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Old 01-26-2013, 02:24 PM
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A Friend Lost - Khadaji


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I have never posted here. I am friends with the user here named "Khadaji" and wanted to share some sad news with those of you who knew him.

Earlier this week, Ron (his real name) fell ill with the flu. He was quite sick and became dehydrated. The dehydration led to a heart attack. He was found sitting upright on his sofa with his dog at his feet.

I have know him for more than 25 years - he was like a brother to me.

He would often share stories of Straight Dope discussions. Though I never joined the forum or followed along, I got the impression that he was fairly active in the community here.

He was a fiercely loyal man. He would want all of his friends here to know that he just didn't abandon you.

I don't know what else to say, so there it is.

Sorry to have to share such sad news.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:33 PM
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That's terribly sad. He had dealt with so many health issues over the years, from what he said here, and I was hoping that he was past the worst of those.
From what he posted here, it sounded like he was very fond of his dog. Is there someone who is willing to take his dog in?
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:34 PM
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I didn't know him, or his posting, but I am very sad to hear this nonetheless.

My deepest condolences on the loss of your good friend
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:35 PM
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That's awful! I'm so sorry.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:36 PM
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Thank you for letting us know, Musashi. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:40 PM
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Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear this. He always seemed like such a sweet guy -- quick to welcome a newbie or offer sympathy to someone experiencing troubles.

I know he had an elderly mother, but can't recall if she had died or not. In any case, please convey our condolences to all who knew and loved him.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:43 PM
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This is so terrible. I've seen his posts here very often.

My heart goes out to his family, his friends, and his dog.

Thank you MusashiFlex. You did a good thing posting this.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:45 PM
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Ye gods, he was only 51. In fact his birthday is a week after mine. Mortality staring me in the face...

I hope his mother (if she's still alive) and his dog have someone to look after them.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:47 PM
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Well, hell. I enjoyed his posts, and always hoped that we might get to meet sometime since we were sorta local to each other.

MusashiFlex, I'm sorry for your loss. My condolences to his family.

(As a complete aside, I take it you enjoy Steve Perry's books?)
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:48 PM
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I'm so sorry. He'll be missed. I knew him mostly from the monthly What'cha Reading threads.

51 is way too young.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:50 PM
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Always enjoyed his posts. He was a good dude.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:52 PM
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Oh no! I'm so sorry. I always enjoyed the way he greeted newbies in welcome threads.
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Old 01-26-2013, 02:58 PM
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We have all lost a very kind and thoughtful friend. My condolences to you and his family. Wishing you all courage in your time of loss.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:00 PM
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Oh dear. I'm sorry for the all-too-early passing of your friend, and thank you for letting us know. This is quite a loss.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:05 PM
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He was such a nice guy.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:07 PM
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Thank you MusashiFlex. You did a good thing posting this.
Second this. What a damn shame. RIP
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:23 PM
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He was such a nice guy.
Seconded. I remember him as a guy who shared when he had something to share, helped when he had a way to help, and cracked wise with the best of 'em.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:31 PM
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Oh no. I don't want to believe this.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:33 PM
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That's terribly sad. He had dealt with so many health issues over the years, from what he said here, and I was hoping that he was past the worst of those.
From what he posted here, it sounded like he was very fond of his dog. Is there someone who is willing to take his dog in?
That's part of the surprise - he has been in good health the past year or two, though his past surgeries may have impacted his ability to stay hydrated.

Sadly, his dog is in rough shape. She's a diabetic, and went without insulin for a couple of days. The police took her to the vet and we are hoping for a positive outcome.

If his mother does not want to keep the dog, others have expressed interesting in helping KC find a home.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:34 PM
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Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear this. He always seemed like such a sweet guy -- quick to welcome a newbie or offer sympathy to someone experiencing troubles.

I know he had an elderly mother, but can't recall if she had died or not. In any case, please convey our condolences to all who knew and loved him.
His mother is still alive. She's doing as well as can be expected under such circumstances - she's still in a bit of shock, but I'm sure that with the support of his friends and family, she will muddle through.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:37 PM
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Well, hell. I enjoyed his posts, and always hoped that we might get to meet sometime since we were sorta local to each other.

MusashiFlex, I'm sorry for your loss. My condolences to his family.

(As a complete aside, I take it you enjoy Steve Perry's books?)
Yes, enjoyed the Matador Trilogy; the follow on books slightly less so. Reading was a passion that Ron and I shared. He was the one who introduced me to Steve Perry's work. When I found his postings here and saw his handle on the forum, I figured I would use something from the same universe.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:39 PM
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Thanks to all for sharing your support. I'll be sharing this with his mother, and I know it will mean a lot to her, and I know that he would be genuinely touched to see this as well.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:40 PM
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I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Thank you for letting us know. And I hope his dog is going to be ok.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:42 PM
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Oh god, how awful. He was very supportive in the Couch to 5K thread that I started some years ago when I began running.



Terrible news. But thank you for posting to let us know, MusashiFlex.
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Old 01-26-2013, 03:43 PM
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I remember him as a kind, rational poster here and am so sorry.
Thank you for this, MusashiFlex.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:03 PM
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Well that seriously sucks. Khadaji was a 'face' I always associated with upbeat and positive posts. So cruel to be taken so young.

All the best to you MusashiFlex and to all Ron's family.

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Old 01-26-2013, 04:11 PM
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I can't believe this. Am really sorry to hear about this, he was one of my friends. Always good natured and wishing everyone well.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:14 PM
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I am very sorry to hear of this. I remember several of his posts.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:21 PM
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What the hell? That's terrible.

Well, it looks like I have a suitable name for next year's Steelers thread. I think he would be honored, being as big a fan as I am.

RIP.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:27 PM
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:35 PM
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So sad. Thanks for letting us know.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:35 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear this. He and I shared many conversations over the years. My condolences.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:39 PM
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That is a terrible shame. He was a very kind and thoughtful man.
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Oh my. I am so very sorry to hear this. As everyone has already said, he seemed like such a nice fellow--always quick to express sympathy or good wishes.

My sincerest condolences.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:43 PM
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We will miss him. He was one of the best.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:44 PM
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So sad. He'll be missed.
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Old 01-26-2013, 04:47 PM
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A great loss for us all. He was widely liked and respected here, and for good reason. My sincere condolences.
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Old 01-26-2013, 05:25 PM
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So sorry to hear about this. I enjoyed his posts.
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Old 01-26-2013, 05:25 PM
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I'm so sorry. That is very young.
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I'm so sorry to learn this. Khadaji will be missed.
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Old 01-26-2013, 05:47 PM
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I'm so very sorry to hear this. Khadaji was always so kind to those in need, here on the Dope. Always a good word for someone, and he loved his dog. PLease let us know how she and khadaji's mother are doing, okay MusashiFlex? Thank you for letting us know.

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Old 01-26-2013, 05:59 PM
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Well, damn. Only 51. My condolences.
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Old 01-26-2013, 06:03 PM
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I'm very sad to hear this. I always read and enjoyed his posts and he will, as many others have said, be missed here.
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Old 01-26-2013, 06:12 PM
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Oh no. I'm so sorry. Thanks MusashiFlex for letting us know, and for conveying our condolences and our appreciatation for Khadaji to his loved ones.

In his posts, he was a straightforward, honest, kind guy. I liked him, I'm truly sorry he is gone.

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Dear heavens. This makes me so sad. He was one of my first Doper friends, replying so kindly to me after I PM'd him that I loved all his posts because he was one of the few people that was consistently supportive and helpful. Hr always had a sweet word for anyone who needed it. I can imagine that he'll be missed terribly and I offer my sincerest condolences to the loved ones who were close to him.
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Are we talking about the same Khadaji who does the Whatcha Readin' threads? That's horrible news. I'm very sad to hear this.

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Old 01-26-2013, 06:39 PM
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What a terrible loss for our board. I will miss him. RIP Ron.
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This is horrible news. Ron was an integral part of this board and will be missed by many for a long time to come.

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