So I am turning 30 soon. In my head I sort of expect a big deal present. When my GF of 3 years soon to be co-habitating asked me what I wanted I dropped not very subtle hints about what I want (Philadelphia Eagles tickets). So she went and looked at how much they cost and said no way, I couldn’t even afford the cheapest ticket for one of us. The cheapest ticket is about $200 each. Now I know that is a lot of money, over $500 for us to go just to get in the game. I also know that she COULD afford it if she wanted to. She has a lot of money saved up.
Some more background:
She is a student. I am not. I have a good job that pays decent money. On all of gift giving exchanges she comes out way ahead if you just look at it monetarily. She even got mad at me last Valentine’s Day because I bought her a new digital Camera (she got me nothing). So we discussed our gift giving habits. She is a lot more frugal then me and says she shows her love by doing things not by buying things. I admit that often show my love by buying things. However the things I buy are things she really wants and I feel it is both an emotional and really-good-present gesture.
This is fine by me. I understand the differences between our situations and gift giving habits. However she has spent $500+ on me for a birthday before (which totally shocked me and was completely unexpected but it wasn’t even my idea she came up with all on her own) and I feel that the 30th Birthday is that last big celebration moment for 20 years. As well she recently turned 25 and I bought her excellent tickets to go see Cirque in Vegas as well as a more traditional show and took her out to a very nice restaurant.
So how much of a jerk am I being by being somewhat hurt that she is choosing not to spend much on me for my 30th birthday and getting me just about the only present I really want?