Yeah. Because everyone knows being the fat kid in school is an automatic ticket to high self esteem and popularity. :rolleyes:
Get a clue!
Someone who singles out defenseless kids like that is not a “really sweet person.”
Right, because those are the only two options, clearly. Either shame all overweight children in front of their peers, or be faced with a society filled with blubbering fatties that burst into tears every time someone cuts them off in traffic.
Leaving his porch light off and not giving out anything: Acceptable.
Giving everyone non-candy treats (pencils or toothbrushes or whatever): The kids won’t like it, but still acceptable.
Giving larger quantities of the same treat to kids with better costumes: Acceptable.
Putting out two bowls, one labeled as being sugar-free, and letting kids choose which one to take from: Acceptable
Giving different treats to different kids based on his perception of their weight: Not acceptable.
Besides, it’s not like the fat kids are fat because of a once-a-year splurge: Moderation in all things, after all, including moderation. If he really wanted to do something about the obesity epidemic, he’d be giving lessons to the parents on how to cook healthily.
From what I’ve heard talking to people who are overweight/used to be, I don’t think protecting fat kids is an issue. They’re made aware of it pretty often.
And kids who are made to cry don’t necessarily grow up into skinny adults. If shaming people for being fat worked, we’d have a much skinnier population than we do. You might just wind up with angry, bitter fat people.
In my day we got beatings at every household! You could hardly get out “trick or treat” before getting a cosh across the noggin!
There is no chance the kids would have connected one getting sugar-free candy to their weight. If they had gone and gotten candy from that house multiple times, maybe.
Huh?
Skinny kid 1: “What did you guys get? I got a Snickers bar.”
Skinny kid 2: “I got a Mars bar.”
Skinny kid 3: “Mars for me too.”
Fat kid: “Uh…”
Skinny kid 1: “Uh what? Mars or Snickers, dude?”
Fat kid: “Uh, it’s a sugar-free peanut butter cup.”
Yeah, they certainly won’t put that together.
First off, the OP said he didn’t make it obvious who got what if there was a group. At the bottom of a bag filled with candy, it’s unlikely the fat kid notices the sugar-free candy surrounded by other stuff. And even if he did, it’s more likely the response is, “that sucks” rather than “holy shit, that jackass gave me sugar free candy because I’m fat!”. I gave out the good stuff, but the fun-sized Twix are considerably smaller. I didn’t hear a single kid complain as they walked away. Kids want to know what they got, they don’t compare nearly as much as people in this thread are suggesting they do. Mainly because they’re more focused on the next house than anything else.
I know kids are really bad at statistics, but correlation is not causation (even when it is).
It’s not going to be at the bottom of a bag full of candy. It’s going to be right at the top, and it’s going to be discussed as the kids walk away from the house. That’s what kids do at Halloween. You go to a house with your friends, you get candy, and on the way to the next house, you compare what you got. You don’t close your eyes while the person puts candy in your bag and then shake it up immediately like a bingo ball machine.
And if you really think the message isn’t going to be completely obvious when all the skinny kids get real candy and the fat kid got the sugar-free chocolate, I think you’re severely underestimating how perceptive most kids are.
Can we all agree that the results of this person’s effort are as follows?
The fat kids are still fat.
Yeah, this is a useful approach.
It’s fucking Halloween. No matter how fat you are, it’s like Christmas or Thanksgiving - a free pass. Or will his overweight relatives be denied pumpkin pie and forced to eat the lean meat on Turkey Day?
Work on your reading comprehension.
Did I somehow claim those were the only two options? Just saying that I know which of the two I’d choose. I think from the tone in this thread most people would choose the other.
Fat kids are shamed by peers. Kids are cruel and pretty much shame everyone in one way or another. It’s pretty much meaningless.
My issue is with adults who know better taking the easy way out. It’s hard to make a kid feel bad, you want to protect them, but it isn’t always in their best interest. Parents over react to any slight to a child under all circumstances, it’s not teaching children the right things. Sometimes lessons are hard, and the hard ones tend to stick. As I said, this isn’t the time or the place to teach that lesson, but the overriding theme in this thread seems to tend towards never teaching that lesson if it means a kid gets his feeling hurt.
Say, what’s this doing in the Game Room, anyway? Reporting for move.
I did so hours ago. Apparently guess if you’re fat based on the candy you are given is a new mod game. 
No, the overriding theme in this thread is if childhood obesity is the hill you want to die on, do us all a favor and pick a way to showcase your message that doesn’t make you look like an ass and also actually have a snowball’s chance in hell of making a difference. Kids trick or treat as young as 4 and 5. If they’re pudgy at that age, the parents are really the ones you need to be talking to, not the kids. And if they’re older, unless they’re living under a rock, they are aware that sugary candy is bad for your health in large amounts. If you really care about children’s health, work with the public school system to create lunches that are healthy and nutritious so that all the kids can be sure of getting at least one balanced meal once a day every day. Get involved with a youth sports program and help kids learn to replace sedentary habits with more active ones. It’s more work but you get the bonus of actually decreasing worldsuck instead of adding to it.
Yeah, so did I. I’m waiting for my candy.
I think you’re the only one trying to make this a two-option choice. Here’s what I would pick: Neither. I bet that’s what most of the people in this thread would also choose.
Not so fast … what’s your BMI? 
How is it OK to give kids with better costumes more candy? I mean, I remember growing up I had some really dinky costumes. It wasn’t cause I didn’t want to participate - it’s cause my mom literally spent her last $10 on us so we could ‘dress up’ for the night. We were lucky if she could afford face paint. One year she bought us a bag of candy instead. Looking back, I think she figured a $3 bag of cheap candy was cheaper than two costumes.