite touched. (A lot more touched than she was by my Saran Wrap bodysuit, let me tell you.)
I like a clean house. Less distractions. Material things are nice, but you know, if the house is a mess, roses and champagne is just going to add to the clutter. UGH!
The cleaner the house is, the more time there is for sex! Mr. Stasaeon is very anal about housekeeping, too, which means…
Aw, you can make your own jokes from here on out. You will anyway.
