This is pathetic. Lock your door or yell at the people that barge in. How fucking hard to do is that? You are a senior in college, and you can’t solve this little problem? Good lord.
I’m at CTM “A” school at Naval Technical Training Center Corry Station, and since we’re mostly a “Training” command, our quarters are mostly set up like dorms.
In my particular Barracks, (“The Ghetto”) it’s set up into suites. One Lounge w/tv, 4 bedrooms with bathrooms. 4 Sailors to a Bedroom.
In my particular suite, when you enter it, the door has a tendency to slam unless you take 5 secs to ease it close.
Which everyone forgets to do. Every Damn time they enter/leave the suite.
It doesn’t matter if it’s 0230 and I have watch in 4 hours, no, whoever it is is in to much of a rush to take the 5 seconds to ease it shut.
And yes, this does appear to be a unique phenomeon. (“p-h-e…” fuck it.) One of my buddies in the next suite over was in my room a couple of nights back, and he comment how loud our door was. It could be heard in his suite.
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Hey Lamia
I’m a freshie in a hall with a bunch of other freshies. I’d just like to let you know that we’re not all bad-mannered and rude like your hallmate. We’re a civilized bunch, for the most part.
Oh yeah, forgot to mention that I live on an all-girls floor. So when I say we’re a civilized bunch, I’m not speaking for college guys, who I have found so far in this semester to be a bunch of crazy animals.
When I knock on people’s doors, and they do not answer, I take the logical approach and assume they are not there so I find something else to do. Seems practical to me.
However, there is this one girl on my floor who has decided she wants to learn how to play the recorder. She practices constantly. She plays fucking ‘Mary Had a Little Lamb’ over and over and over and over . Loudly.
Drives me and the roommates fucking crazy, but I’m afraid to say anything because I don’t want to be the crazy bitch that runs up and down the hall yelling “Shut up, guys! SHUT UP! EVERYBODY SHUT UP!!”
sigh Just grin and bear it, I guess. Annoying hallmates are just a part of the college experience.
Jesus, when did the SDMB become populated by a bunch of spineless appeasing weaklings? Someone wants to learn to play the recorder, you tell them to find a fucking practice room. You do not have to put up with this level of torture. Loud music on Friday night? Grin and bear it, maybe. “Mary had a Little Lamb” on a recorder? Over and over? No fucking way. That is utter bullshit. It is like a vision straight out of hell.
Maybe it reminds people of King Zog of Albania. 
I am perfectly capable of formulating the thoughts “I must either tell this girl off or keep my door locked at all times” – you may observe that they are in my OP. But I am loath to pursue either path. I don’t expect you to understand this, as I think I am safe in assuming that you are not a woman living in an all-female environment and don’t appreciate the culture that goes along with my living arrangements, but That Is Not The Way We Do Things Around Here.
I have long been considered a bit of an over-cautious eccentric for locking my door at night and whenever I leave the hall. I might be willing to become known as The Crazy Girl Who Keeps Her Door Locked Even When She’s In Her Room During The Day, but I do not want to be forced to fiddle with my rather sticky deadbolt every time I want to get a drink of water from the fountain just outside my door. I’ll do it if I have to, but I don’t want to, and you’d better believe that if it ever comes to that I’ll be complaining about it to anyone who gives me the opportunity.
I will also call people out when I have to, but I don’t enjoy doing it. I especially do not enjoy doing it to first years. They don’t take it well. I know this girl won’t take it well, because she’s awkward and doesn’t have many friends and probably only comes to bother me in the first place because I have thus far been nicer to her than most other people. If she throws open my door one more time I will need to have a talk with her, but I’m certainly not looking forward to it.
As an aside to SpasticKitty, the best thing you could do would probably be to go over to Recorder Girl’s room the next time she starts up with “Mary Had a Little Lamb”, tap on her door, and when she answers politely say, “Could you keep it down a little? I’m trying to study/sleep right now.” If one time doesn’t give her the hint, try it a couple more times – not every time she starts up, but when it really gets annoying or when you really are trying to study/sleep. If three requests or so don’t do the job you probably will just have to either put up with it or complain to your RA.
Not trying to malign the culture of your college or anything, but that is really weird. Especially the part about you having a reputation as a weirdo for locking your door when you’re asleep.
Is there no theft where you live? Does no one ever stumble home drunk and grab the wrong doorknob and wake you up? Is there no one you wouldn’t appreciate an insensitive 3 AM visit from? Even if I lived in an all-female dorm at a women’s college in an all-female utopia I think I’d still lock my door before going to sleep.
You are quite safe in your assumption. 
IMHO the “Way [You] Do Things Around [There]” is bizarre. Strong fences make for good neighbors.
Wrong! Wrong! Wrong! Fuck being polite, you bang on the bitch’s door in a violent manner and demand some fucking silence. Do not let this recorder wench walk all over you. People who aspire to playing the recorder are bound to respect intimidation, it is a law of nature.
College dorm resident at California State University-Monterey Bay got raped not so long ago. She had left her door unlocked and some moron had propped the firedoor open.
Almost none. Some people have had things disappear from the laundry room, but anything beyond that is extremely unusual and inevitably the source of lengthy letters to the school newspaper.
Nope. There are a couple of halls on campus with a “party floor” reputation where I suppose such things might happen, but I don’t live on those halls for a reason.
There are people I wouldn’t appreciate a 3 PM visit from, but with the exception of the girl I wrote the OP about people don’t go barging into other people’s rooms if the other person has their door closed. It just doesn’t happen. Everyone here who I’ve mentioned my little problem to has been stunned, some even more so than I was to actually experience it.
I lock my door at night and when I go out because that was the way I was raised. We always locked the exterior doors to our house at night and when no one was at home. Plenty of girls around here never lock their doors though, and many only lock them when they are out. I think this is a bit foolish, but people generally feel safe here, and with good reason.
To Monty, I must say I am a little surprised to see it not only suggested that I keep my door locked when I am in my own room during the day, but warned about being raped if I do not. I very much doubt that a man in a similar situation would be warned about being raped because of it. I have a pretty darn good idea of how secure I am here and what safety measures are reasonable. I’m not going to let you or anyone else turn me into some terrified shut-in because there is a remote possibility that a strange man might sneak onto campus in broad daylight, burst into my room, and overpower me despite my struggles and screams for help from the other girls living just feet away.
I know what you mean, Lamia…when you’re in the dorms, you’re kind of living on each other. Or…you know. Not exactly the “sexy sorority” stuff, guys, but it gets intimate.
But I don’t see what’s wrong with locking your door. My roommate and I always do it when we’re out or asleep…we got it drilled into us on the second day of orientation.
It doesn’t have anything to do with fear of rape- (the all female dorms, remember? :)), more with fear of my laptop or my money getting lifted.
That’s right. People are always going over to each other’s rooms to chat or watch TV or borrow stuff…but most people respect a closed door.
Speaking of sexy sorority stuff, I did open my door one day to find a first year wearing a complete Frederick’s of Hollywood outfit standing there staring a the picture of Lucy Lawless I have taped up outside my room. But in four years here that’s the most Penthouse Forum-esque thing that’s ever happened to me. (The girl did also have a towel covering what must have been the skimpiest part of her outfit, although mentioning that fact kind of spoils the story, doesn’t it?)
As do I. I think it’s the smart thing to do. But plenty of girls around here don’t, and few have ever had anything remotely bad happen because of it. One girl I knew had her room TP’ed by some rather stupid friends, and a couple of years ago there was a laptop theft…that’s about it.
Oh, drop dead, you moronic fool, Lamia. Where did I even warn that you’re in danger of being raped. What are you doing in college when you can’t parse a simple sentence?
Okay, now that I’ve gotten that out of my system, here’s the real deal:
My point is that you are now in an environment much of which is not subject to your control. There are people in the building you very well may have never seen. Some of these people (and some of the people you’ve seen) might not be as enlightened as you are regarding dormitory living. Some of these people might do things which allow the occasional perpetrator to galavant through your space if you don’t take the necessary precautions. Your best insurance is to use the lock provided on the dorm door. I related that bit above about the student in Monterey because there is a whole gamut of crimes to be done if you don’t take care of yourself.
Since you don’t intend to take care of yourself, to heck with you.
Good grief! Overreact much? You owe Lamia an apology for that.
Bolding mine.
I’m not the OP, Monty, but maybe this is where she got the idea that you were warning her against the possibility of being raped if she doesn’t lock her door?
Tain’t my fault the fool can’t read. I owe no apology. BTW, “drop dead” is a euphemism used by those who actually know the English language. It’s not an actual wishing along the lines of “I wish you were dead.” It’s a euphemism with a meaning akin to “Shut up, moron.” As it is, I wasn’t telling her “You’re about to get raped, so lock the damn door.” I was telling her that there are criminals out there.
Including criminals who take advantage of an unlocked dorm-room door, which was one of the (albeit lesser) points in the OP and a hashed and re-hashed point in the thread, thus perhaps why you emphasized it in your post and Lamia took that to be a warning against her (in)action regarding locking her door?
Yes you do. But I don’t know if I’d be able to understand it even if you did offer one, not because of any reading deficiency on my part, but because you apparently have difficulty expressing yourself clearly in writing.
“Jiffing the choosy mom” is the coolest masturbation euphemism ever.