You know, I didn’t want to jump to this extreme, but I had the same thought. I think it was the book The Murder Room that made the peeping tom - rapist connection. I doubt this is the case, but if it were me, I would have my guard up.
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Going for thrice with “stroked my ego”?? Subtle.
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You’ll get your comeuppance if you think I’m going to toss one off for your self satisfaction.
Wow, the mood of this thread took a real turn for the worse once some flesh was put on the personality bones of the panty sniffer.
I think it might be prudent to seriously limit any further contact with this friend, Crime Scene.
The funny thing about alcohol and substance abuse, even mental disorder, is that it ends up spreading misery to the entire circle of people around the original abuser. I would put some serious distance between myself and this (now) obviously sick individual. You, your wife, and your home have all become involved in the misery already.
The OP’s wife should attend Nicks wedding…instead of throwing rice at the newly weds as they descend the church steps (which is now frowned upon because birds eat it, and it later expands inside the birds stomach, killing the birds) - the OPs wife should throw soiled panties at the new bride and groom…Fair’s fair, as Cary Grant often said.
PS I mentioned in another thread, about the alcoholic girl I was dating yrs ago, who led the state police on a high speed chase with a 0.33 BAC…she spent a weekend in jail for that…her cell mate was somewhat of a celeb…very pretty young lady, who was awaiting trial for murdering her husband, who was a well known lawyer…there was a book about this case, as well as a movie, with her being played by one of the actresses from Charlies Angels. Long story short, she became a very devout Christian (seems awaiting a possible death sentence tends to have that affect on incarcerated people), and she “saved” my GF. We stayed in touch via letters and phone calls (she got 60yrs)…I broke up with the GF, but stayed in touch with the woman in prison…one day I open an 8.5 by 11 yellow envelope from the state prison, and in it were a pair of her black lace panties, even thou I never requested them, or knew they were being mailed…for other reasons, I stopped writing & accepting her calls after this.
So FYI even devout Christian women, seem to think men like putting their banana in their Banana Republics, having some DIY fun with with their DKNY’s, and having his way with her Hanes Her Ways.
I’ve read the entire thread to this point, thanks, and am getting the strong sense that Crime Scene is more worried about propping up his buddy than about protecting his home and family.
For those worried about “fucking up this guy’s life”, I think that guy’s already done that himself. The OP didn’t make him act like this. The OP did not make him jerk off with his wife’s panties. If people find out, so be it. And anyways, I’m guessing that Baron Von Creepstein will mostly likely fuck things up for himself sooner or later.
So why is it the OP’s responsibility to protect him from his own actions?
Agreed…but it was too bad that the CS didn’t strike while the iron was hot. But I am glad that a lot of posters here aren’t judges, IRL.
Well, this pretty much seals the deal. Sounds like the guy won’t even make it 8 months, wedding or no wedding. He has much bigger problems than just being creepy…and his fiancee sounds like an off-celebrity death pool candidate as well.
It’s beginning to look like the only option here to keep the wife, and your relationship stable. Buy her a new collection of panties and have a private burning of the old collection with some chocolate and roses in hand. Apologize again for being slow on the reporting of events…you’re were a little too slow on processing and action regarding your friend and next time (like as if there would even be a next time), you know exactly what you would do.
The truly fucking scary thing is this: They are actively trying to have a child. Neither one of them is in the spiritual, emotional, or financial shape to adopt some shelter dogs, let alone rear a child. They are both looking forward to it. Also, she is only 23 years old, he is 28. This isn’t a huge age gap I realize, but I am a completely different person from who I was at 23, now being 29. Those are very formative years after college that kind of give a good insight as to where your life is going to head. She is about to graduate with a degree in biology with massive student loan debt. He has an art degree with $65,000 in student loans. Did I mention he started school in 2003 and graduated in 2011? If you did the math, don’t do it again, you had it right, 8 years to get a 4 year degree.
You’ve expressed more anxiety about screwing up your “buddy”'s train-wreck of a life than about protecting your wife from a potential predator. You were very reluctant to even inform her of the violation committed against her, and certainly don’t seem averse to having him around her, because your other friends might gossip if you take action to keep him away from her.
Don’t be silly, of course it means something. In your case, you had twins which slowed you down. Buddy here was a raging alcoholic, which slowed him down.
It means something when it takes you eight years to graduate when you are responsible for nothing other than yourself and live like a rock star on private loans.
How have I not protected her? He hasn’t been to my home since, I ultimately told her, and I have no plans to allow him around in the future. Seems to me as if I put the ball into her court decision wise. Just because I deliberated on a course of action does not mean I did not have my wife’s interests/safety in mind.