I thought about putting this in IMHO but I know I’ll just be pitting nicely there so I’m dropping it off here.
This phrase drives me up a wall.
Unless its a close family member, and even then still, it just seems strange. Someone was in your dream. Fine. But to go to them and mention… Hey… My perception of you was just manifested into something you couldn’t control with your face on it… And now I’m going to tell you all about it.
Childish, if not just weird.
You know what? I had a dream about my boss last night (yeah, I spend too much time at work and have no life). I was looking for a sheet that had a staffing schedule on it and something was wrong… and it had something to do with people’s coats. Don’t ask me… It was a dream.
Anyway, my boss was there and he was sorta taking things of people, all sorts of things, and putting them in piles. He wasn’t all that happy either.
Am I going to go to him and say “Hey, I had a dream about you” and explain it? No. Why? Because that’s stupid. And he’d feel weird. And it meant nothing anyway. It was my brain having a fart that vaguely had to do with some stuff I do often at work, looking for paperwork.
Don’t do it. If anyone says that to me in my eyes they drop significantly in their ability to continue meaningful conversations with me. I will not go out of my way to talk to people who have said this.
lame pitting over.
While we’re pitting this, can we please pit the notion of being blamed for behavior displayed in someone else’s dream? My wife frequently blames me for not doing what she wants me to do in her dreams. I was supposed to ride in on the pink Pegasus and kill her boss with the Sword of Omens, but instead I went fetal with fear under a giant green toadstool. My fault. Totally.
Why? So you can tell them to lick your hairy nutsack?
I don’t find it strange when coming from someone I know really well. No, I wouldn’t tell my boss I had a dream about him. But you know, I also wouldn’t tell my boss that his sweater vests make him look like a douchenugget, even though they totally do.
Most of the time, friends tell me I was in a dream because I did something stupid/bizarre/funny, and they thought I might get a chuckle out of it. Then again, I don’t have any friends who think dreams actually mean something.
(I kid… I kid…)
To see why people want to do this. Its a minor thing (hence the “Lame Pitting Over” tag)… I’m not asking their belief on religion in schools or what they think about abortion so I’m not going to be screaming in caps. Why, exactly, do people think this is a “normal” thing to do?
People do this with their friends because, well, they’re friends and that’s what you do with them. You have stupid conversations about the most trivial things – including dreams.
/Shrug/. Why not? I don’t normally tell people about my dreams, but I don’t find it odd if people tell me about their’s. People tell me all kinds of stuff I’m not particularly interested in, why not tell me about their dreams?
Additionally, I can see how this might be used as a conversation starter if there is some ulterior motive. As in, “I think I’ll tell that hot chick in Marketing about the dream I had last night with her in it – then maybe she’ll fuck me.”
Maybe a little creepy, but no more than any other conversation starter, ala, “Hey I was thinking of you the other day,” or something like that.
I once dreamed I did a terrible thing to a friend of mine. I whipped a baseball as hard as I could at his knee, for no reason at all. This is something I could never even contemplate in waking life, to anybody, for any reason (only partly due to the fact that neither my aim nor my throwing arm would allow it).
In my dream he howled in agony and fell over, clutching his knee. I felt terrible about it in the dream and felt terrible when I woke up and I had trouble facing him the next day. I knew this was perfectly stupid of me, but as he would probably have noticed my awkward attitude towards him I had to tell him about the dream.
He still holds it against me, to this day. “I can’t believe you broke my knee! You’re such a cow!”
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In other cases, sometimes people do it for reassurance (“I dreamed that something horrible happened, are you okay?”), or because they think it’s funny or ironic (“In my dream you were doing this thing you’d never do in real life, isn’t that hilarious?”) or occasionally even because they suspect their dream revealed some knowledge that is not available to them but that you might have insight into.
None of these motivations make it any less uncomfortable for me to hear that I was in your damn dream last night. Unless you’re a close friend of mine and I quickly understand why you’re telling me about it, I don’t want to know.
Oh, 'cause I was gonna say, if you do, I totally had a dream about you last night…
Most people forget what they dream about, so I guess if you dream about a friend and actually remember it, it seems more significant. Even though they probably dream about friends all the time and just don’t remember.
I know better than to talk about my dreams, because the majority of the stuff that goes on comes from way out of left field. Og help us if my dreams mean something, because usually I dream about jumping on those caterpillars in the Forest of Illusion from Super Mario World or being chased by Godzilla.
Basic Dream Information; The people in your dreams usually do not represent the actual people. What they most often are is a representation of an idea, thought pattern or behavior that this person symbolizes to you on some level.
For example, a guy I used to know a long time ago appears to represent the worst aspects of undisciplined and selfish behavior in myself. My father appears to represent authority issues. My younger (and richer) sister appears to represent issues of abundance and having what I want in life. My older sister is a severe control freak, and when she (thankfully very rarely) appears, I know it’s about a control issue.)
Yeah, my psycho ex-wife used to, on occasion, cry and punish me because she dreamt of me doing something mean to her and then insisted that she was dreaming about me doing it because I was either going to do it or I was thinking about doing it. No, you psycho cunt, you dreamt about it because you are mentally ill and the dream was a representation of your fears of abandonment and/or betrayal. I had nothing to do with it other than to be your current object of affection. I’m quite sure that after we separated, your mother or daughter became the villain of these same dreams.
THespos’ wife has issues with him not doing what she wants. This is a control issue in their marriage and is basically IN HER HEAD. So it comes out like that in her dreams.
clayton_e has some sort of issue with his boss, probably a performance issue, and what the boss was piling up could be a clue to what he really thinks about the guy.
Hey I’m not laying on the couch right now. You might be one more new reason that I never tell people about my dreams.
Actually I like that boss and have to deal with him rarely. He’s either in his office or on another floor doing something 90% of the time. Generally one of several supervisors that doesn’t…
To friends or to bosses? I wouldn’t tell my boss (if I had one and she wasn’t my friend as well), but I might tell my friends. And I enjoy hearing about it from my friends if I make an appearance in their dreams. Maybe it’s the narcissist in me.
Like Chimera, I don’t think, most of the time, that the people in our dreams are themselves, I think they’re aspects of the dreamer, or archetypes in the dreamer’s drama. My friend Jean is a super-organized person. When I dream about her, I know I’m telling myself I need to get my act together about something, and so I can think about what balls I might be dropping and take care of it. I’ve got another friend, Joel, who I dream about when I’m feeling restricted and downtrodden. Joel is, to me, the apotheosis of independence and self-sufficiency. If I dream about him, it’s usually because I’m doing that Martyr Mom thing, and I need to take an afternoon to take care of myself.
Do Jean and Joel *need *to know about those dreams? Of course not. But they’re my friends, and sometimes I’ll share if it’s funny or seems insightful for me. I like to let them know when they’re an inspiration to me, just 'cause it seems right to let people know how they impact others.
Likewise, I’m fascinated with what I represent in my friends’ psyches and dreamstates. Unsurprisingly, it’s usually a mother figure of some sort, but occasionally it’s not. Once I was clearly the dreamer’s archetype of Beauty and Grace, which really moved me, as well as making me feel more confident the next time I danced in public. It made me consider a part of myself that I was projecting to the waking world and didn’t even know it. That’s kinda cool, no?
I had a girlfriend who got genuinely pissed at me for cheating on her in a dream once. Pretty cool girl most of the time but could be neurotic as fuck about weird little things like that.
I remember once with an ex-GF of mine. It was in the morning, we were both getting ready for work.
I’m trying to have polite conversation with my GF. Meanwhile she keeps answering me back with curt, pithy statements. Sometimes mumbling something under her breath.
It got so bad to where I finally had to ask her: “Is there any particular reason you’re being such a bitch to me today?” To which she responded “Yeah, you pissed me off in my dream last night.” :smack:
Also with my current GF just the other night. We’re both just waking up still laying in bed when I say to her:
Me: “Man, that was a fucked up dream I just had.”
Her: “Really? What was it?”
Me: “I dreamed that I had woke up and somehow while I was asleep you managed to move all my stuff, along with me, into your apartment! When I asked you WTF? You promtly told me that I’ll be living with you from now on. Oh, and also you flattened all the tires on my truck so I couldn’t go nowhere.”
