Poll coming.
It has happened to me and admitted to having happened to other men. Women withholding sex from their lovers/significant others. I don’t believe men do that. I don’t believe gays do that. Maybe lesbians. I don’t know, hence the poll
You would be wrong.
I don’t think I’d consider it in terms of “withholding sex.” More like, if you were pissed off at them, it’s natural to not want to have sex or be close to them.
This.
If I’m real mad at my wife, loving just isn’t in the cards. How could it be?
OTOH, I can’t recall ever staying real mad at my wife for more than a few hours … 
Exactly. I have sex when I want to have sex. I tried the “just have sex to make him happy” thing and it left both my husband-at-the-time and I very shaken, it was so horrible; never again. If I’m pissed off at a person, chances are really slim I’m going to want to have sex with him, so I don’t.
It’s not like I’m all hot and horny and turn to my vibrator instead in a conscious attempt to punish my partner, I’m just not in the mood for sex at ALL when I’m pissed off.
Hmmm…Yeah, that would be the answer from my failed marriage, so take that into account.
In my current relationship, it hasn’t come up because I haven’t *been *pissed off at him, so the answer for this relationship is much simpler: No. 
The wording of the poll options is somewhat unfortunate.
If a man wanted to piss me off, one really good way would be to assume that or even wonder if I was willfully withholding sex as a way to punish them.
The only person who thinks like that is someone who only “gives” sex to reward someone, not because they have any interest in it themselves–say, a 16 year old girl with a crappy lover for a boyfriend, who puts out to keep him happy and holds back to make him steam.
Excellent point ! I neve stay mad for long, an hour or two. but my wife can stay mad for days. something to poll for in the future between men and women.
Strange that one can be either a man, gay, a female, or lesbian. I didn’t know this.
And WhyNot stole my answer. BAD WhyNot!
Can you clarify? I’m seriously interested in your concern.
See Post #9.
What options have I missed?
Bingo.
If I’m mad at my SO the last thing on my mind is sex.
Ain’t going to happen.
Male here.
This.
Yes, I’ve been too pissed to have sex with a girlfriend who wanted to have sex.
But I’ve never wanted sex and thought to myself “well I just won’t fuck her- THAT’ll show her!’”
I assume you’re being facetious, but I’ll play along.
There’s an implication (which I presume to be unintentional) that someone who is gay isn’t a man. Why not have “straight man” and “gay man” and “straight female” and “lesbian female” as your options?
Hmm, interesting ?
Sure, I do get pissed off, but, I do look forward to make up sex. That is what I strive for when sexual communication breaks down. everything is okay when we have sex.
Also, (straight) men just withhold sex. Everyone else is “pissed off”, which implies a certain pettiness.
I agree with the other ladies here. I don’t withhold sex because I’m pissed off. I don’t want sex when I’m pissed off. However, I can’t stay mad for longer than about 20 minutes, so I’m usually up for it whenever the opportunity arises.
If I have to get up out of bed to change the kitty litter because you just remembered that you didn’t, and I know damn well the cat will shit on the floor if it isn’t changed tonight, but you laughed off that concern even though it’s happened several times before . . .how is having sex when I come back going to make everything ok? And when I don’t feel like having sex under those circumstances, why is that “withholding”, not just not being in the mood?
Sex makes things “feel” okay, and can be a way to jgnore the more difficult task of actually changing problematic behavior.
ETA: to be more explicit: that type of make up sex allows the other person to say “see, she’s not that mad”, as if fixing the mad fixes the problem, as if the matter is resolved. But the mad isn’t the problem. The behavior that led to the mad is the problem, and if it continues, later iterations of the same cycle will not be so easily resolved, and then it seems like the other person is way overreacting and leads to befuddled head-shakes and tales of psycho exes.
Please. I don’t know why you suspect me of being a shit, but I beg of you to believe that I respect all choices of orientation and will admit to harmless embarrassing fetishes on my own part without being specific .