A(nother) sex poll: What common sex act won't you do? Are indifferent to? (TMI)

[Belrix]

Not a poll to find out if you're not into coprophilia or similar. Just nice "normal" sex & foreplay stuff.

Not into kissing? Won't give/receive felatio/cunnilingus? (Common enough to be "normal" IMO). Immune to intercourse?

I was courting a woman during my latest dating period who admitted to me that she was almost completely immune to the pleasures of regular sex. Yeah, there was the closeness but there was never going to be an orgasm or even much sexual pleasure for her. She could masturbate herself to an orgasm but what she described was almost Yoga: a way of positioning her legs, clamping her knees together, and exercising her way to orgasm.

I tried to go down on my wife the other day and she just pulled me up - she's very rarely receptive to cunnilingus - usually it just tickles she says. Just the touch of my hand down there can set her giggling. She also goes from 0 to 60 in like 5 seconds. Foreplay is almost wasted on her. (She says I'll get no sympathy from men on this, though.)

Me? Kissing is fun but not a way to really get in turned on. It's like step 1 of the many-step arousal process. I'll never get beyond "Hmm, this is promising" with just lip-to-lip kissing. I'm not indifferent to it, it's just not at all the set-my-loins-aflame thing I thought it would be when I was young and inexperienced.

[Telperien]

Being on top during intercourse. I am highly in favor of pretty much any other usual thing, though.

[Cervaise]

I had a girlfriend a while back who refused to let me go down on her. She wasn't antisexual or anything, she loved knockin' boots, but she was simply embarrassed about the look of her girl parts and didn't want anybody getting that close. Made me sad.

For my part: Is a three-way common? Because I'm really not interested.

[Acid Lamp]

Hetero Male

Anal. Tried it a few times and never understood the appeal of it. Even with a partner who was into it, we found it to be painful for her, and far too much work when there is a vagina ready made for the purpose.

[DigitalC]

Originally Posted by Cervaise

For my part: Is a three-way common? Because I'm really not interested.

Ditto on this, ill be interested in two girls at the same time when i grow a second penis.

[WOOKINPANUB]

I just got done having a conversation with The Lad about this (and I'm at my desk at work )whereby I dashed his hopes of the old 69. I like giving and receiving, but not at the same time. I find it too distracting. I guess I'm not much of a multitasker.

[dactylic hexameter]

Totally agree with the 69 thing. I enjoy both halves, just not as a whole.

[AHunter3]

I won't refuse being the provider of oral sex, but it doesn't do much for me... might, I suppose, if I were with someone who really went wild from it but that hasn't happened...

Will refuse being on the receiving end. I just don't like mouths that much. Not warm enough, and food particles and stuff, yecch.

[HeyHomie]

Kissing does nothing for either Mrs. Homie or myself. And she refuses to let me go down on her - it squigs her out for some reason.

[Weirddave]

"I would do anything for love, but I won't do that." would have been a much better thread title, BTW.

[freckafree]

I'm pretty much OK with anything that doesn't involve pain or more than two people.

[SCSimmons]

I'm not drunk enough to definitively answer this question yet. I'll check back in half an hour, if I'm still conscious.

[bouv]

I wouldn't say there's anything ordinary I wouldn't do, but I dated one girl who didn't like to receive oral (very uptight about her "area," as it were...she hated me even looking at her "down there" most of the time!)

I also dated two other girls who hated giving oral.

[ZipperJJ]

I'm not a fan of receiving oral (I'm a woman). I used to be into it but I had a bad experience with a dude who made me feel weird about it, so I am not into it anymore. The last guy I dated wasn't into giving it anyway so it worked out.

I don't like receiving anal but I've tried it a few times. It's very strangely tedious and uncomfortable. Does nothing for me.

[SCSimmons]

Originally Posted by SCSimmons

I'm not drunk enough to definitively answer this question yet. I'll check back in half an hour, if I'm still conscious.

OK, I can see the botttom of my bottle now, so I guess it's time to answer the question ...

What was the question again?

Oh, right ... Um, I can't think of anything I wouldn't at least try. There are things I've tried that didn't do much for me, so I, probably wouldn't try them again, but I'm not sure if they count as comomon. (Bondage, for example ... but I don't know how many people really do that.)

[LorieSmurf]

absolutely no anal. I have a pussy for that. If ya want anal that badly, you best be finding someone else. Luckily my hubby thinks it's gross too.

[dalej42]

I don't mind giving oral for a short time, but if you need it for hours, we'd better get a third.

[olivesmarch4th]

Anal is gross and painful and not remotely pleasurable and I don't understand why anyone would want to do that. (Ok, I understand why dudes would want to do it... to a woman or to one another... but I'm not grasping how any woman could find it pleasurable.)

[Boyo Jim]

Do gerbils count as normal? No gerbils!

[Antigen]

Originally Posted by dactylic hexameter

Totally agree with the 69 thing. I enjoy both halves, just not as a whole.

I agree. Plus, appropriate positioning can get rather awkward.

[CaerieD]

Dirty talking where the "sexy" language involves words like "slut", "whore", or anything else insulting/objectifying is flat out. In high school I was sort of kind of seeing a guy who tried to get raunchy on the phone, which was fine until he got to the part about me being a "dirty little whore" who wanted him to xyz.

[unstrung]

One woman I was dating a few years back was very into the idea of putting her finger in my butt. She was adamant that other men she had been with had really, really loved it. Maybe its true and they all found it utterly fantastic. But none for me thanks. Nope. Nuh-uh. Sorry. Not gonna happen.

[An Arky]

Anal, S&M, bondage, group sex or watching my wife with some huge black man.

Unfortunately, those things seem to be the most popular acts in porn, these days, and it's getting really difficult to find any without them.

[Full Metal Lotus]

The whole "talk dirty" stuff. Don't like to hear it, and can't do it with out feeling artificial. I am also not into "spanking"- yrs ago I had a GF that was into it. I tried it, and again felt artificial+ nervous about actually hurting her.

FML

[Freudian Slit]

Intercourse feels good, but it won't get me off--but I think that's pretty common in women.

Also don't like cunnilingus...it just feels grody to me. I'm not sure if the fact that my first lover was so grossed out by it he could almost never bring himself to do it (and even told me that he had once been so creeped out, he threw up because of it) has something to do with that hang up.

[Foxy40]

Missionary position. I will do it but dislike it. It is boring, bland and I can't get pleasure in that way. Fortunately, very rarely have I had to do it more than a couple of times with a partner. Usually they don't mind the other positions.

[Telperien]

Originally Posted by olivesmarch4th

Anal is gross and painful and not remotely pleasurable and I don't understand why anyone would want to do that. (Ok, I understand why dudes would want to do it... to a woman or to one another... but I'm not grasping how any woman could find it pleasurable.)

Not everyone likes what you like, and conversely, not everyone dislikes what you dislike. That's all I'm going to say, considering the way TMI I've gone into about my sexual proclivities here over the years.

[Illuminatiprimus]

Rimming - pretty common in the gay world, but it completely squicks me out (there's always the obligatory rimming scene in gay porn and 99% of the time I skip past it). There is no fucking way in hell I'm putting my tongue in someone else's bum hole. Had it done to me and it's quite nice, but they're straight into the bathroom for a dose of mouthwash if they want me to kiss them afterwards.

[Full Metal Lotus]

I thought of another one! That thing with the collander, the toaster (not plugged in, that would be sick!) and the clown nose. I know that most people enjoy that act, but it just squiffs me out.. plus, what if the handle of the colander breaks off, just as the clown nose comes "into play"? What then, huh?

Put me down as a prude if you like, and by no means do I wish to imply I am judging others, but sheesh!

FML

[Freudian Slit]

Originally Posted by Full Metal Lotus

I thought of another one! That thing with the collander, the toaster (not plugged in, that would be sick!) and the clown nose. I know that most people enjoy that act, but it just squiffs me out.. plus, what if the handle of the colander breaks off, just as the clown nose comes "into play"? What then, huh?

If you use a spatula instead, it's way more fun.

[Manda JO]

Originally Posted by Freudian Slit

If you use a spatula instead, it's way more fun.

And with these new silicon spatulas, safe at high temperatures!

[maggenpye]

Spanking - a boyfriend used to give me a thwack across the cheeks to let me know he was just ... on ... the ... edge.


Absolute passion killer. 60 to 0 in .001 seconds. Guaranteed that at least one of us would not reach orgasm - well, another orgasm


And that wasn't even the reason we broke up!

Oh, and spatula? Surely you mean the egg whisk.

[Freudian Slit]

Originally Posted by maggenpye

Oh, and spatula? Surely you mean the egg whisk.

Egg whisk? Really, it's true what they say--it takes all kinds to make a world. *shudder*

[eleanorigby]

Originally Posted by LorieSmurf

absolutely no anal. I have a pussy for that. If ya want anal that badly, you best be finding someone else. Luckily my hubby thinks it's gross too.

Yup. And I have no interest in a three way or having anyone watch/spotlights or mirrors/home videos/web cams. I'd rather do than perform, if you follow me.

But that's about it. Unless you come at me wearing a diaper. Buh-bye!

[Telperien]

You know, this thread has made me realize that I apparently have a much narrower definition of common sex acts than other people do.

[Procrustus]

Not sure it fits "common," but we tried the peeing on each other and were completely indifferent to it.

Everything else mentioned above we enjoy, at least from time to time. Threesomes were a surprise; for us it was fun and drama free, but at the same time wasn't so unbelievably great that we feel we are missing something if we don't do it again or frequently.

[melodyharmonius]

i don't like being called a slut or a whore. I don't mind being a "naughty girl" once in a while - but I am not in to degradation.

I enjoy anal as a change of scene, and I enjoy some light bondage, but I find I'm not as turned on by the extreme stuff that once fascinated me.

I like to say that before I was really turned on by sex, but now I'm way more in to making love. Probably because I finally met someone I make love with.

[Hostile Dialect]

Originally Posted by Belrix

I tried to go down on my wife the other day and she just pulled me up - she's very rarely receptive to cunnilingus - usually it just tickles she says. Just the touch of my hand down there can set her giggling.

Beware! I was once involved with a girl like this, and she turned out to be a lesbian. She left me for my best friend, who was female. Turned out it only tickled when men did it.

My contribution is the cowgirl position. Does nothing for me. That and dirty talk. It's a big turnoff AFAIC. I also agree with Illuminatiprimus about rimming. The whole concept is disgusting to me and I hope to never participate in it or have to watch it.

Originally Posted by AHunter3

I won't refuse being the provider of oral sex, but it doesn't do much for me... might, I suppose, if I were with someone who really went wild from it but that hasn't happened...

QFT. As for receiving oral sex, it's only rarely ever gotten me off.

Originally Posted by unstrung

One woman I was dating a few years back was very into the idea of putting her finger in my butt. She was adamant that other men she had been with had really, really loved it. Maybe its true and they all found it utterly fantastic. But none for me thanks. Nope. Nuh-uh. Sorry. Not gonna happen.

FTR, the prostate gland (which is within finger reach of the anal entry) has been described as "the male G-spot". My ass is a one-way street, personally, but I at least understand why so many men like it.

Originally Posted by eleanorigby

But that's about it. Unless you come at me wearing a diaper. Buh-bye!

I hope you realize that's not a "common sex act". It's way less common than bondage, which, IIRC, you are also repulsed by. Why is the diaper thing relevant? I'm curious. (FTR, the whole diaper thing is a fetish too far, if you ask me. I don't have a problem with other people doing it, but if they want to do it with me, they've got another thing coming.)

[Procrustus]

Originally Posted by Hostile Dialect

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QFT. As for receiving oral sex, it's only rarely ever gotten me off.

That's true for me too. But I still like it quite a bit. Far from indifferent.

[eleanorigby]

Originally Posted by melodyharmonius

I like to say that before I was really turned on by sex, but now I'm way more in to making love. Probably because I finally met someone I make love with.

You can't say that HERE! It's sex, baby, all night and all day--no need to bring commitment, affection, trust and respect into the mix....






Hostile Dialect--I know it's not common*, but once I typed I was good to go for anything else, I thought I had better mention that I wasn't really good to go for "anything else"--and diapers popped into my head. A man in a diaper would have me laughing so hard, I'd lose any desire for sex. Blame Dan Savage's column for the notion (which I've been reading lately). What does my dislike of bondage have to do with anything?--add it to the list then along with animals, kitchen appliances, produce and smaller automobile parts.**




* for all we know, it's more common than we think. I don't want to know how common it is.

**joke, much like the diaper comment, but I thought I had better stave off any more delving into my predilections.

[maggenpye]

Originally Posted by Freudian Slit

Egg whisk? Really, it's true what they say--it takes all kinds to make a world. *shudder*

Please say you're wooshing me, the egg whisk was a joke.

Oh and threeway, apparently this is common? Not for me. Dress-ups and bondage just make me giggle.

Dear Og, I'm vanilla!

[Freudian Slit]

Originally Posted by maggenpye

Please say you're wooshing me, the egg whisk was a joke.

Yep, the whole thing was a joke...I was just playing along.

[maggenpye]

I have got to stop contributing to these threads - I post that I don't like spanking and realise that I've implied I am into all sorts of other things I hadn't even considered. I play along with a joke and worry that I've been taken seriously.

Real sex is much easier than talking about it here.

[eleanorigby]

Originally Posted by maggenpye

I have got to stop contributing to these threads - I post that I don't like spanking and realise that I've implied I am into all sorts of other things I hadn't even considered. I play along with a joke and worry that I've been taken seriously.

Real sex is much easier than talking about it here.

Yep--my sentiments exactly.

[Full Metal Lotus]

The egg Whisk was a JOKE!!??

Sheesh!

Now I have to rewrite chapter 4 of the sex manual I was working on.

thanks a lot!

At least the stuff about the spatual still works- can't figure out how to install the batteries, though.

Regards
FML

[Freudian Slit]

Originally Posted by Full Metal Lotus

At least the stuff about the spatual still works- can't figure out how to install the batteries, though.

Remember not to use rechargeables. I don't want to tell you what happened the last time.

[Ruby]

Originally Posted by Full Metal Lotus

At least the stuff about the spatual still works- can't figure out how to install the batteries, though.

pssst. it was a ladle.

[JayRx1981]

What sex acts won't I do? Anything involving a vagina.

[melodyharmonius]

Originally Posted by eleanorigby

You can't say that HERE! It's sex, baby, all night and all day--no need to bring commitment, affection, trust and respect into the mix....

LOL - how silly of me!!

[jackdavinci]

Define "normal" sex...

While I somewhat enjoy (clean) giving and receiving of rimming, I had to stop both because I kept getting strep throat from it.

I tend to only enjoy fucking if the guy is fairly tight, and receiving oral only if the guy doesn't overdo it to the point of going numb.

And what turns me on tends to vary with my level of horniness. If I've just jerked off, then contemplating anything but vanilla sex grosses me out. But if I'm really horny, I start thinking about some really kinky shit...