Okay so not so much a friend as an acquaintance gave candy to the kids trick or treating based on weight! Yes as in a heavier child got a sugar free candies baggie. Those he felt were within weight limits got the normal bag of mini Kit Kats, assorted candies.
He passed them out from a bag and he said he didn’t make it obvious if a group came to his house. So was it rude? None of his business? Or was what he did a benefit to society?
My opinion is he should have just passed out the sugar free candies to all the kids, to not do so was rude and if the kids noticed, even ruder. It wasn’t his place to do so.
That was my first comment to him as well. In the effort for full disclosure, I called him an ignorant dick, and had I been a parent of a heavier child and a lighter child and I seen it I may have been tempted to buy the eggs and toilet paper myself.
Oh I believe it happened, he is that kind of person. Nosy, I just went back to work after the issues I discussed in another thread. And first thing he did was “interrogate me” He has on more than one occasion shown himself to be up in others business as his right. :smack:
The problem is many of his concerns may be legitimate he has in my time of knowing him always went beyond the reasonable to the unreasonable in handling them. Or thinking he should. One day our paper did an editorial on the fake shopping receipt with lobster etc bought using food stamps with the header a local store. He used that as an example of “Why when I see that I say something and one time I called welfare with the persons license plate”
I am directing him to this thread tomorrow, not because I want to cause problems but because he straight out told me and two others in the room that “most people not in this closeminded town” would understand he did it to help the kids.
Have you ever gone trick-or-treating? Or taken kids on such a venture? There’s no way they wouldn’t realize it in any mixed-weight group, and it’s likely the heavier kids got teased.
Sugar free candies are sweetened with maltitol, which has a laxative effect and can also cause a tummyache. I’m a full grown adult and have to be particularly careful with it - I’ll let my (11 year old) daughter eat some of my sugar free goodies at times, but only a bite or two. A kid naturally isn’t going to be able to handle as much as an adult so it would probably take only 1 or 2 pieces to make them sick. So yeah – some of those kids may very well have had to stay home from school today. (No way to tell for sure, of course, but it’s certainly not out of the realm of possibility.)
I repeat - he’s a douchebag, and a cruel one at that.
Yeah, SF candies can cause serious intestinal distress. I won’t let my kids have anything with sugar alcohols in them because of this. Your friend is an asshole. And what is he, the weight police? What next, a little scale that the kids can get on before he dispenses his Twix bars? “Sorry, but little Jimmy’s BMI is .75 over what’s considered acceptable for his age. Nice Dracula costume, though!”
I can get behind calling him an"asshole," but I don’t think he was rude. He’s giving out candy. He can give out whatever he wants. He didn’t make a big show about it so who cares.
There is no reason every kid shouldn’t get the same candy. Let their parents decide what’s appropriate. It doesn’t matter whether he made a show of it or not, he was discriminating.
On a side note, I gave out candy based on costume. Every kid got 2 pieces of candy unless they had a really great costume, then they got 4 pieces and a compliment.
Not to mention that sugar alchohols still are nutritive sweetners, so while they might only have 2 or 3 calories per gram as opposed to the 4 found in sugar, there’s still a decent calorie load in them.
The main advantage to sugar alcohols is you get a sugar-like sweetness without the off-flavor common to artificial sweetners and without the blood sugar spike of sugars. It’s why the Atkins produced foodstuffs used them extensively. They didn’t count as “net carbs”.
It’s possible to be rude while doing something nice (i.e. giving out candy) and, as others have noted, there’s a pretty good chance that the the kids will compare candy and notice that one got diet candy while the others didn’t, whether he made a big show of it or not.
The guy sounds like a dick, and he’s apparently terrible at picking his battles, but lets end this idiotic “protect the children” meme. Fat kids don’t need to be further coddled and told they are special in their own way. They are part of a serious public health epidemic, a completely preventable one. Awareness is step one in the right direction. I’d rather we started raising skinny adults who were made to cry a several dozen times growing up as opposed fat adults who were shielded from any insensitivity like this.
This guy probably should find more productive ways to spend his energy and Halloween is a time where a little indulgence is justified, but lets stop pretending that being fat is acceptable amongst children.