She is cool and cute and funny. And German that is a plus. She is so good at German and English but I am only fluent at English. I am jealous. She often makes funny jokes in class and laughs at all my jokes. Hopefully I impressed her with my German skills. I signed up for her class next semester too. Last night I had a dream about her (nothing dirty; we were just speaking German).
How do I continue to live with this love burning inside me which will never be fulfilled?
So she’s a German professor of German? As opposed to a German professor of math?
If you make a small mistake on any assignment, just exclaim “I vas just following orders!” That should at least reduce any interest on her part. And then you won’t have to wonder if it will be reciprocated.
I was obsessed with my zoology TA last semester. He taught the lab for the class. Sadly, he was married and ten years older than me. It didn’t do anything to stop my infatuation though. I know he knew and I’m sure he liked me too. We were both from the same state so hit if off the beginning of the semester. Trust me, it helped when the semester was over and I didn’t see him as often.
On the bright side, I know a few of my grades were curved and he is probably the reason I passed since the actual professor for the course didn’t like me (for good reason). So if it’s helping you pay attention and do better in the class then I think you’ll be fine taking the same prof again , but it probably won’t help you get over her. Good luck!
If she’s single, you shouldn’t consider it out of the question that you and her could get together. When you say it will “never be fulfilled,” you’re just setting yourself up for failure…get rid of that negative attitude.
Heh, possible yes but probably very unlikely. I agree that if you have an appropriate avenue for asking her out (preferably after you’re done with the class and no longer her student) then you should totally go for it. Just don’t get too disappointed if you get rejected.
I was so infatuated with my high school algebra teacher. He was soo smart and funny and handsome and laughed at my geek jokes. I could tell that he was attracted to me, a 16 year old girl. I just know that the only reason he didn’t act on his love for me was because his wife got pregnant. The bitch!!!
I did such things to attract him as write geeky poetry, I popcorned his yard, and sprayed silly string all over his car. How could he have possibly resisted my attractions?
I saw him again at my 10 year reunion. HOLY FUCK!!! He was OLD!!! And he had TWO kids and the same wife.
We had a drink and laughed about how hard I was in love with him. His wife said that some of my poems were clever.
So…my advice is to date girls your age. Your teacher laughs because she is a good teacher, not because she wants to jump your bones. Your teacher wants you to be interested and involved in her classes.
Graduate and then see if she is as attractive as you remember.
We don’t know how old the OP’s teacher is, but he is in college and in American universities many classes are taught by TAs who are only a few years older than the students. So she may be much older, but that’s not a given.
It’s a 95% chance that she is just humoring you, or finds you cute in the way that precocious kids are cute. As a teacher, you learn a lot about creating a good rapport with students, and from the other side that can be easily misinterpreted. I frequently had students write me love letters, etc. Sorry to say, but I laugher over these with my friends over beer.
There is a small chance that she actually does find you attractive. I’ve certainly been attracted to some of my students, but I would never take that beyond a completely platonic “let’s go out to lunch.” It’s very unethical to go any farther with a student, and it’s pretty unethical to go much farther with someone who is in such a different place in their life- the power dynamics are just too much. So I might go on some platonic semi-dates because I genuinely enjoy their company, but that’s as far as it’d go. At 30ish, she is probably thinking pretty hard about starting a family- a 21 year old kid (and you are a kid to her) isn’t not likely to be someone she is going to spend a lot of time on.
Having an unreachable crush can be a lot of fun and add some spice to your life, as long as you don’t take it too seriously. But unless you were already planning to take her class, I don’t think it was a wise idea to take her class again. Unreachable crushes need to have a limited duration or else they just start getting pathetic.
I wouldn’t do this if you are in her class next semester, but if you are a point where you are not going to have to interact with her much after, it wouldn’t hurt to give it a shot. Ask her to coffee, see if she responds. Coffee is a pretty safe bet- if you get shot down, you can both pretend like you just wanted to practice your German. You never know.
You should discuss the possibility of breeding a master race with her. Tell her her hips are perfect for bearing the young storm troopers of tomorrow. Explain that you will need many more like her and ask for referrals.
But you must say all these things in German to close the deal.