I’ve known him for about 9 years. I’ll call him L. We’ve never been close friends, but we’ve hung out etc more than once. Since I’ve gotten married and had children I’ve seen much less of him. Plus, his behavior is getting odd. L’s always been a little socially inept, so talking to him has been awkward usually. L never seemed to get the hang of conversation or the casual ripping that guys do.
L lost his job a few years ago and complained that no one there liked him and there was some well-disguised anti-Semitism (he is Jewish ;j ). L’s had his current job for several years now and has similar complaints about his co-workers. But now it’s getting weirder and more extreme. L was also diagnosed as diabetic in the past few years, if that makes a difference.
L has mentioned that he’s replaced the locks on his house because he knows someone has been entering it while he’s been at work or night while he sleeps. L’s bought three pistols and is getting quite good with them. The green jeeps have disappeared from his rear view mirror. A mutual aquaintance told me L mentioned the jeep thing and that someone’s been breaking into his house and watering down his insulin. This guy started to laugh, but L said it’s not a laughing matter.
I haven’t talked to him in a few months and he emails about lunch. I met him today. Everthing was perfectly normal. We were at Hooter’s so we argued over which waitress was the cutest and talked about my kids kids and his job etc. Normal stuff. Then he mentions that the jeeps are gone and something about slumlords searching the tax records and executing people who can’t pay. And the guns come up too. Then <blink>, back to “regular” conversation.
Somehow I need to ask him about this stuff, but I don’t know how. I want to help him before it gets too bad (will it get worse?) and he hurts himself or someone else. And I have a family that I worry about and I don’t want to get caught up in anything and get shot up in a rampage. I can’t force him into anything since he’s an adult (he’s about 40), and I don’t want him turn on me. I’m not sure who else he’s close to, I’m going to try and track down one woman I know he was friends with, maybe try and get his parent’s name in New York, see if they can offer assistance. I want to help but I don’t want to, and can’t, get myself too entangled in this.