I met her two months ago. We clicked from the start and have become fairly close. She has shown a lot of interest in making things “romantic” between us. When we met, she was dating a friend of mine. He was very into her and I suspect that she ditched him in an attempt to get at me. I’ve told her that I’m not interested in anything with her beyond friendship for primarily this reason.
Though funny and interesting, this girl is a piece of work. She has always seemed to have some pain and emotional baggage lurking right below the surface. Friends who have known her for much longer consider her slightly “crazy”. She is regular weed smoker, uses cocaine (as far as I know, only occasionally), and knows no moderation when she drinks. She has “always” had a boyfriend and had, from her telling, “a lot” of sexual partners.
Last night, I showed up at a party and she was already fairly smashed. The moment I sat down, she began whispering that she really needed to talk. We stepped outside and after a struggle to compose herself she told me she has been diagnosed with cervical cancer a “few weeks ago”. She insists that I’m the only person that understands her, that listens to her, that she can talk to. I asked her what the next step was. She was distraught and did not really know. She hasn’t been back to a doctor. She is, I think, still on her parent’s medical insurance. She is deathly afraid to face her parents with the news (they know nothing of her promiscuous partying ways). I insisted that she needs to sit down with a doctor and hammer out a plan of action. She is not a logical thinker and definitely was not thinking logically last night.
So, I am going to be talking to her soon. I believe she is capable of some serious manipulation, and I’m skeptical for that reason, but there is no way I can treat this as anything but real.
How should I advise her? Obviously, she needs to be getting medical attention NOW. How to go about getting her there if she can’t/won’t do it alone? I assume the doctor who diagnosed her would be obligated to remain in contact, is this correct? It seems that he would have already had the ‘this is what’s going on, here’s how we’re going to beat it’ game plan talk with her but maybe not. I assume distraught young cancer patients are not uncommon. Are there counselors devoted to helping patients like her through the process?
Augh! A million questions. Any advice is appreciated.
Edit: Also, my friend she dated was exposed to HPV, it would seem. What to do on this front?