My first post to the SDMB!
anecdotal evidence only…
I am 4 years and 4 months sober (and counting) in Alcoholics Anonymous. I’m going to try to keep this brief.
My first experience with AA was as a teenager sometime in the mid 1980s. My initial impression was that AA is a bunch of bullshit. A bunch of people praying to a “higher power” to solve their alcohol problem? Yeah right! I’ve got much better things to do with my time. Needless to say I didn’t last long that first go around.
Over the years, I would show up at an AA meeting every now and then, usually when I was suffering from the ramifications of a really bad spree. The things that drove me to AA (Wife pissed as hell, threatened termination from my job, etc.) were never strong enough to overcome my strong objection to the AA method of recovery.
My first ultra-serious attempt to stop drinking came in 2000 when my wife left with the kids and made it clear that she would not be back unless I stopped drinking. I started looking at options for alcohol treatment. Much to my displeasure, I could not find anything in the entire Houston area, that did not use the twelve steps of AA as their primary means of recovery. Since I wanted nothing to do with AA, I began looking for my own solution.
I could write volumes on the things that I tried to stop drinking. Some were successful, at least initially. Unfortunately none of them lasted very long. I think the longest stretch of time I was able to go without drinking was about 2 months.
Things took a turn for the worst in 2003 when I was fired for drinking on the job, and my wife gave up hope that I would ever stop drinking and filed for divorce. She also filed a restraining order preventing me from having any contact with the kids.
I tripled my efforts, trying everything I could think of to not drink, or at least not have it cause severe problems when I did. Nothing I tried worked. I became basically a hermit, rarely venturing outside the house. During the 3 years from 2003 to 2006 I dried out many times, always swearing that it would be the last time, and unexplainably start drinking again in a very short amount of time.
This brings me to June of 2006, when, in absolute desperation, I sought out the help of AA once more. I looked at it differently. There were people in AA who were just as hopeless as I was but had managed to do what I could not. They were able to stay sober. This, at the very least, warranted some investigation on my part. I realized that I could not claim that the AA program didn’t work if I had never tried it.
So I stuck around. I got a sponsor and followed his advice, disregarding my thoughts on how ridiculous his advice seemed at the time. My last drink was on June 26, 2006.
So does AA work? I can answer that with a most emphatic YES!! I myself have begun working with newcomers in the AA program, and my observation is that those who unreservedly grasp the AA way of life, without exception, stay sober. Those that don’t may or may not have some success, but most if not all will eventually start drinking again.
Some observations from the group that I attend: We get 1 or two “newcomers” per week. Lets say on average that’s about 75 per year. Of those 75, only 5 to 10 will celebrate a year of freedom from alcohol. Even less will two years. That seems, on the surface, an absurdly low percentage of success.
But is that because AA doesn’t work? Or is it because alcoholism is such an overwhelmingly strong obsession of the mind that those who have never experienced it could not possibly understand?
I have experienced it. I know that alcoholism is a disease that places in the sufferer’s mind the obsession over everything else, including self preservation. Breaking it on the unaided will is absolutely impossible. I say that 5 to 10 out of 75 is an overwhelming success. It is also worth noting that only 5 to 10 out of 75 are desperate enough to be willing to disregard their own ideas of what a solution to their problem would entail.
Sorry this is so long.