I’m pretty sure I’m about to express my ignorance to everyone right now, so please bear with me. I was listening to Love Lines yesturday (see, pretty stupid already), and they said that in a recent survey, it was concluded that less then 50% of gay men engage in anal sex (they were saying around 35% or so).
Okay, being a straight male in today’s society, I always thought that part of being a gay man was engaging in anal sex. One of my jobs has a fairly large amount of gay men working there, and they often make jokes and comments about butt lovin’, but it’s not something they go into great description over, so as far as I can tell, my previous assumption was right. Are there any gay males out there who do not, for some reason or another aside from “I can’t get any,” do not engage in anal sex, or is this “survey” a complete and utter crock?
I’m not overly fond of anal sex, either giving or receiving. It’s just not um… up my alley. I much prefer oral.
I also had the misconception that to be gay you had to enjoy anal, and that limited my sex life for a long time. But it’s true; anal isn’t imperative. Passion is.
(Of course, there is one odd side effect… Because I don’t enjoy being on top much, I tend to last forever in that position. Which makes my partner very happy…)
I would say the survey is more or less accurate, from my experience.
And remember, if you ask for TMI, you’ll get TMI around these parts…
There are quite a few gay men who don’t care for anal all that much. I don’t get off that way, so I can take it or leave it. I much prefer oral. My partner is a total bottom, so I do it to please him, then I, uh, take matters into my own hands to conclude business.
Rimming, however, is something I enjoy (both giving and receiving) very much.
In my opinion … i do like anal sex but not that much. I’m a versital top and i do get off on being on the top position but form time to time i get the erge to get fucked. not to say every gay man is like this but this only one mans opinion. I know plenty of men who are completely top and bottom… i would think however the percentage thing isnt correct cause there r alot of men out there that have a wide range of pleasure…like me… where situation dictates what ur up to doing …hope that answers u ? …but if not fell fre to responed and i’ll be glad to chat about it … ttfn Baltotop
Like my gay brethren previously having chimed in, I’m not a huge anal fan. If it happens and we’re into it, then fine, top or bottom’s OK with me, but I prefer other activities.
Some of the respondents to this survey (which, given that the host of Loveline has been a big phobe the few times I’ve heard him address gay issues, I don’t put a lot of stock in) may refrain from anal sex as a safer sex measure but in an HIV-free universe would b.f. like queer bunnies (or, per last week’s news, gay penguins).
Gee, in our rigorously screened survey of…um…five, we have unanimity!
For me it’s a trust thing. I find the sensation of getting fucked incredible (read Dan Savage–or rent a Bend Over Boyfriend tape–to learn more about straight guys who are into being penetrated), but getting from here to there takes a lot of trust in between. It’s not something I do easily. And since I’m not gonna give very easily, I’m not one to take very quickly either.
But in homo heartland of Chelsea, NYC, my (our?) view’s something of an exception. Lots of guys out there do it on the first date and love it.
The problem is–it’s not something I’m well-suited for, physiologically. I’m too…ermm…how to put it…‘tight’. Which makes it very difficult to get relaxed enough to find it enjoyable.
I’m not a big fan or oral sex, either. But it’s like the poster above me said–passion is the true key. Where there is love–there are ways of showing affection.
