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Old 01-10-2007, 04:54 PM
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How does an orgy happen?

Maybe I've been reading to much about the seedy side of world history: Popes, bishops, princes and kings living debauched lives and the like.

Is there an orgy coordinator? Person with a clip board, "Please remember to strech before entering the anal penetration area. Please watch your step!" Does everyone spontaneously decide to take their clothes off and fuck?
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:03 PM
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A good orgy requires organization and planning. What happens if you run out of lube half-way through? Will the chocolate sauce stain the couch? Will the whole thing terrorize the cat? So much to consider. Best to hire a pro, rather than attempt to plan one yourself.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:04 PM
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I imagine the popes, kings, etc. could just ask someone to round up however many people they want. OTOH, my ex-roommate works at a hospital where he says there's a "Naughty Nurses" group that rounds up a whole bunch of young hospital employees via MySpace and organizes a big orgy. (Coworkers only because everyone knows who's on the pill, who's got herpes, etc. It's a brilliant idea.)
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:05 PM
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UH-OH! No listing in my yellow pages under Orgy Planner.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:06 PM
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Best to hire a pro, rather than attempt to plan one yourself.
Well damn! I thought I could skip the middle man (juvenile giggle) to save a few bucks.

Honestly, I am very boring, especially when it comes to sex. Just having a lot of random, strange questions in my head this week.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:08 PM
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I'm impressed that this thread has been viewed 6 times and is up to 4 posts. I expected a lot more people thinking this very question to themselves and only opening the thread in hopes of also finding an answer.

I don't know how house parties turn into orgies (my guess is alcohol and illegal substances), but I do know that several big cities have dedicated clubs for it.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:12 PM
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OTOH, my ex-roommate works at a hospital where he says there's a "Naughty Nurses" group that rounds up a whole bunch of young hospital employees via MySpace and organizes a big orgy. (Coworkers only because everyone knows who's on the pill, who's got herpes, etc. It's a brilliant idea.)
Would be a really interesting new plot twist for Grey's Anatomy.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:13 PM
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I'd be happy to explain. Who has a paypal account?
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:27 PM
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Does everyone spontaneously decide to take their clothes off and fuck?
The only literal orgy I ever attended started as a run-of-the-mill nerd party. A little after midnight, the hostess loudly declared that anyone who wished to remain were required to strip down, and everyone else could hit the road. Good times.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:32 PM
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Just remembering that obliterated my ability to compose a grammatically-correct sentence. Huh.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:34 PM
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The only literal orgy I ever attended started as a run-of-the-mill nerd party. A little after midnight, the hostess loudly declared that anyone who wished to remain were required to strip down, and everyone else could hit the road. Good times.
Yeah, those band camp nerds really know how to party.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:36 PM
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The only literal orgy I ever attended started as a run-of-the-mill nerd party. A little after midnight, the hostess loudly declared that anyone who wished to remain were required to strip down, and everyone else could hit the road. Good times.
At a nerd party? So, you had yourself in the kitchen...over the table...in the bathroom...



Good question, Mouse. Never having participated, been invited to participate, or had even the faintest idea that there were orgies going on anywhere, I have no idea about the answers.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:40 PM
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How many is necessary for a legitimate orgy as opposed to just, say, a four-way or something?
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:58 PM
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How many is necessary for a legitimate orgy as opposed to just, say, a four-way or something?
According to Benny Hill, all that's required is one extra person, not invoved, to say "Aw, gee!"
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:03 PM
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How many is necessary for a legitimate orgy as opposed to just, say, a four-way or something?
In my experience, all it needs is some nurses and a passing window-cleaner.
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:23 PM
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Not easy to set up, according to reliable sources. [URL=http://www.theonion.com/content/node/27879]
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:37 PM
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Would be a really interesting new plot twist for Grey's Anatomy.
I seem to recall the pilot wasn't too different from that. Less formal and less polygamous, but still...

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Good question, Mouse. Never having participated, been invited to participate, or had even the faintest idea that there were orgies going on anywhere, I have no idea about the answers.
I wouldn't be surprised if Calgary had at least one swinger's club that hosts 1-3 orgies a week. San Diego does, though I've never been.

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How many is necessary for a legitimate orgy as opposed to just, say, a four-way or something?
Enough that there isn't time to get everyone's number and see them again.
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:45 PM
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Enough that there isn't time to get everyone's number and see them again.
Not to mention the thank you cards. it gets complicated if there are too many people.
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:51 PM
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Not to mention the thank you cards. it gets complicated if there are too many people.
It can get embarrassing as well when the action moved faster than the brains.

"Thank for for the lap dance and rimjob Betty. It really brightened up my weekend."



That was Carli who looks similar but is a little bit more plump. Betty is going to be pissed at that insinuation. You will be lucky to get the left side of a double hand-job next time.
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:59 PM
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Take several college students of both sexes & all possible orientations. Get together for bridge. Oops, wrong number for bridge. Okay, poker. Add substances--say, Annie Green Springs strawberry wine & something you can smoke. Decide it's gonna be strip poker. Etc.

Finish with chocolate chip cookies and water (the only potable left).
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Old 01-10-2007, 07:02 PM
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Take several college students of both sexes & all possible orientations. Get together for bridge. Oops, wrong number for bridge. Okay, poker. Add substances--say, Annie Green Springs strawberry wine & something you can smoke. Decide it's gonna be strip poker. Etc.

Finish with chocolate chip cookies and water (the only potable left).
Yeah, I've seen that one.
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Old 01-10-2007, 07:04 PM
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UH-OH! No listing in my yellow pages under Orgy Planner.
In biz school, that's called "unmet demand". Sounds like a business opportunity if I ever heard of one.
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Old 01-10-2007, 07:36 PM
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How many is necessary for a legitimate orgy as opposed to just, say, a four-way or something?
I say minimum of five. Four is two couples.
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Old 01-10-2007, 07:51 PM
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In biz school, that's called "unmet demand". Sounds like a business opportunity if I ever heard of one.
I'll bet there's probably a p0rn version of a certain J.Lo vehicle that's way ahead of you on this one.
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Old 01-10-2007, 07:55 PM
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The one I attended was pretty much an open invitation amoung a group of regulars at a club. 'Hey orgy at my place at 2'.

I think orgy's are alot less enjoyable in real life then they look in pornos. To many people and no organization makes for alot of kneeing and elbowing.

4 seems to me as a starting point for an orgy. Though if it is 2 couples that doesn't count.
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Old 01-10-2007, 08:24 PM
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Back when I was going to art college I went to a "Mazola" party - empty appartment (or house, I suppose), black garbage bags taped up all over the place, walls, floor, etc, mazola, naked or semi naked people.

It wasn't actually billed as an "orgy" per se, but there were a boat load of people fucking, so I guess it qualifies.

So, I guess that's one way.
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Old 01-10-2007, 08:42 PM
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The only literal orgy I ever attended started as a run-of-the-mill nerd party. A little after midnight, the hostess loudly declared that anyone who wished to remain were required to strip down, and everyone else could hit the road. Good times.
And which did you do? Don't leave us hanging brother, details, details...
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Old 01-10-2007, 08:44 PM
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A friend of ours keeps whining that he wants to have a naked party. We keep telling him that one doesn't plan a good naked party; it has to be spontaneous.

We have another couple in our neighborhood that broke up because they were wife-swapping and couple B ended up liking each other more than they liked their respective spouses. I asked the same question: How do wife swappers ever connect up? I mean, that has a great potential for ending the evening on a real sour note.
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Old 01-10-2007, 08:48 PM
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Hey, I just realized we should have a Doper orgy. Now that would be fun.
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Old 01-10-2007, 08:48 PM
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All you need is drums to start an orgy party.
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Old 01-10-2007, 08:53 PM
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It's got to be more than two couples, otherwise it's just swapping. If you're going to organize an orgy, remember to:
1. Make sure everyone understands that No Means No.
2. Provide condoms. A variety of shapes, colors or even flavors enhances the experience.
3. Provide lubrication.
4. Provide clean linens and a pile of handtowels, and leave them out where people can see them.
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Old 01-10-2007, 09:20 PM
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I asked the same question: How do wife swappers ever connect up? I mean, that has a great potential for ending the evening on a real sour note.
I wonder this myself. It's not like anyone's ever asked us, "so, you guys wanna make a trade tonight?" (Maybe we're just really unattractive, or something. )

But really--how do potential wife swappers and orgiers find each other?
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Old 01-10-2007, 09:23 PM
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I wonder this myself. It's not like anyone's ever asked us, "so, you guys wanna make a trade tonight?" (Maybe we're just really unattractive, or something. )

But really--how do potential wife swappers and orgiers find each other?
Like everything else there are websites for it. Before websites it was done through networking.
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Old 01-10-2007, 09:24 PM
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How does an orgy happen? Well, when a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy love each other VERY much ...
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Old 01-10-2007, 09:36 PM
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It's got to be more than two couples, otherwise it's just swapping. If you're going to organize an orgy, remember to:
1. Make sure everyone understands that No Means No.
2. Provide condoms. A variety of shapes, colors or even flavors enhances the experience.
3. Provide lubrication.
4. Provide clean linens and a pile of handtowels, and leave them out where people can see them.
You know, sometimes I forget just what an incredible resource our moderators are. And then they say something like this.

Czarcasm , sir, you should run for public office. Your country needs you.
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Old 01-10-2007, 09:41 PM
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You know, sometimes I forget just what an incredible resource our moderators are. And then they say something like this.

Czarcasm , sir, you should run for public office. Your country needs you.
No, I think I'll stay where I am most needed in these trying times. Moderating orgies is a thankless task, but somebody has to do it.
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:10 PM
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Like everything else there are websites for it. Before websites it was done through networking.
Okay--but how did you know who to network with??
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:18 PM
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They'll find you.

Anecdote: Back in the early 80's there was an active swapping group going on among the troops stationed at Fort Richardson, Alaska. Because several of them were in my roommate's unit, and he couldn't/wouldn't attend, the invitations tended to get tossed my way. The girl I was dating at the time was into that scene, so that was no problem. Not really my scene, but an interesting experience nonetheless.

Pre-AIDS was such an easier time.......
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:21 PM
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Okay--but how did you know who to network with??
Generally word of mouth. There were "hot spots" where you could expect to meet some swingers, from there you generally hooked up indepedently for future activities. For example, in my area there are a couple "adult theatres" with "semi-private viewing rooms". Basically a bunch of chairs and a projector playing a porno. On Saturday nights they have "couple's night" where only couples are allowed in the theatre. If you see a couple going in there, odds are reasonably good that they're into at least some level of swinging.

Enjoy,
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:35 PM
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Oh FormerMarineGuy...where are you?
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:38 PM
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Okay--but how did you know who to network with??
I would guess you just keep asking people until someone doesn't give you the hairy eyeball in return.
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:52 PM
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In Soviet Russia, orgy organizes YOU.

You know, the good Ol' Soviet Russia joke will never get old. Never.
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Old 01-10-2007, 10:53 PM
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UH-OH! No listing in my yellow pages under Orgy Planner.
Did you look under "Ball Bearings?"
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Old 01-11-2007, 10:18 AM
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Good question, Mouse. Never having participated, been invited to participate, or had even the faintest idea that there were orgies going on anywhere, I have no idea about the answers.
I lived with a polyamorous couple for a few years. They would tell me when "company" was going to be over.
I learned two things very quickly:
1. I'm not the poly type. (They asked if I'd like to join, I declined. I guess that counts as an orgy invitation.)
2. Always call before coming home unexpectedly.

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I wouldn't be surprised if Calgary had at least one swinger's club that hosts 1-3 orgies a week.
A couple of people from my department are moving to Canada. Maybe this is one of the perks?
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Old 01-11-2007, 11:08 AM
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No, I think I'll stay where I am most needed in these trying times. Moderating orgies is a thankless task, but somebody has to do it.
I bet it's thankless. Who wants a moderate orgy? That's a rhetorical question.
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Old 01-11-2007, 11:16 AM
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Read Marquis de Sade's stuff. IIRC, he organized orgies on a regular basis (irl, as well as in his writings. Philosophy in the Bedroom comes to mind.
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Old 01-11-2007, 11:45 AM
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Read Marquis de Sade's stuff. IIRC, he organized orgies on a regular basis (irl, as well as in his writings. Philosophy in the Bedroom comes to mind.
I always thought Sade was more the internet hero type (17th Century version). I do know that he got into considerable trouble on several occassions when he served prostitutes drugged chocolate, in the hope of making them wild and uninhibited.
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Old 01-11-2007, 11:55 AM
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I imagine the popes, kings, etc. could just ask someone to round up however many people they want. OTOH, my ex-roommate works at a hospital where he says there's a "Naughty Nurses" group that rounds up a whole bunch of young hospital employees via MySpace and organizes a big orgy. (Coworkers only because everyone knows who's on the pill, who's got herpes, etc. It's a brilliant idea.)
I think that qualifies as taking "inappropriate use of corporate Internet technologies" to a whole new level.
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Old 01-11-2007, 12:00 PM
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I do know that he got into considerable trouble on several occassions when he served prostitutes drugged chocolate, in the hope of making them wild and uninhibited.
That doesn't sound like a good idea. Depending on what he used, the only thing that would become uninhibited would be their bowels. (Unless he was into that sort of thing.)


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I think that qualifies as taking "inappropriate use of corporate Internet technologies" to a whole new level.
I was thinking that this looked like a whole slew of HIPPA violations!
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Old 01-11-2007, 12:01 PM
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How does an orgy happen? Well, when a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy and a mommy and a daddy love each other VERY much ...
Love it! That is funny stuff right there
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