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Old 11-29-2008, 04:04 PM
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Ladies - is getting DP'ed "the ultimate?" REALLY?

I met up with some friends for after-Thanksgiving cheer, and after several rounds two of the women in the group started talking sex, and things got frank quickly. Somehow things got on the subject of Threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, and I was surprised when the two women - and a third who wasn't really tight with our group, but was in the bottle by then - started talking about how getting DP'ed was analogous to the standard guy fantasy of "two chicks at the same time." I countered that this was more of an artifact of hetero male-oriented porn, and that most women didn't share the fantasy and that most of the ones that did were probably only doing so or saying so in order to have an analogous "the ultimate" bedroom fantasy. They insisted that most of their girlfriends felt the same way, but that women "don't talk about it like guys do."

Ladies, what's the dope on this one? I don't really buy it.
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:19 PM
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Uh, help a friend out here. What's being DP'ed?
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:20 PM
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Uh, help a friend out here. What's being DP'ed?
Double penetrated, that is having more than one weiner in you at the same time.
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:21 PM
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Double penetration: vaginally and anally, at the same time. Two penises. One woman.

As for the OP, nope, not mine, not ever, never occurred to me to want.
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:32 PM
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Double penetration: vaginally and anally, at the same time. Two penises. One woman.

As for the OP, nope, not mine, not ever, never occurred to me to want.
Doesn't have to be divided between orafices according to the vast wasteland of the Google image search.
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:34 PM
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Double penetrated, that is having more than one weiner in you at the same time.
OK, well, there you go.

Nope, no fantasy of mine.
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:38 PM
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No woman I know has ever even alluded to be interested in such a thing. It must be a fantasy for SOME women, but it can't be very common.

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Old 11-29-2008, 04:38 PM
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Nor is it a fantasy of mine. (ewww)

However, there is an erotica writer's site I visit now and then which has forums on assorted related topics, and this one does crop up with some frequency in the "female fantasies" section. (most often in the form of a 3-some involving oral penetration along with "other")

But judging by the "male fantasies" section, it is much more common among men. (meaning, the 3-some with their woman and another man and associated "DP")

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Old 11-29-2008, 04:43 PM
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Ew. Ewwwwwwww. Ew. ew. ew. ew. ew. ew. ew. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww..........
Ouch.

That help you out any?
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Old 11-29-2008, 04:45 PM
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Honestly as a dude I can say that I'm not interested in it either. It's just two guys almost or actually rubbing their dicks together. No thanks.
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:14 PM
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Does being a human Chinese fingertrap count? If so, sign me up!

I think one in the vag and one in the ass is something that works better as a fantasy than reality. So yes, as a fantasy that I don't necessarily want to make reality, at least not in *this* iteration of it.
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:28 PM
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Does being a human Chinese fingertrap count? If so, sign me up!

I think one in the vag and one in the ass is something that works better as a fantasy than reality. So yes, as a fantasy that I don't necessarily want to make reality, at least not in *this* iteration of it.
This.

It's an okay fantasy, possibly something to be played with involving toys/fingers and one partner, but actually playing out your own little bow chika wow wow scenario? Uh, no.
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:31 PM
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I've been curious about it, but no, it's not really a big fantasy, let alone the "ultimate" fantasy.
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:34 PM
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This.

It's an okay fantasy, possibly something to be played with involving toys/fingers and one partner, but actually playing out your own little bow chika wow wow scenario? Uh, no.
Yeah, ditto. I think it would be a major owie, too. (But I'm kind of sensitive about things penetrating me in my butthole...)
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:37 PM
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Yeah, ditto. I think it would be a major owie, too. (But I'm kind of sensitive about things penetrating me in my butthole...)
Me too. Have never been into that...no fantasies re' that whatsoever.
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:44 PM
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Oh hell no. I've never even heard of it being something that women commonly want.

You must hang out with some sick bitches.

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Old 11-29-2008, 05:52 PM
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I've known two women who were really into it, or at least a variation. Not two men, but they both liked a penis in one orifice and a good-sized vibrator in the other. So either I know weird women or it's more common than you think.
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Old 11-29-2008, 05:56 PM
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Were these high school girls? Because I hear they're into it.
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Old 11-29-2008, 06:00 PM
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must... share... dissenting opinion!

yes, I have gone to DP land more than once, and I'm not sure it was the ULTIMATE...
but I would happily go there again, given two consenting partners *
I enjoyed that very much indeed

oh yeah, both as a sandwich and with one gentleman on either end of me
they seemed to enjoy it too






*unfortunately, straight guys seem to be scared to have erections in front of other guys why's that?
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Old 11-29-2008, 06:10 PM
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Were these high school girls? Because I hear they're into it.
It's especially true if they're precocious. You know, the whole Juno effect.
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Old 11-29-2008, 06:26 PM
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It's especially true if they're precocious. You know, the whole Juno effect.
Hey, and at least one of the guys doesn't have to worry about knocking anybody up. It's a win/win/win.

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Old 11-29-2008, 07:45 PM
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I'll speak up as another woman who has enjoyed DP - at least with one man and a dildo. In fact, that is the quickest way to an orgasm for me.

Or used to be. I've been through a long dry spell, the last few years.
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Old 11-29-2008, 09:44 PM
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Wow, I don't care how much my wife begged, I don't think I could take the chance of rubbing nutsacks with another dude.
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Old 11-29-2008, 09:51 PM
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Oh hell no. I've never even heard of it being something that women commonly want.

You must hang out with some sick bitches.
This is why you won't get many women admitting to enjoying sex -- when they do, they're called "sick bitches." Meanwhile, a man fantasising about 2 women at once is normal. Funny that.
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Old 11-29-2008, 09:58 PM
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This is why you won't get many women admitting to enjoying sex -- when they do, they're called "sick bitches." Meanwhile, a man fantasising about 2 women at once is normal. Funny that.
Yeah, I knew the lack of the "just kidding" smiley during editing would come back to bite me in the ass. Sorry to offend- I didn't realize you had such delicate sensibilities.

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Old 11-29-2008, 10:08 PM
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When I opened this thread, the first thing I thought of when reading "DP'ed" was "Donkey Punched". And I couldn't figure out *how* that could be so good for the woman.
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Old 11-29-2008, 10:49 PM
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No frigging way. Not ever. I don't even really like a finger in my ass, let alone a dick, especially while I am... um, otherwise "occupied..."

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Old 11-29-2008, 11:25 PM
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Well, jeez! After those reactions, who the heck's gonna admit that they'd like to try it!!
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Old 11-29-2008, 11:38 PM
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I think this entire subject is a fantasy only in Freejooky's mind

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Old 11-29-2008, 11:46 PM
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Well, jeez! After those reactions, who the heck's gonna admit that they'd like to try it!!
Me! I like having my boyfriend in one hole and a vibrator or butt plug in the other. And I have fantasies of having, umm, "a gentleman on either end," as RedWood put it. Double penetration in the sense of having two guys in the same hole doesn't do anything for me, though.
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Old 11-30-2008, 12:00 AM
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Well, jeez! After those reactions, who the heck's gonna admit that they'd like to try it!!
Not you, clearly.
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Old 11-30-2008, 12:23 AM
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This wouldn't have anything to do with twins now would it?

Actually, I'd never even thought to fantasize about this, so I guess that makes it a definite "no" for me. However, now that it's been brought to my attention? Yup, still not something I'd necessarily be up for trying out given the chance.
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Old 11-30-2008, 01:13 AM
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I've seen it done in porn, and it looks... uncomfortable. And a bit awkward- I've seen yoga masters who weren't that limber.
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Old 11-30-2008, 01:46 AM
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I've seen it done in porn, and it looks... uncomfortable. And a bit awkward- I've seen yoga masters who weren't that limber.
[Deadwood]Limber-dicked cocksuckers![/Deadwood]

Sorry. It had to be said, and maybe I'll be the first.
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Old 11-30-2008, 01:59 AM
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According to askmen.com it is number 5 on the list of top ten Female Sex Fantasies. They say:

Threesome with two men

This top 10 female sex fantasy involves the woman being worshipped and adored by two gorgeous men. These men are typically heterosexual and, therefore, only interested in the woman -- which translates into a whole lot of action for her. Her sex fantasy might be as innocent as being penetrated by one man while performing oral sex on the other or it might go further, drawing on more hardcore aspects such as double penetration and the like. This female sex fantasy is the ultimate taboo for many women, which makes it all the more fun to imagine.

As a guy I prefer the sound of some of the others.
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Old 11-30-2008, 02:05 AM
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Well, jeez! After those reactions, who the heck's gonna admit that they'd like to try it!!
Well.....
:: fumbles::

I never tried it, but as fantasy fodder, yeah.
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Old 11-30-2008, 02:23 AM
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I think this entire subject is a fantasy only in Freejooky's mind
Threads that start with "Ladies" are usually, umm, interesting.
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Old 11-30-2008, 02:54 AM
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Roommate's GF in college admitted to me one night she was into it. Had never actually done it with two guys before though. Lest you think I missed an opportunity, he was paranoid enough about our friendship without even going there.
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Old 11-30-2008, 10:07 AM
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The educational portion of today's program is brought to you by DirkGntly...

It's not UNcommon, but it's not particularly common, either, from my experiences. Let me clarify:

You have to identify which groups of women you are talking about. For a woman who is disinterested or finds anal sex painful, anal/vaginal DP is not going to be a fantasy component for her at all in most circumstances. Where the numbers start to go up dramatically (and VERY dramatically) is in swingers' circles, where the women are typically VERY uninhibited, love anal sex, or both. I can speak authoritatively because I was part of the "swinger lifestyle" for the better part of 5 years sometime back.

Also, speaking as a strictly hetero male...if you're in a MFM threesome, and things are hot and heavy, and the gal indicates that she wants a DP, even a very hetero male will usually go for it.

How detailed do we want to get here? There is lots of info about "rules of engagement" and such that I can shed light on, but that feels like a highjack...
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Old 11-30-2008, 10:29 AM
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Wow, I don't care how much my wife begged, I don't think I could take the chance of rubbing nutsacks with another dude.

Ziplock bags, rubber bands, duct tape, or even zip ties if you wanna go all 21st century.....or patches of burlap to recreate that wild west feel...

they all have uses other than advertised!

sorry....couldnt help myself

btw.....burlap chaffs
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Old 11-30-2008, 11:06 AM
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Yeah, I knew the lack of the "just kidding" smiley during editing would come back to bite me in the ass. Sorry to offend- I didn't realize you had such delicate sensibilities.
Why is it that people who make such kind, gentle comments about others always "forgot to add the smiley"? I'm not offended, I know that some people can't see any further than their own narrow little view of reality in which anything not "ok" for them is "sick" and "wrong"
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Old 11-30-2008, 12:29 PM
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Doesn't have to be divided between orafices according to the vast wasteland of the Google image search.
I stand corrected, sir.

Puzzled, but corrected.
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Old 11-30-2008, 12:33 PM
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...the woman being worshipped and adored by two gorgeous men. These men are typically heterosexual and, therefore, only interested in the woman -- which translates into a whole lot of action for her. Her sex fantasy might be as innocent as being penetrated by one man while performing oral sex on the other
On the other hand, that has been a common scene in my fantasy life.

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Old 11-30-2008, 01:06 PM
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Another data point.
There is this lady that I have known since high school. We get together for dinner or a drink every few months and catch up on what is going on in our lives. About 20 years ago, she was dating a guy that was into the swing scene. When we would meet she would tell me about swinger parties.
So this one night we meet for a drink. She was literally bouncing up and down on the bar stool in anticipation of what she wanted to tell me. As soon as the bar tender brought our drinks, and left, she told me that she had gone to a party and had two guys at the same time. While telling me this her face looked like this

From what she said (she didn't go into too many details) it was one oral, the other vaginal/anal.
So based on her reaction, I would say this act was fairly high up her fantasy list. To the best of my knowledge, she only did it that one time.
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Old 11-30-2008, 04:30 PM
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This top 10 female sex fantasy involves the woman being worshipped and adored by two gorgeous men.
Any woman who would think that two guys plowing away at her in unison are worshipping her are delusional.
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Old 11-30-2008, 04:48 PM
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Honestly as a dude I can say that I'm not interested in it either. It's just two guys almost or actually rubbing their dicks together. No thanks.
think I could take the chance of rubbing nutsacks with another dude.[/QUOTE]
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Ziplock bags, rubber bands, duct tape, or even zip ties if you wanna go all 21st century.....or patches of burlap to recreate that wild west feel...

they all have uses other than advertised!

sorry....couldnt help myself

btw.....burlap chaffs
You're close. They're called nut coozies. Don't leave home without 'em!
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Old 11-30-2008, 05:32 PM
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the only thing i've ever wondered about this is, what on earth do you do with 3 pairs of legs all in the same space?

it seems like it would take a lot of directing and one could lose interest with all the "no your other left" and "no,no, i move this way, you move that way" stuff.
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Old 11-30-2008, 05:36 PM
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the only thing i've ever wondered about this is, what on earth do you do with 3 pairs of legs all in the same space?

it seems like it would take a lot of directing and one could lose interest with all the "no your other left" and "no,no, i move this way, you move that way" stuff.
It's humping. We figure this kind of thing out instinctually. If you need a visual, there is no shortage of porn out there to help you with it.
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Old 11-30-2008, 06:14 PM
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Okay, it seems clear that DP is NOT the fantasy of choice for doper women. Nor is it the favorite fantasy of other women, by extension. And IF a woman fantasizes about DP, most would not be willing to perform the act in real life. Admittedly, there are doper women, and others, by extension, who have in fact experienced DP and there are others who would be willing to experience DP and presumably there are other women who will have the experience.

So, I would like to ask the following: What Are the favorite fantasies of women?
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Old 11-30-2008, 06:19 PM
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think I could take the chance of rubbing nutsacks with another dude.
You're close. They're called nut coozies. Don't leave home without 'em![/QUOTE]


Are they homemade or store bought?

Because some folks think store bought coozies are crass commercialism...and yet others worry about the tackiness of homemade crafts.

I think I'll just make sure to tell my grandmother to bake me a nice pie for christmas this year....no use getting her all involved in this controversy
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