My daughter’s just over 3, and suddenly having trouble going to sleep. She stalls and stalls, inventing new reasons to call mom&dad back into the room every night. (thirsty, hungry, itchy, potty, needs specific doll/stuffed animal, needs something moved or put away, more blanket, less blanket, more light, less light, bumped head/arm/leg on bed…) She constantly wants to sleep in mommy & daddy’s bed, and complains of “Bad dreams” but I’m not sure she really understands what that means, because she talks about them like they are physical objects. (“There are bad dreams on my pillow, right there next to Eeyore’s tail”) Even when she’s not calling for us, she’s awake in bed talking or singing to herself for hours after bedtime.
It’s obvious she’s just doesn’t want to go to sleep, possibly due to nightmares, but I’m not sure what’s causing it or what else to try. We did move (and change schools) about a month and a half ago, but she was fine after the move until recently.
She sleeps in a toddler bed, in a room shared with her 19 month old sister (still in a crib), with not one but two nightlights and one of these, and a cd player with lullabies. We have a nighttime routine of two stories and then bedtime, which worked fine until the past week or two.
We’ve tried discussing what good dreams she’ll have tonight and what she wants to dream about just before bedtime, hoping to leave her with happy thoughts to inspire good dreams. We’ve tried pushing her bedtime later, thinking maybe she needs less sleep now than her sister (they used to go to bed at the same time). We’ve tried casting a certain stuffed dog as a protector that will keep the bad dreams away. We’ve tried indulging her and shaking the bad dreams out of her pillow into the toilet and flushing them. We’ve tried talking about her feelings and why she won’t sleep in her bed (her answers boil down to “I have bad dreams in my bed”)
Any thoughts on what might be causing it and any other tactics to try?