In my Mundane thread I started a thread expressing concern about my daughter and a little outrage about my granddaughters deadbeat Dad. Here’s my OP
I got several thoughtful responses and also this gem from Mosier I started to respond there but realized when I started to write that my honest response to his bullshit was being held back by the thread I was in. So, I decided to bring it to the PIt.
Yeah asshole! Now it includes FUCK YOU Mosier as well. Did you read the Op dipshit? The new boyfriend has two kids of his own he doesn’t support and no job. How much help do you think he could be Einstein? btw asshole, my granddaughter is not an it.
And yes I know where Dad number 1 is and I know he’s working full time at a decent job where he makes more money that my daughter does. He likes to spend his money on motorcycles, new rifles, and pot, so obviously he can’t really afford to help support his own flesh and blood. So fuck you and your chances are.
Yeah I’ve heard all the whiny shit from guys who think their child support is going to pay for things they don’t approve of. when I had concerns about that I picked my daughter up and took her shopping for schools clothes and other things she needed. The other portion went to pay for trivialities like food and a roof and heat.
What’s the matter. Are you feeling guilty?
Holy crap are you clueless!! If a child calls another guy Daddy it may be because he has earned it while absentee Dad can’t make the effort to do much more than feel sorry for himself.
I was paying child support for my daughter while her new step dad paid child support for his kids from a previous marriage. I paid because I had a moral obligation to help support **my own child ** you ass. The fact that her Mom remarried and found a decent guy with a good job does absolutely zero to absolve me{or any other Dad} from that moral responsibility. DO YOU FUCKING GET THAT?
Then you haven’t been around much. I’ve seen plenty of hard working Dads making payments and I’ve seen single Moms using that money just to make ends meet. If they can easily afford the basics of food and shelter then the money can go for music lessons or plenty of other items that enrich the child’s life. It’s outrageous about your friends Mom but that says nothing , abso fucking lutly nothing about the Dad’s responsibility to pay the money. If the Dad gave a shit he might have done something to fix the problem rather than just send impersonal checks and wash his hands of it. As I already explained, When I had concerns about my ex wife’s fiscal responsibility I spent the CS directly on things my daughter needed. What I didn’t do was use that as an excuse to stop paying.
Boo fucking hoo. Yeah that’s hard and it’s not his fault if he never knew the child existed. Even that doesn’t make him not responsible to help support his own flesh and blood. If you can’t bear the thought of supporting an accidental child and all the burdens that go with that then you’d better take every precaution to prevent pregnancy. Once again the fact that his child has a decent step dad and is in a stable home also nothing to relieve his parental fiscal responsibilities. The fact they considered adopting her, also nothing. Perhaps they use the money to build a college fund or perhaps they want a waterfall in their living room. Either way it doesn’t matter. It’s his child he should pay. Period.
Your friend might have used those payments and exercised his visitation rights to actually have a relationship with his own child. Did he? Did he even want to, or did he see that as just one more added burden?
And I’m saying get your head out of your ass and go get a clue. I know the system isn’t perfect. I have two friends here in town that pay outrageous CS based on incomes they no longer have. Yes it’s a real struggle but** not once ** would either of them suggest they shouldn’t have to pay.
Mother’s who abuse the system are out there but that’s not the issue at all. If a man thinks she’s not caring properly for his kids he can sue for custody.
All of that is completely fucking irrelevant. If the DNA shows its your flesh and blood then you have a moral obligation to help support that child. Nothing except that child’s 18 birthday or death relieves you of that. You buy less expensive cars and you have a lot less extra spending money but you suck it up and you meet your responsibilities like a fucking man.
Get a clue…fuckwit.