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Old 08-19-2010, 05:42 PM
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Would you consider dating someone with herpes?


In this thread Taenia spp. mentioned that herpes "is not a big deal". Keep in mind that s/he was saying that herpes is not a big deal in comparison to HIV which is most definitely a huge deal. But it got me thinking. Just how big of a deal is herpes?

Would you consider dating someone who informed you that they genital herpes? For the purposes of the poll let's say that they have a minor case (not too disgusting, visually) but obviously with a risk of infecting others. For the poll let's say that the person is someone you'd definitely consider dating under normal circumstances but I'm not going to say that they're otherwise perfect (if you answered "no" to the poll but would be willing if the person was indeed otherwise perfect feel free to share). So, how 'bout it?

Edit: I don't have herpes.

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Old 08-19-2010, 06:11 PM
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Sure, I'd consider it. I say that with the realization that I don't know just *how* difficult it is to prevent transmission, and whether that means there can't ever be spontaneous sex. But being willing to date someone isn't the same thing as making a lifetime commitment. So yes, I'd be willing to try, and if things worked out well and we were really into each other, I'm sure we could work out a way to try to keep the transmission issue under control. And if it seemed like too big a hurdle to overcome, then we could go our separate ways.
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No way.
One of my best friends has had to deal with that for over 20 years. It is a hassle I'd rather not ever have to deal with. Why the heck would I want to risk having to mess with cootchie sores for the rest of my life?
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No way.
One of my best friends has had to deal with that for over 20 years. It is a hassle I'd rather not ever have to deal with. Why the heck would I want to risk having to mess with cootchie sores for the rest of my life?
How much has it hurt his/her ability to find dates?
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Old 08-19-2010, 06:46 PM
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A very good friend of mine has active herpes. She has been married for 20 years, and with her husband for years before that. They are careful during outbreaks, which she can always feel coming on, and her husband has not gotten herpes in all those years. I think she said she takes the medication that is used during an outbreak, not daily.

Another friend has asymptomatic herpes....no outbreaks, no symptoms at all, but has the potential to infect someone when the virus is active. But since she has no symptoms, and didn't even know she had it, she has no idea when to be "safe". She informed her current partner when they started getting to that point in the relationship, and he educated himself about the slight, very slight, according to the doctor, risk, and decided he was okay with that. After several years, he has not gotten infected. Another guy she was starting to date before her current fellow read all the information, got educated too, but decided he was too afraid. He had other issues, though, too, which made her decide to end it with him herself.

I have done a ton of reading on the subject myself, and the risk of transmission isn't as high as you might think. And the severity of outbreaks varies, from horrific to meh. Especially after many, many years of living with the disease. My good friend with the active case says she may only get one or two outbreaks a year, and they are really minor irritations that don't last long. And they aren't always on the moist bits, either.

Since the statistics say that 25% of adults have been exposed to herpes at some point, and many, many of those are totally asymptomatic and may not even have any idea they have been exposed, it seems better to practice safe sex, and be honest, and be realistic and not run screaming from the cooties. You're more likely to catch the flu from someone....and THAT could actually kill you!
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Old 08-19-2010, 06:56 PM
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Abso-fucking-lutely not. Sorry. Sex is an important part of my relationships and his VD would get in the way of that. I don't think I can be attracted to a dick covered in open sores, even if it only flares up once every few years. I'd also rather not have my hoot oozing and burning.

Is that fair? Probably not. Is it even reasonable? Probably not. Have I fucked people with herpes without knowing it? Probably- 1/4 (I've heard it's moving to 1/3) people in my age group have it. Still. No thanks.

Also, it's easier, I'd imagine, for a non herp man to bang a herp chick and not contract (thank you, Trojan!)--- whereas I'd have herpes infected balls slapping against me, not at all protected by a condom. Deal breaker x 100000000. To me, it's literally on the same level as someone being HIV+ or having AIDS. I know it's insensitive, I do, but it's just a deal breaker to me.


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I have done a ton of reading on the subject myself, and the risk of transmission isn't as high as you might think.
Then why are herpes rates so high amongst 18-25 year olds?

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Old 08-19-2010, 06:57 PM
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Thanks for your response.

Just as an addition I'd like to point out that the hypothetical person is NOT asymptomatic, in case that matters to anyone.
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Old 08-19-2010, 07:52 PM
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Most likely not. It's almost a dealbreaker.

The very few people I have known with herpes have been, to me, what I call extremely promiscuous (once you get over about a dozen, I consider that promiscuous). I'm not interested in promiscuous people.

I'm not saying there wouldn't be a guy who could make me change my mind, but I doubt he exists.
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Old 08-19-2010, 07:57 PM
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A very good friend of mine has active herpes. She has been married for 20 years, and with her husband for years before that. They are careful during outbreaks, which she can always feel coming on, and her husband has not gotten herpes in all those years. I think she said she takes the medication that is used during an outbreak, not daily.

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I dated someone that was upfront and told a similar story {except she was no longer married} before we were sexually intimate. Her openness put me at ease and it wasn't a problem.
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Old 08-19-2010, 07:58 PM
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Most likely not. It's almost a dealbreaker.

The very few people I have known with herpes have been, to me, what I call extremely promiscuous (once you get over about a dozen, I consider that promiscuous). I'm not interested in promiscuous people.

I'm not saying there wouldn't be a guy who could make me change my mind, but I doubt he exists.
over a dozen in how many years?
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Old 08-19-2010, 08:14 PM
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While promiscuous people probably do have higher rates of infection statistically, I think it's important to emphasize you don't have to be promiscuous to get it. Anyone who has slept with 3 or 4 people, as Diosa noted, has most likely been exposed to The Herp and may quite possibly be an asymptomatic carrier of it. Unless they have been bloodtested and shown to be negative, I'd assume the people who have been sleeping with someone with herpes for a long time and haven't shown symptoms are just lucky enough to be asymptomatic carriers.

Still, since to the best of my knowledge I don't have genital herpes, I would be very reluctant to get involved with someone who clearly had it. If I did date them, I wouldn't sleep with them until marriage honestly. It'd be dumb to potentially infect yourself with an incurable disease that would make it harder to find other partners unless you are confident things are going to last for the long haul.
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Old 08-19-2010, 08:18 PM
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Sure, I'd consider it. I say that with the realization that I don't know just *how* difficult it is to prevent transmission, and whether that means there can't ever be spontaneous sex. But being willing to date someone isn't the same thing as making a lifetime commitment. So yes, I'd be willing to try, and if things worked out well and we were really into each other, I'm sure we could work out a way to try to keep the transmission issue under control. And if it seemed like too big a hurdle to overcome, then we could go our separate ways.
See, to me it's the exact opposite. Why would you open yourself up for infection if you aren't even going to stay with the person for the rest of your life?
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Old 08-19-2010, 08:46 PM
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While promiscuous people probably do have higher rates of infection statistically, I think it's important to emphasize you don't have to be promiscuous to get it. Anyone who has slept with 3 or 4 people, as Diosa noted, has most likely been exposed to The Herp and may quite possibly be an asymptomatic carrier of it. Unless they have been bloodtested and shown to be negative, I'd assume the people who have been sleeping with someone with herpes for a long time and haven't shown symptoms are just lucky enough to be asymptomatic carriers.
Yup. In fact, the majority of people with the virus are asymptomatic or close.

I remember my mom having outbreaks of HSV-1 ("oral herpes," which can infect the genital area as well) and us having to make sure to use separate towels, not kiss Mom during outbreaks, etc. She became asymptomatic eventually.
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Old 08-19-2010, 09:07 PM
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I see no reason to knowingly go into a sexual relationship with someone with a communicable disease. I made the mistake of dating someone with HIV when I was much younger and wouldn't do that again either.
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Old 08-19-2010, 09:09 PM
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I voted "no". I'm only 20 and I see no reason to risk exposing myself and having to live with that for the rest of my life. Maybe as I get older my attitude will change but for now, at least, it's no. Just no.
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(Hijack: And let's not forget that about half of all men and over 75% of all women have some variety of HPV at some point in their lives, typically without ever knowing. Just being human is risky, apparently.)
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Old 08-19-2010, 09:35 PM
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(Hijack: And let's not forget that about half of all men and over 75% of all women have some variety of HPV at some point in their lives, typically without ever knowing. Just being human is risky, apparently.)
Yup, that's gross too. And actually, potentially much more dangerous.

Yet. . . not as gross as herpes to me. Probably due to lack of open sores.

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Old 08-19-2010, 09:42 PM
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Yup, that's gross too. And actually, potentially much more dangerous.

Yet. . . not as gross as herpes to me. Probably due to lack of open sores.
But HPV includes genital warts... I wish I never looked at the wiki article...
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Old 08-19-2010, 09:45 PM
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But HPV includes genital warts... I wish I never looked at the wiki article...
Not to mention the chance of cancer of the cervix, penis, anus, or mouth. Of course, this all depends on what variety you get. You might get a benign version through extremely benign (non-sexual) means.
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But HPV includes genital warts... I wish I never looked at the wiki article...
Not to mention the chance of cancer of the cervix, penis, anus, or mouth. Of course, this all depends on what variety you get. You might get a benign version through extremely benign (non-sexual) means.
Ew. Can I get HPV from someone's balls? I swear to God, balls ruin everything.
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Ew. Can I get HPV from someone's balls? I swear to God, balls ruin everything.
Except the whole creation of life thing.

But the answer to your question is yes.
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Ew. Can I get HPV from someone's balls? I swear to God, balls ruin everything.
Except the whole creation of life thing.
Children ruin lives.

But really, I blame the uterus for that.
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Old 08-20-2010, 12:16 AM
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Sure, I'd consider it. I say that with the realization that I don't know just *how* difficult it is to prevent transmission, and whether that means there can't ever be spontaneous sex. But being willing to date someone isn't the same thing as making a lifetime commitment. So yes, I'd be willing to try, and if things worked out well and we were really into each other, I'm sure we could work out a way to try to keep the transmission issue under control. And if it seemed like too big a hurdle to overcome, then we could go our separate ways.
See, to me it's the exact opposite. Why would you open yourself up for infection if you aren't even going to stay with the person for the rest of your life?
Given that a few people in this thread have said that the disease is manageable and have gone decades without transmitting it, I'm not automatically going to rule out a potential mate for that reason. I suppose if I somehow knew ahead of time that the person had no long-term potential for me, it probably wouldn't be worthwhile. But I'm not sure how I'd know that ahead of time.

And again, this is all hypothetical. I haven't personally encountered anything like that before.
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Would I? I totally did! My last girlfriend had it. We dated for two years. I think in that time she had one minor outbreak, and it was hands off the entire time. If she'd never told me I never would have known, as she only had the one minor outbreak.

No, I don't have herpes.

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Old 08-20-2010, 07:20 AM
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As long as the person is honest and upfront about it when our relationship reaches the point where it'll matter, sure.

Of course I've not much time left anyway, so that colors my outlook on life.

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Old 08-20-2010, 10:47 AM
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I got oral herpes sharing a canteen at a scout camp when I was 13 or 14, so that probably colors my reply, but yes, I would.

In some ways, the oral kind is worse and certainly easier to spread. I'm very careful about not sharing drinks/towels/etc. with wife and kids, and so far the wife has never gotten it (16 years together).

Oral herpes is certainly just as painful and probably more inconvenient. An outbreak can ruin picture days, job interview, all sorts of social occasions, and aren't easily covered up. Double whammy for a male who has to shave, but grows scraggly (at best) facial hair, so a beard and mustache isn't really an option.

But they are just sores, slightly inconvenient at times, and certainly no worse for your long term health than shingles or any other type of outbreak. Healthy people with good immune systems can often go years between outbreaks. Seems awfully silly to be worried about to the point of excluding something possibly special from your life...
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See, to me it's the exact opposite. Why would you open yourself up for infection if you aren't even going to stay with the person for the rest of your life?
Given that a few people in this thread have said that the disease is manageable and have gone decades without transmitting it, I'm not automatically going to rule out a potential mate for that reason. I suppose if I somehow knew ahead of time that the person had no long-term potential for me, it probably wouldn't be worthwhile. But I'm not sure how I'd know that ahead of time.

And again, this is all hypothetical. I haven't personally encountered anything like that before.
With infection rates as high as they are-- and going up- I can't imagine it's nearly as easy to manage as folks are suggesting. If it was that easy, it wouldn't be as prevalent as it is unless a huge percentage of the herpes population is just a bunch of dbags, going around giving people herpes all willy nilly. Call me naive, but I like to think most folks aren't total assholes.
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With infection rates as high as they are-- and going up- I can't imagine it's nearly as easy to manage as folks are suggesting. If it was that easy, it wouldn't be as prevalent as it is unless a huge percentage of the herpes population is just a bunch of dbags, going around giving people herpes all willy nilly. Call me naive, but I like to think most folks aren't total assholes.
Hi, Naive! I'm Cynical -- nice to meet you! Some people are assholes, and some are really, really ignorant. There are lots of largely preventable things out there that don't get prevented because people don't think it'll ever happen to *them*. So I just wouldn't be surprised to learn that herpes is mostly manageable for the folks who really care about trying.
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Given that a few people in this thread have said that the disease is manageable and have gone decades without transmitting it, I'm not automatically going to rule out a potential mate for that reason. I suppose if I somehow knew ahead of time that the person had no long-term potential for me, it probably wouldn't be worthwhile. But I'm not sure how I'd know that ahead of time.

And again, this is all hypothetical. I haven't personally encountered anything like that before.
With infection rates as high as they are-- and going up- I can't imagine it's nearly as easy to manage as folks are suggesting. If it was that easy, it wouldn't be as prevalent as it is unless a huge percentage of the herpes population is just a bunch of dbags, going around giving people herpes all willy nilly. Call me naive, but I like to think most folks aren't total assholes.
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Given that a few people in this thread have said that the disease is manageable and have gone decades without transmitting it, I'm not automatically going to rule out a potential mate for that reason. I suppose if I somehow knew ahead of time that the person had no long-term potential for me, it probably wouldn't be worthwhile. But I'm not sure how I'd know that ahead of time.

And again, this is all hypothetical. I haven't personally encountered anything like that before.
With infection rates as high as they are-- and going up- I can't imagine it's nearly as easy to manage as folks are suggesting. If it was that easy, it wouldn't be as prevalent as it is unless a huge percentage of the herpes population is just a bunch of dbags, going around giving people herpes all willy nilly. Call me naive, but I like to think most folks aren't total assholes.
I think most folks are total assholes.

HIV is more easily preventable than herpes and it still spreads. I think the reason herpes spreads as easily as it does is because:

A.) There are a LOT of asymptomatic carriers who have it but don't know it (remember, these are the types that you're really likely to catch it from unless you demand a trip to the clinic for every new sexual partner).
B.) There are a LOT of people who have it but don't tell sexual partners because they figure that it's OK since they're not currently having a breakout.

Now remember that it's possible for an unknowing asymptomatic carrier to infect an entire group of people without any of those folks developing symptoms yet still spreading it and I think it's easy to see how easily it spreads even given how preventable it is.
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Now remember that it's possible for an unknowing asymptomatic carrier to infect an entire group of people without any of those folks developing symptoms yet still spreading it and I think it's easy to see how easily it spreads even given how preventable it is.
Gross. Keep your herpes over there, sir.
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I said No but I feel guilty about it.

A close friend of mine has it and Ive seen the sadness she's gone through. She's super hot and super smart. Men absolutely flip over her. If she starts a relationship that leads to a sexual situation she will inform them of the scenario and then the guys will bail on the relationship.

Its gotten to the point that she might as well wear a sign that says "I have Herpes" to weed out the people that cannot deal with it.

She's even had relationships where the men say theyre ok with it but are then super super paranoid and end up breaking up with her because of the Herpes after she has invested her heart. Its really sad to watch my friend deal with this. I can see the emotional wall getting higher and higher as the years pass.
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Its gotten to the point that she might as well wear a sign that says "I have Herpes" to weed out the people that cannot deal with it.
There's actually a dating website for people who are infected with herpes- though I can't remember the name. That might be something for her to look into, since I doubt someone else with it is also going to be bothered.
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Its gotten to the point that she might as well wear a sign that says "I have Herpes" to weed out the people that cannot deal with it.
There's actually a dating website for people who are infected with herpes- though I can't remember the name. That might be something for her to look into, since I doubt someone else with it is also going to be bothered.
I have an image of people who can't find dates elsewhere (who don't have herpes) using that site as a last resort.
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Sure. Speaking as a physician who is well-educated about diagnosis and management of STDs, I don't consider it a big deal.
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B.) There are a LOT of people who have it but don't tell sexual partners because they figure that it's OK since they're not currently having a breakout.

Now remember that it's possible for an unknowing asymptomatic carrier to infect an entire group of people without any of those folks developing symptoms yet still spreading it and I think it's easy to see how easily it spreads even given how preventable it is.
Right. I notice that some people even in this thread seem to be under the impression that it only spreads when the person has active sores. People can shed the virus even while asymptomatic. Someone can have it and sincerely not realize it, but still be infectious to others.
Okay, so herpes is not a big deal if you are the one who turns out to be an asymptomatic carrier, but if you're one of the unlucky ones who does get breakouts it is a much bigger PITA.
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The question was wouild you consider dating someone with herpes, and I answered yes.

Sure, not ideal, but not a deal-breaker imo.

And considering the estimated percentage of the population who has it, odds are that you could meet someone, really like them in every other way, and they could have herpes.

Sure, a PITA, but not fatal or even all that distressing a condition...it is the same family of viruses which cause chicken pox, shingles, and cold sores, all of which remain chronically in the body for life.

I just wouldn't automatically dismiss someone as having "dating potential" due to this particular infection. esp. since I know it is no indication of their
"promiscuity" or other characteristics as a partner...it only takes one time, even being careful, and in fact, can be transmitted WITHOUT fucking, so a virgin could have it.

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B.) There are a LOT of people who have it but don't tell sexual partners because they figure that it's OK since they're not currently having a breakout.

Now remember that it's possible for an unknowing asymptomatic carrier to infect an entire group of people without any of those folks developing symptoms yet still spreading it and I think it's easy to see how easily it spreads even given how preventable it is.
Right. I notice that some people even in this thread seem to be under the impression that it only spreads when the person has active sores. People can shed the virus even while asymptomatic. Someone can have it and sincerely not realize it, but still be infectious to others.
Okay, so herpes is not a big deal if you are the one who turns out to be an asymptomatic carrier, but if you're one of the unlucky ones who does get breakouts it is a much bigger PITA.
Meaning that some of the people in this thread who claim to have been married for people with herpes for years may actually be asymptomatic themselves.
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No way.
One of my best friends has had to deal with that for over 20 years. It is a hassle I'd rather not ever have to deal with. Why the heck would I want to risk having to mess with cootchie sores for the rest of my life?
How much has it hurt his/her ability to find dates?
It didn't because she didn't tell them. Keep that in mind.
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Old 08-21-2010, 02:10 AM
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How much has it hurt his/her ability to find dates?
It didn't because she didn't tell them. Keep that in mind.
And you didn't go tell all of her partners? Watch out for Dio!
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A very good friend of mine has active herpes. She has been married for 20 years, and with her husband for years before that. They are careful during outbreaks, which she can always feel coming on, and her husband has not gotten herpes in all those years. I think she said she takes the medication that is used during an outbreak, not daily.

Another friend has asymptomatic herpes....no outbreaks, no symptoms at all, but has the potential to infect someone when the virus is active. But since she has no symptoms, and didn't even know she had it, she has no idea when to be "safe". She informed her current partner when they started getting to that point in the relationship, and he educated himself about the slight, very slight, according to the doctor, risk, and decided he was okay with that. After several years, he has not gotten infected. Another guy she was starting to date before her current fellow read all the information, got educated too, but decided he was too afraid. He had other issues, though, too, which made her decide to end it with him herself.

I have done a ton of reading on the subject myself, and the risk of transmission isn't as high as you might think. And the severity of outbreaks varies, from horrific to meh. Especially after many, many years of living with the disease. My good friend with the active case says she may only get one or two outbreaks a year, and they are really minor irritations that don't last long. And they aren't always on the moist bits, either.

Since the statistics say that 25% of adults have been exposed to herpes at some point, and many, many of those are totally asymptomatic and may not even have any idea they have been exposed, it seems better to practice safe sex, and be honest, and be realistic and not run screaming from the cooties. You're more likely to catch the flu from someone....and THAT could actually kill you!
What she says. A girlfriend of mine has been married for many years to a man who has it and she's never gotten it. They're just careful during outbreaks. It's been made out to be this leper like disease, but it's not.

I'd be curious to see the ages of the people who answered the poll. I'm guessing young folks are far more likely to be of the "hell no" mentality and vice versa.
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I'd be curious to see the ages of the people who answered the poll. I'm guessing young folks are far more likely to be of the "hell no" mentality and vice versa.
I'm 24. The entire time I was in college, there were all kinds of health bulletins and shit at the school (as well as posters everywhere) warning about the dangers of herpes, talking about 1/4 becoming 1/3 pretty rapidly, and saying how to avoid herpes.
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I'd be curious to see the ages of the people who answered the poll. I'm guessing young folks are far more likely to be of the "hell no" mentality and vice versa.
I'm 35. I see no reason to expose myself to any disease I don't have to.
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Old 08-21-2010, 02:17 PM
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I assume the OP is referring to genital herpes
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Old 08-21-2010, 04:15 PM
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Which is a good question, because I've read there is no difference between oral herpes and genital herpes, except where they prefer to hang out. If you'd have no problem dating someone whose ever had a cold sore, there's no reason you should have any problem dating someone with genital herpes.

I think it's horrible there is so many misconceptions out there about genital herpes. I think it's horrible what it does to people who have the misfortune of having it (that is, assuming they know they have it). I had a girlfriend freak out and think her dating life was over because she thought she had it. (Turns out she didn't.) Totally unneccesary. Yes, you have to be upfront. Yes, you have to take precautions. Yes, there are risks if you give birth while having an active outbreak. But let's be real, people. I've gotten cold sores since I was a little girl. Should I become a pariah or undateable because my great aunt Nellie gave me the herpes when I was ten?

I would absolutely date someone with herpes, and in fact I have. He took drugs to help with the outbreaks. He never had one the entire time we were together. I'd also like to point out that wearing a condom would have meant nothing in his case as the site of his outbreaks was on his pubic bone, not on his penis.

People with herpes are people, too!
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Old 08-21-2010, 04:20 PM
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www.herpes.com
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Possibly. Reading this thread has made me realise that I don't really have any idea what herpes is. I should probably correct that lack of knowledge, eh?

I'm a lesbian and I have a pretty crappy immune system, both of which I guess would put me at higher risk.
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I did date a girl with herpes a few times. She told me pretty early on, certainly before we had gotten below the belt. Fortunately, we never did.

I had a much bigger problem with the fact that she was a highly unpredictable alcoholic. As much as I liked her, I guessed that the relationship would get really toxic really fast. I met the woman I ended up marrying the day after I ended it with Herpes Girl, as I fondly recall her eight years later.

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People with herpes are people, too!
People with AIDS are people, too- would you date and be in a sexual relationship with someone with AIDS?

Of course and like I said in my reply, I realize that my position is one that is a bit heartless. I'm sure if I had one of these ailments (or any life long disease like that) and folks were outwardly jugmental of me, it would sting, but like Antinor01 said, why would I choose to date someone with a communicable disease? I also don't make out with people who have colds, either.
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People with herpes are people, too!
People with AIDS are people, too- would you date and be in a sexual relationship with someone with AIDS?

Of course and like I said in my reply, I realize that my position is one that is a bit heartless. I'm sure if I had one of these ailments (or any life long disease like that) and folks were outwardly jugmental of me, it would sting, but like Antinor01 said, why would I choose to date someone with a communicable disease? I also don't make out with people who have colds, either.
I would. It'd be pretty easy for me to avoid getting the virus.
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