I am aware of that, and I do hang out with my friends in college, but not all of my friends are in college. Visiting my high school a few times a year is the easiest way to see those of my friends who are still there in person. As I said, it’s not as if I go there for hours every day.
Having once been a 15 year old girl, I doubt her interest in him is going to last the 3 years it would be necessary to make sure he isn’t a statutory rapist.
And I agree, stay away. There are very few scenarios where this works out well for you.
It may not even be a felony now, depending on where this takes place. For instance, in a number of states you can marry someone under the age of eighteen with parental consent, even if the age of consent is eighteen. Under these conditions, you’re exempt from statutory rape charges.
The fact that a teenager is considered incapable of consenting to sex, but with parental support can get married is a little disturbing, IMO.
I could have probably told you this from the start. There are some girls out there that are just waaaaay too outgoing and naive. Jumping into your arms after only knowing you for 6 hours should have been a clue.
Not really dangerous for you since you’re an adult and see it for what it is.
It is dangerous for her however since one of these times she’s going to get the wrong guy who has the wrong idea about her and either tells her off for being such a tease when it doesn’t go his way or does something worse and takes advantage of her.
I still don’t think of myself as an adult, and I didn’t see it for what it was, I didn’t know what it was, and I consulted people whom I thought would. And I agree, she’ll be lucky if this doesn’t hurt someone down the line.
As a long-time teacher of teenage girls, college guys are like Nirvana. She’ll crush on you for a while, then move on to someone more her own age. It happens. And college-age kids come back to our high school all the time – it’s great to catch up on what’s going on their lives. Just be polite and hands-free. This too shall pass.
I was in a similar situation with a 16-year-old. I just avoided and ignored her and eventually she gave up. She didn’t actually stalk me, but she somehow got my number and address, and started leaving gifts at my door.
I don’t know- just in case you come in contact with one, you should wear high-waisted pants, a polyester shirt and prosthetic shoes. They’re known to wither in the face of uncoolness.
I teach high school. I’m also a member of the school’s security and safety committee. I’ve been at this since 1985.
You need to stay away from that high school in general and her in particular.
Really.
If you need a transcript or something, that’d be different. You’re just going to “visit your friends.”
Visit them at their homes.
The school is absolutely-fucking-not there as a place for a college sophomore to keep his social life vital.
You have no real business there.
If you were coming to my school, you’d long since have been told to get on with your life.
TEEN GIRL answers her front door.
GIRL: Hello?
QUAGMIRE: How old are you?
GIRL: Sixteen.
QUAGMIRE: Eighteen?
GIRL: Mom!
QUAGMIRE: I like where this is going. Heh, all-right!
Not to mention, teenage girls do tend to have irrational crushes without any intent at an emotional or sexual relationship. Sometimes these will be cute actors or musicians, or sometimes they will be people in their lives who are, or at least appear to be, completely unattainable. I think it could be a bit frightening to a 15-year-old if this kind of playful flirting were actually responded to emphatically.
She is like that with everyone? Really??? Jumping up on and wrapping her legs around men? That is a bit odd. She may have some issues then. I would avoid her at all costs.
I agree with everyone who said you probably shouldn’t be hanging around the H.S. either, unless you are there for a specific reason.
When I was about your age I went back to my old H.S. to observe some teachers, and do some clinical work. I have a teaching degree. I was very professional, and even though I still knew a lot of the kids, I didn’t fraternize with them while I was there.
Maybe it’s just my high school, but I distinctly remember when I was a senior there were people that were seniors MY freshman year (and older) returning to visit the school. They were there to visit friends from younger classes as well as old teachers. I don’t really see anything wrong with it.