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Old 06-05-2011, 08:50 PM
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No-touch male orgasm/ejaculation, how does it happen?

Excuse, the "sensitive" adult nature of this thread....

How can men have full ejaculations with little to no manual stimulation? This came up as bar talk one night, a friend mentioning that his workplace sexual flirtation was so intense/charged that he had the unfortunate experience of ejaculating in his pants when his coworker touched him on the shoulder........he was entirely serious about this and explained it was incredibly embarrassing.
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Old 06-05-2011, 08:58 PM
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It's all in the brain/mind. Also, if he was really turned on by her it might not take much squirming and a bit of unintentional rubbing against his underwear to trigger it.

One other question. How old is he? It's a lot easier for a 15 year old to do this then a 60 year old.
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Old 06-05-2011, 10:34 PM
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I'm scared to ask what this has to do with "About This Message Board."
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Old 06-05-2011, 10:37 PM
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Old 06-05-2011, 11:04 PM
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Just watch Clive Owen and Lothaire Bluteau have an amazing, gay no-touch orgasm in this scene from Bent....

I believe it is possible.
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Old 06-05-2011, 11:04 PM
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They made a documentary about it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjY
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Old 06-06-2011, 12:21 AM
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It's called "premature ejaculation".

Some men have a problem with it, there has been a lot written about it and there are techniques to avoid it. Suffice it to say that your friend has a condition that, if he were ever to hook up with his love/sex interest, would mean that she would find him to be a very unsatisfying sexual partner and it may lead to a lot of resentment. It's not a good thing. I'm surprised that he would even talk about.

It's like a wide receiver in football saying, "we needed to score a touchdown, they sent me on a post pattern but I was so fast I ran out of the end zone, through the tunnel and into the parking lot before the QB could get the ball in the air." You were so excited about how good your QB's throwing arm was that you totally messed up. Good job, schlub!
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Old 06-06-2011, 12:28 AM
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It can happen to anyone while dreaming. Of course, lots of things are different when dreaming and when awake.
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Old 06-06-2011, 12:32 AM
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This scene from Forrest Gump illustrates the issue.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MmyRzoEgwDg
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Old 06-06-2011, 08:48 AM
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It's called "premature ejaculation".

Some men have a problem with it, there has been a lot written about it and there are techniques to avoid it. Suffice it to say that your friend has a condition that, if he were ever to hook up with his love/sex interest, would mean that she would find him to be a very unsatisfying sexual partner and it may lead to a lot of resentment. It's not a good thing. I'm surprised that he would even talk about.
No it isn't. It's entirely possible to experience incidents of ejaculation through purely mental stimulance and at the same time not suffer from premature ejaculation.
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Old 06-07-2011, 03:21 AM
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I knew of a website (no longer being updated but marginally still around) whose schtick was a beautiful gal who could bring her guy to "touchless orgasms". Now of course there was a lot of touching and sucking and whatnot beforehand but shortly before his climax she would let go and step back and he'd blow a load halfway to the moon. However, he always had his hands behind his back in every scene. I believe he had something stuck up his butt stimulating his prostate, resulting in the spontaneous and voluminous ejaculations. Apparently prostate massage is what allows certain men the ability to blow loads multiple times and/or in the style of the revered Peter North.
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Old 06-07-2011, 03:26 AM
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This scene from Forrest Gump illustrates the issue.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MmyRzoEgwDg
There's one for me the "obvious things you missed in a creative work" thread. I just thought he was hyperventilating.

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Old 06-07-2011, 06:53 AM
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It can happen to anyone while dreaming. Of course, lots of things are different when dreaming and when awake.
I suspect that most ejaculations whilst dreaming have been preceded by some rubbing against the bedclothes (during the dream). However, as Joey P points out, it is all in the brain/mind anyway. After all, all that the rubbing itself is doing is sending nervous signals to somewhere in the brain causing good feelings and eventually triggering ejaculation. It is the brain (and maybe spinal cord) that actually sends the signal to come. If anything, the mystery is why it usually takes a lot of rubbing to make it happen. Reproduction would, surely, work just as well, or better, if the man normally shot his wad as soon as he got in his todger in the pussy.

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Old 06-07-2011, 07:12 AM
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The largest and most important sex organ is the one between the ears.
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Old 06-07-2011, 12:04 PM
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... and I've also had an orgasm (more than once) from having my breasts played with for extended periods, or being spanked. Not often, just a couple of times each, but .... There was a lot of foreplay, a lot of mental stimulation, desire, passion, etc. But in each case my genitals had not been touched by him or me.
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Old 06-07-2011, 12:31 PM
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The largest and most important sex organ is the one between the ears.
I'll never understand you nose fetishists.
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Old 06-07-2011, 01:56 PM
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Old 06-07-2011, 04:39 PM
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Some men have a problem with it, there has been a lot written about it and there are techniques to avoid it. Suffice it to say that your friend has a condition that, if he were ever to hook up with his love/sex interest, would mean that she would find him to be a very unsatisfying sexual partner and it may lead to a lot of resentment. It's not a good thing.
The value judgment of PE here seems over-the-top for a GQ answer. There are plenty of males who ejaculate prematurely some, most, or all of the time who still are able to please their partners through the use of oral stimulation, manual stimulation, and toys. You make it sound like a male with PE is doomed to never be able to please his sex partner, and that is ridiculously untrue.

Disclaimer: I have no dog in this fight as I am neither male, nor dating a pre-ejaculatory male.

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Old 06-07-2011, 04:45 PM
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It's called "premature ejaculation".

Some men have a problem with it, there has been a lot written about it and there are techniques to avoid it. Suffice it to say that your friend has a condition that, if he were ever to hook up with his love/sex interest, would mean that she would find him to be a very unsatisfying sexual partner and it may lead to a lot of resentment. It's not a good thing. I'm surprised that he would even talk about.

It's like a wide receiver in football saying, "we needed to score a touchdown, they sent me on a post pattern but I was so fast I ran out of the end zone, through the tunnel and into the parking lot before the QB could get the ball in the air." You were so excited about how good your QB's throwing arm was that you totally messed up. Good job, schlub!
Heh. Spoken like an armchair quarterback.
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Old 06-07-2011, 06:58 PM
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The largest and most important sex organ is the one between the ears.
On you, maybe.
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Old 06-07-2011, 09:59 PM
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The value judgment of PE here seems over-the-top for a GQ answer. There are plenty of males who ejaculate prematurely some, most, or all of the time who still are able to please their partners through the use of oral stimulation, manual stimulation, and toys. You make it sound like a male with PE is doomed to never be able to please his sex partner, and that is ridiculously untrue.

Disclaimer: I have no dog in this fight as I am neither male, nor dating a pre-ejaculatory male.
I think you are a bit over the top. Premature ejaculation is a sexual disorder that can lead to a lot of stress and frustration. While it can be overcome it is a not so uncommon condition for which people actually seek treatment. They seek treatment in order to better satisfy their partner, not because sex is just about "getting off."

I have no dog in this fight. I am male and I am not pre-ejaculatory. But I do know people that have had to cope with it.


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Old 06-07-2011, 10:25 PM
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It happens to my partner all the time, while he's pleasuring me. And it's happened to me many times, even lately, though I no longer get erections. In our case it has nothing to do with premature ejaculation, in that an ejaculation is what it is, and cannot be "premature," in the sense of diminishing our enjoyment. I suppose if we had a "vanilla" sex life the issue of prematurity would be relevant, but in our case it's not. We don't have a set sequence of events, like usually exist in a vanilla relationship, so when one of us has an orgasm, it simply diverts the activity into a different direction, and is not a problem.
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Old 06-07-2011, 10:31 PM
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It happens to my partner all the time, while he's pleasuring me. And it's happened to me many times, even lately, though I no longer get erections. In our case it has nothing to do with premature ejaculation, in that an ejaculation is what it is, and cannot be "premature," in the sense of diminishing our enjoyment. I suppose if we had a "vanilla" sex life the issue of prematurity would be relevant, but in our case it's not. We don't have a set sequence of events, like usually exist in a vanilla relationship, so when one of us has an orgasm, it simply diverts the activity into a different direction, and is not a problem.
OK, so you have overcome it. That's what I am talking about. For others, particularly in the early stages of their relationship, it can be a source of resentment and frustration.
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Old 06-07-2011, 10:56 PM
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If anything, the mystery is why it usually takes a lot of rubbing to make it happen. Reproduction would, surely, work just as well, or better, if the man normally shot his wad as soon as he got in his todger in the pussy.

Reproduction doesn't work so well, though, if no girl has sex with you twice. ;-D
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Old 06-07-2011, 10:58 PM
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OK, so you have overcome it. That's what I am talking about. For others, particularly in the early stages of their relationship, it can be a source of resentment and frustration.
Well, there's really nothing to "overcome." It's just that in our sexual relationship orgasms don't have the "finality" that they seem to have for other people. An orgasm may or may not happen, and the activity may or may not continue afterward. So there's never a sense of it being "premature."
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Old 06-07-2011, 11:18 PM
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Old 06-08-2011, 01:13 PM
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I remember reading a history of pre-Castro Cuba. There was a chapter about the debauched nightlife in Havana, back when the Mafia was running things. One of the stage acts was a handsome guy who could sit naked on stage, alone, and without touching himself in any way, think erotic thoughts sufficiently exciting to make himself come.

Up with People it wasn't.
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Old 06-10-2011, 01:44 AM
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the Human Glue Gun
I've also seen him referred to as the "yogurt cannon" which I think is also pretty apt.

Has anyone ever noticed how much he resembles Gen. Petraeus? Has anyone ever seen them in the same room together? Brave battle commander by day, porn superstar by night!

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Up with Proto-People?

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Old 06-10-2011, 01:02 PM
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On you, maybe.
Yes, I do have an overly large brain.
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Old 06-10-2011, 02:56 PM
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I'll never understand you nose fetishists.
I so wish I could nominate this exchange for the reply of the month.
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Old 06-10-2011, 04:28 PM
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I remember reading a history of pre-Castro Cuba. There was a chapter about the debauched nightlife in Havana, back when the Mafia was running things. One of the stage acts was a handsome guy who could sit naked on stage, alone, and without touching himself in any way, think erotic thoughts sufficiently exciting to make himself come.
My partner can do this, but probably* not in front of an audience.

*Who knows, he might.
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Old 06-10-2011, 04:59 PM
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