Not that we need any more black marks on Kal’s reputation, but did he start the LTR with Amy while he was still married?
I’m confused by your title, Mississippienne. I don’t see any friends described in your OP.
Did you ever confirm Amy actually has cancer (that you’re not supposed to mention) or did you just take the liar’s word for it?
32-year-old named “Kal” – is it possible that he’s suffering the effects of red kryptonite?
I’ll be the voice of disagreement here. If you were Amy, wouldn’t you want to know the truth? I sure as hell would.
Quickly gonna try to answer all the questions. As to whether Kal was with Amy while he was still married: I don’t know. He was separated from his wife for about a year and a half before the divorce was final, and I assume they got together during that time period.
As for whether Amy really has cancer, I addressed that in my OP. I heard her having an involved conversation with her doctor about it (to be fair to me, she began the conversation while riding in the car with me, so I could hardly have not listened in). I believe she does have cancer. As for telling her, I have considered it. However, I’m not sure she would even believe me, and I don’t want to give Kal any excuse to get angry with me. I think he will bring himself down without my help.
Wow that’s a special flavor of special that one doesn’t come across that often, or at least I’ve been lucky enough not to. Glad you managed to avoid further entanglement.
I think your presence might have sent some red flags up for Amy. I’m sure you covered your surprise (at the surprises) well, but I’m also sure her girlfriend radar was heightened a bit. I’m also almost sure (I’m making a lot of stuff up in my head ;)) that Amy was the one who did the background check.
I do think you called it and saw douchenozzle for what he is. Good job getting out!
That’s a tough call on what to do about Amy - I think you should let your guiding principle be, what’s best for her? It’s hard to imagine that having this piece of crap in her life is good for her, but he might be.
Good for you for leaving - I wouldn’t have lied for him, and deleting him from your life is the right thing to do. What a piece of work he is.