Once you think you’ve seen everything.
My wife is pissed at me for something mean I did to her…
AND IT WAS IN HER DREAM!
She even admits it’s silly but says that she can’t get over what I did.
I mean, WTF?!?
I give up. What’s the use…
Blink
What’s even worse, she’s not even being original - there was this time on “Friends” when Phoebe was mad at Ross because of something he said to her in a dream.
Is it possible your wife is a wacky sitcom character? Or maybe you are living in a popular sitcom and don’t know it? Check to see if you’re living in a wildly underpriced New York loft where you never seem to have to go to work, and if all of your problems seem to magically resolve themselves in a humorous fashion after 30 minutes.
Women… you can’t live with them…
that’s it.
My wife and I had an hour long fight today over the fact that I accidentally left a pair of my son’s tennis shoes in my car and they were the one she wanted him to wear today. I apologized, and she continues railing me. I point out how truly insignificant the whole argument is, in the big scheme of things, which of course pisses her off to no end.
Reality check, anyone?
Ahem…it’s not just women who do that.
My ex-boyfriend (not ex at the time) had a dream that I did something evil and nasty to him. I found out only after much questioning as to why he was so sulky and snippy with me. He sulked ALL day. He kept saying things like, “How could you say those things to me?” My answer was, “I’m sorry, but it wasn’t me it was your subconscious” and he would sa, “I know, but you were so mean.” and on and on and on.
At that point I wanted to do something evil and nasty to him.
I have dreams that are so realistic, I do sometimes have problems reconciling reality with dreamland. Give her a break. At least she admits that it is silly. Get her to describe the entire dream in detail, and then both of you have a good laugh about her wacky imagination. This generally helps me to get over the dream, and whatever was bothering me isn’t an issue.
I had a dream (about three weeks ago) in which I cheated on my husband with about 5 guys (I should write a book about that dream!) and, because of work commitments, I was unable to talk it over with him for 2 days. Even though I am a rational, normal human being (you will have to take my word for it:)) I felt awful, and guilty for the whole two days, until I could dump it all verbally on him. I know I would never cheat on him, but reality didn’t stop me from feeling the emotional effects of the dream.
I hope the above advice works for you both, because dreams that are too realistic can be very disturbing. 
Ahem…it’s not just women who do that.
My ex-boyfriend (not ex at the time) had a dream that I did something evil and nasty to him. I found out only after much questioning as to why he was so sulky and snippy with me. He sulked ALL day. He kept saying things like, “How could you say those things to me?” My answer was, “I’m sorry, but it wasn’t me it was your subconscious” and he would say, “I know, but you were so mean.” and on and on and on.
At that point I wanted to do something evil and nasty to him.
It’s been 30 minutes and it hasn’t been resolved yet…AND I’m at work. I guess I don’t live in a sitcom.
She does watch friends so maybe that is where she got it from.
In the dream we were at a party and 3 beautiful women took off their clothes and hung all over me. She tried to get me to leave but I refused. Then one of the woman told her to leave because she was bad for me and made me miserable. She went crying to me and I pushed her away and told her to leave since I was much happier where I was.
I’m sure it will blow over soon. It’s just another petty, out-of-my-control piece of shit that is affecting my life.
Oh well.
Blink
BlinkingDuck:
Your course of action is obvious.
FIND A WAY TO LIVE IN THAT DREAM!!
YES! If I’m going to take the heat, can I have the events of the dream?
Volunteers? 
Psssst BlinkingDuck, you are not alone
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=92441
Oh that’s just great!
I can’t just have weird shit happen to me that is weird AND unique. I have to have weird shit happen to me that happens to everyone else AND has a post about it not even a month ago.
SHEESH.
Blink
It sounds like your wife thinks she may be making you unhappy in some way. Being mad at you because of your actions in the dream is just her awake reaction to the fear that shows up in the dream. Don’t take it personally. It is obvious that you have done nothing wrong and are completely innocent. However, it may just work to your advantage to give your wife a big hug, a huge kiss (maybe a back rub or foot rub) and tell her how much you love her and how happy she makes you.
Sometimes we wives need a little bit of reassurance that we are still the beautiful woman at the party as far as our husband’s are concerned.
Please remove any extraneous apostrophes from my last post.
My wife does this all the time. Last time it was for getting a blowjob from one of her friends. One time it was for ignoring her advice and driving into a tornado in one dream and IN THE SAME NIGHT showing more affection to some girl I picked up (oddly enough, in that dream she wasn’t mad at me for having sex with the other girl, but for giving her preferential treatment afterward). I can think of two other females I have known who got upset at me for something that happened in their dreams as well.
Exactly right. I had a couple of creepy dreams lately, and while I wasn’t really mad at my husband (my dream, after all), I was very upset. His affection and reassurance made me feel better. The dreams were very realistic and very scary in their way.
At this point, you may want to call her and apologize to her, acknowledging that you realize the dream was upsetting, and that you’re sorry you weren’t more supportive.
Something similar happened to me, I had a dream where my boyfriend (now husband) was getting married to someone else and asked me to help him get dressed. He even picked out a tie that I bought for him (which really pissed me off). Needless to say I was pretty cranky when I woke up and it took awhile before the rational part of brain took over and said ‘it’s just a dream you idiot, get over it’.
Just be snuggly with her tonight and everything will be OK.
Well I can understand it. I once dreamed that the kabbess ran off to America and married another man. I was smarting about that one for days.
OTOH a few weeks later I got a taste of my own medicine.
On both occassions we both actually found the whole situation rather funny.
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You think you’ve got it bad, spare a thought for this poor chap.
My mother wakes my father up at night frequently in order to yell at him for whatever he did in her dream. Fortunately, he wakes up slowly, so he often doesn’t remember the incident in the morning anyway.
That.
Is.
Fucking.
Brilliant.
Tears of laughter are currently in my eyes over that. Whoo!